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This past weekend my partner and I were out and enjoying NY, we went to Prohibition and then across the bridge to Metropolitan because a friend recommended it. A VGL guy walks up and starts putting the moves on my partner. Compliments, a LOT of flirting (which Iain admittedly reciprocated)

VERY Funny. I mean I am standing right there!

Finally Iain tells him that we are married and the guy looks him deep in the eyes and says "Thats ok, I don't mind"

I damn near snarfed all over both of them... Iain's expression was priceless.

A couple we were out with couldn't understand why I thought it was so funny; one of them said he would be really pissed if a guy pursued his partner after being told off.

I just found it amusing. Not that I am not possessive: HE IS MY MATE.

Not the first time it's happened, but I could never see the point in getting angry about it.

What about you, do you get angry or amused when a guy constantly hits on your BF/Lover/Partner/Significant Other ?

LOL...it depends

I've been on both sides of that fence
where I was the one being hit on and I felt embarrassed and even though my partners at the time thought it was funny and said they didn't care I quickly put an end to it
When my partners were the ones being hit on I didn't mind UNTIL I told them I was with my partner
if they persisted then I got pissed

Fortunately it hasn't happened directly when I've been out with my bf. We did have an incident when a couple of guys kept staring at me... intensely. My bf got indignant about it as it was so clear what the intent was. I tried to ignore the whole thing.

This past Saturday, I paid Mr. KY Leather $5 to rub his head (actual head) all over my partner's "stuff" (he had on jeans), just for raffle tickets.

I mean, if someone's flirting with my man, I just look at it like, yea - I've got a hot one.

However, earlier in our relationship it was a bit uncomfortable and it bothered me a little - but after 8 years... and he's still getting hit on... good for me!

Don't get me wrong though, if some queen reached in for a bit more than she could handle, the wig-snatching would commence - I'm just saying.

Flirt with my man, but don't ignore the wedding ring.

Go ahead and flirt all you want...it's a compliment. I've pretty much been comfortable that he would always come home with me.

Flirting is fine. But there is a line that shouldnt be crossed. Once you cross the line that is when it becomes disrespectful. Im not sure what i would do. I dont think it would bother me too much if another guy was flirting with my boyfriend, but I would let him know when it was time to back off.

Towards the end there I was URGING guys to hit on him. ("Don't you want to take him home? No? Are you sure?")

The only time i'd get upset is if i find that this guy is freaking my man out. Its all good as long as its harmless flirting but if i see him getting freaked out/uncomfortable then i'd step in.

It would seriously depend on the nature of the situation and who I was with at the time.

I'd like to think that I would be laugh and be amused by the whole thing but who knows. Plus, depending on who I was with I'd like to thing that they wouldn't give the matter a second thought or be piqued by the malicious invitation from the 3rd party.