Why is it so hard to find an older fit guy around my age??

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    Sep 13, 2011 12:34 AM GMT
    Why is it so hard to find an older "fit" guy around my age?? I've met a lot (not slept with them) chatted with a lot, had coffee with a lot, and the majority of them, are either over weight, can only talk about sex, obsess on younger guys, or are just down right freaky pervs, into some really freaky stuff.

    Where are the "normal" old fashion guys? Where are the hiding? Yeah I'm a hopeless romantic...maybe that's my problem. I don't hookup and some of my friends tell me I should. That I shouldn't be so damn picky.

    I dunno....ugh

    Thoughts???

    Annoyed in Kansas!!
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    Sep 13, 2011 12:40 AM GMT
    They're out there! Honestly, so many guys online won't even give you a second glance with no face pic posted, so at least online, I think that could be a huge issue for you.
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    Sep 13, 2011 12:44 AM GMT
    Hey thanks for the reply....i don't put much stock in web sites such as this....face pic or not. Having said that you DO have a point.
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    Sep 13, 2011 12:49 AM GMT
    When I moved to Iowa from the East Coast, back in 1982, one of the biggest cultural shocks was the number of obese people out here. The Midwest just doesn't have the kind of body consciousness you'll find in places like L.A.
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    Sep 13, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    midwestcommuter saidHey thanks for the reply....i don't put much stock in web sites such as this....face pic or not. Having said that you DO have a point.



    Yeah, but I'm guessing you're on here for a reason, so why not make the best of the opportunity? There are some incredible guys on this site (just not in the forums.) Kidding! icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 13, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    paradox saidWhen I moved to Iowa from the East Coast, back in 1982, one of the biggest cultural shocks was the number of obese people out here. The Midwest just doesn't have the kind of body consciousness you'll find in places like L.A.


    It's like the opposite here in NYC. All the fit people are the wealthy transplants from all over the U.S. and world. But them the NYC locals, which are predominately Italian, Hispanic or Black are pretty fucking fat.
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    Sep 13, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    Leave Kansas!
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    Sep 13, 2011 3:03 PM GMT
    Most of the good ones are already taken or are happy being single and not looking to complicate their lives. That or you're not looking hard enough.
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    Sep 13, 2011 3:06 PM GMT
    **cough, cough**


    *clears throat*.... drops keys on floor....

    **cough, cough**
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    Sep 13, 2011 3:09 PM GMT
    midwestcommuter saidWhy is it so hard to find an older "fit" guy around my age?? I've met a lot (not slept with them) chatted with a lot, had coffee with a lot, and the majority of them, are either over weight, can only talk about sex, obsess on younger guys, or are just down right freaky pervs, into some really freaky stuff.

    Where are the "normal" old fashion guys? Where are the hiding? Yeah I'm a hopeless romantic...maybe that's my problem. I don't hookup and some of my friends tell me I should. That I shouldn't be so damn picky.

    I dunno....ugh

    Thoughts???

    Annoyed in Kansas!!


    oh hai there
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    Sep 13, 2011 3:12 PM GMT
    Welcome to the site.

    I'm sure you'll find what you want and this site has some pretty nice and fit older guys.

    Best of Luck.
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    Sep 13, 2011 3:13 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidMost of the good ones are already taken or are happy being single and not looking to complicate their lives. That or you're not looking hard enough.


    I will agree with this. Most good gay guys that are relationship-oriented are already snatched up.

    But there are plenty of fit, older men out there! I am amazed at how many guys in their 40s can put us younger guys to shame. I recently me a gorgeous 42 year old that I literally thought was lying to me the whole time and was really in his late 20s. We lost touch though..mainly because I was being stupid and letting his age get in my head
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    Sep 13, 2011 3:20 PM GMT
    Looking at your hot list you have one teen-- 3 twenty somethings-- 2- 30 somethings and one 40 year old-- seems you are looking the wrong way if you want older-- just saying
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    Sep 13, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    For this site, it might be the lack of a face pic. Also, you haven't filled out "about me" or "guys I'm looking to meet."
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    Sep 13, 2011 3:31 PM GMT
    There are no older fit guys. The ones here who look fit in their pics all use Photoshop.
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    Sep 13, 2011 3:32 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidThere are no older fit guys. The ones here who look fit in their pics all use Photoshop.


    I am never telling you anything again.
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    Sep 13, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    over40nfit saidLooking at your hot list you have one teen-- 3 twenty somethings-- 2- 30 somethings and one 40 year old-- seems you are looking the wrong way if you want older-- just saying


    Holy SHIT!!! you are 60 years old???

    You are absolutely hot as hell!!! You look fantastic!!

    That made my day!

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    Sep 13, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    When you find out where they are please send a few to Atlanta!
    I was pondering that same question during the labor day weekend when I was in the mountains.
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    Sep 13, 2011 4:08 PM GMT
    Tell me about it. My friends are dead! The few single fit Forty somethings out there are elusive but the good news is that there are plenty of youngins that are interested in much older.
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    Sep 13, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle said**cough, cough**


    *clears throat*.... drops keys on floor....

    **cough, cough**


    Is that an invitation? Quick get behind him quick before he notices. Don't (or in this case do) drop the soap (keys)



    Most of the hottest guys on this sight are well over 40.... So keep that in mind.
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    Sep 13, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
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    Sep 13, 2011 4:47 PM GMT
    hello there!
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    Sep 13, 2011 4:48 PM GMT
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    Alpha_Muscle said**cough, cough**


    *clears throat*.... drops keys on floor....

    **cough, cough**


    Is that an invitation? Quick get behind him quick before he notices. Don't (or in this case do) drop the soap (keys)



    Most of the hottest guys are well over 40.... So keep that in mind.


    Fixed
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    Sep 13, 2011 4:49 PM GMT
    I do think there is some validity to the comment that a lot are either taken or not interested in a relationship at an older age.

    I also think that many begin to look what most in our age group develop and that is an older body. It's harder to maintain, you tire more easily and are distracted by many other priorities than going to the gym daily. I see this in my own life where I look at my age and wonder how much I need to continue to abuse my body for the sake of a look or two. I find myself sore more often, injured more frequently and bored/burned out at the gym regularly.

    Plus, where are you going to meet guys in this age group? Fishing in the right pond will result in a better catch. If it's bars, might not be the type you want. Perhaps a travel group, hiking group or something like that. Will they all be fit and hot, hell no. Just like the bar, you have to weed through many to find your type.

    As for being too picky, well maybe you need to truly ask yourself, what DO I want? Nice guy? Fit guy? Active guy? All the above? The more restrictions on your openness to accepting someone for who they are and not what they look like, the smaller the pool. Settle for whatever, nope, I wouldn't but I would open the filter more and then filter out those who just don't seem to have some compatibility to your personality.
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    Sep 13, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    midwestcommuter saidHey thanks for the reply....i don't put much stock in web sites such as this....face pic or not. Having said that you DO have a point.


    If you are going to post a shark attack victim pic on a site you don't put much stock in then you can't complain about the results.

    Who exactly do you expect to respond to a pic of a naked torso? If THAT is all you are offering - is it any wonder yer just getting the sex fiends?!?!?

    Why would you not "put much stock" in a venue, online or RL, that you frequent? What does that say about YOU?