How do i find out if this guy likes me?

  • tenniskid1120...

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    Sep 13, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    There is this guy I go to college with hes a couple of years older than me.... he always flirts with me and i've never seen him have a girl around. facebook says he is straight but i don't fully believe it and i think he may like me. he asked me things through texts like "did you get home ok" and other things. what do you guys think?
  • tenniskid1120...

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    Sep 13, 2011 4:09 AM GMT
    why is no one commenting on this one?
  • waccamatt

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    Sep 13, 2011 4:12 AM GMT
    You can't believe Facebook profiles. If he's flirting with you then he likes you. Flirt back and see what happens. Ask him if he wants to hang out. If he texts you asking if you got home ok then you KNOW he likes you.
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    Sep 13, 2011 4:14 AM GMT
    well i think you can't take just that as proof .... because if he's older than you, perhaps he sees you as a little brother or as his friend and he cares for you.

    I think you need more stuff going on ... maybe a little more affectional ... like touchy stuff ... or ... who knows, maybe more stuff .....
    lol, i'm not good at this, but i think u need more proof icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 13, 2011 4:14 AM GMT
    He is into you and is more than likely closeted gay. he don't want anyone else to know it
  • tenniskid1120...

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    Sep 13, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    Art_19 saidwell i think you can't take just that as proof .... because if he's older than you, perhaps he sees you as a little brother or as his friend and he cares for you.

    I think you need more stuff going on ... maybe a little more affectional ... like touchy stuff ... or ... who knows, maybe more stuff .....
    lol, i'm not good at this, but i think u need more proof icon_razz.gif

    i do flirt back with him and he always smiles at me and winks at me and hes slapped my ass before more than once haha. i don't know how to go about it because i really do like him.
  • waccamatt

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    Sep 13, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    tenniskid17 said
    Art_19 saidwell i think you can't take just that as proof .... because if he's older than you, perhaps he sees you as a little brother or as his friend and he cares for you.

    I think you need more stuff going on ... maybe a little more affectional ... like touchy stuff ... or ... who knows, maybe more stuff .....
    lol, i'm not good at this, but i think u need more proof icon_razz.gif

    i do flirt back with him and he always smiles at me and winks at me and hes slapped my ass before more than once haha. i don't know how to go about it because i really do like him.


    Does he know you're gay?
  • tenniskid1120...

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    Sep 13, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    no he doesn't no one knows im not out
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    Sep 13, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    Arrange to have him take you home sometime. Then he will know you made it home safe. I know it's an old cliche', But life is short. Don't waste time with guessing games.
  • waccamatt

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    Sep 13, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
    tenniskid17 saidno he doesn't no one knows im not out


    Well, this might be a good person to come out to. I don't think he'd be calling/texting to make sure you got home ok unless he was interested in being more than just a friend.
  • tenniskid1120...

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    Sep 13, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    waccamatt said
    tenniskid17 saidno he doesn't no one knows im not out


    Well, this might be a good person to come out to. I don't think he'd be calling/texting to make sure you got home ok unless he was interested in being more than just a friend.

    its hard to tell though because i don't want to weird him out if he doesnt actually like me
  • tenniskid1120...

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    Sep 13, 2011 4:45 AM GMT
    i am very friendly with him i talk to him pretty much every day i want to just jump his bones lol!
  • tenniskid1120...

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    Sep 13, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
    icon_sad.gif im trying to have patience i can't wait to see him tomorrow we are in a class together too icon_smile.gif
  • tenniskid1120...

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    Sep 13, 2011 5:53 AM GMT
    ugh i dont know if i should put his pic up... i kind of want to but idk if its right to do that.
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    Sep 13, 2011 5:58 AM GMT
    Well if he's flirting with you then flirt back and actually mean it. See what happens then. If you like this guy then approach him and let him know you are interested in being more than just a friend.

    The biggest mistake people make is assuming that others are mind readers.
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    Sep 13, 2011 6:00 AM GMT
    I wouldn't put his pic up in privacy of the guy, but that's just me. Anyways, I agree with most people here, I'd probably flirt a little bit, but just be a little caucious due to his possible closeted sexuality

    I do have to say though, I wish someone would ask me if I made it home ok icon_sad.gif lol
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    Sep 13, 2011 6:02 AM GMT
    tenniskid17 saidugh i dont know if i should put his pic up... i kind of want to but idk if its right to do that.



    I ask that you please not put his pic up. I know he seems to be closeted to you but he might have quite a few reasons for being so private. It doesn't always mean that he is ashamed about who he finds attractive.

    At least if you are going to post his pic on a site like this, get the okay from him first.
  • tenniskid1120...

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    Sep 13, 2011 6:04 AM GMT
    SmallTOP1953 said
    tenniskid17 saidugh i dont know if i should put his pic up... i kind of want to but idk if its right to do that.



    I ask that you please not put his pic up. I know he seems to be closeted to you but he might have quite a few reasons for being so private. It doesn't always mean that he is ashamed about who he finds attractive.

    At least if you are going to post his pic on a site like this, get the okay from him first.

    im not going to put his pic i agree with all of you though. its just a very tough situation especially because i have feelings for him and if he doesnt like me then i will be disappointed.
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    Sep 13, 2011 6:09 AM GMT
    Why is everyone calling the mystery man closeted? We don't know if he's gay or not. Flirting doesn't mean anything until it turns physical and it's not a "sure all" tell-tell sign that someone is gay. I know many straight men who are just big flirts and make some off the wall sexual innuendos period.

    OP, does your buddy know you are gay? if so, then he just might feel secure flirting with you which is a innocent form of joking (to a degree). Does he flirt with other guys the way he does with you or are you misreading what he's doing and consider it flirting?
  • tenniskid1120...

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    Sep 13, 2011 6:11 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidWhy is everyone calling the mystery man closeted? We don't know if he's gay or not. Flirting doesn't mean anything until it turns physical and it's not a "sure all" tell-tell sign that someone is gay. I know many straight men who are just big flirts and make some off the wall sexual innuendos period.

    OP, does your buddy know you are gay? if so, then he just might feel secure flirting with you which is a innocent form of joking (to a degree). Does he flirt with other guys the way he does with you or are you misreading what he's doing and consider it flirting?


    No he doesn't know that i am gay i'm not out to him or anyone. i don't see him flirt with other guys the way he does with me. i feel a connection between us.
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    Sep 13, 2011 6:12 AM GMT
    Maybe you're just seeing what you want to see? That happens sometimes. A guy who says something sweet and all of the sudden you think that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 13, 2011 6:13 AM GMT
    waimea saidMaybe you're just seeing what you want to see? That happens sometimes. A guy who says something sweet and all of the sudden you think that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. icon_neutral.gif


    No one wants to spend the rest of their life with you Waimea, just remember that.

    So I can actually contribute to the thread, proceed with caution OP. This man may be gay (again MAY) but if he is, he may not be comfortable with himself yet, which will lead to all sorts of issues. Just be careful with how you proceed, if he asks you if you have a gf, correct him and make sure he knows your preference, but he may never be out for his whole life, remember that.

    Also, you are young.
  • tenniskid1120...

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    Sep 13, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    Chainers said
    waimea saidMaybe you're just seeing what you want to see? That happens sometimes. A guy who says something sweet and all of the sudden you think that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. icon_neutral.gif


    No one wants to spend the rest of their life with you Waimea, just remember that.

    yeah im not saying i want to spend the rest of my life with him thats making a big jump isnt it? haha. its a little crush and i want to see if it means anything. haha thanks chainers
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    Chainers said
    waimea saidMaybe you're just seeing what you want to see? That happens sometimes. A guy who says something sweet and all of the sudden you think that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. icon_neutral.gif


    No one wants to spend the rest of their life with you Waimea, just remember that.


    I want my testimonial back. Sheesh...to think that the next person I fall in love would be with you...what the hell was I thinking?! Oh yeah, I was just done fapping to your profile. Now that makes sense.

    Anywayz, now with deki back, you can go back to your role as spare tire. Ha!
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    Sep 13, 2011 6:16 AM GMT
    waimea said
    Chainers said
    waimea saidMaybe you're just seeing what you want to see? That happens sometimes. A guy who says something sweet and all of the sudden you think that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. icon_neutral.gif


    No one wants to spend the rest of their life with you Waimea, just remember that.


    I want my testimonial back. Sheesh...to think that the next person I fall in love would be with you...what the hell was I thinking?! Oh yeah, I was just done fapping to your profile. Now that makes sense.

    Anywayz, now with deki back, you can go back to your role as spare tire. Ha!


    What? You fapped to my profile...Im so honored...