Gay friends equal drama....

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    Sep 13, 2011 7:30 PM GMT
    I have some gay friends that ive had for 15 - 20 yrs. Theyr good supportive friends but they absolutely drive me nuts!

    1 of them, all he cares about is which club is he going to this weekend, what pride parade, & how many naked men can he see?

    The other is so emtionally damaged & dependent on his off & on bf of 7 yrs thats half his age cuz he feels like he cant find anyone else (hes obese) that its exausting to keep going thru the emotional rollercoaster hes on dealing with this guy.

    These are just 2 examples. Even if I try to make new gay friends with anyone they think I want sex first, which I dont, im in a relationship anyway.

    Or if the other person is in a relationship to then his partner thinks we are messing around & makes it uncomfortable.

    I just give the fuck up. I just wanna go to work, workout, build a life for myself. Am I wrong that it doesnt revolve around gay shit? Im very open & everyone knows im gay but I just think theres more to life than all this damn shit....ya know?

    Seems like i get along best with the straight guys at work. We talk about working out, mma fighting & etc. Theyll even ask me about my relationship with my bf. They are cool as hell, itd just be nice to have some gay friends like this sometimes tho, ya know? Damn.
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    Sep 13, 2011 7:34 PM GMT
    I honestly couldn't make that kind of generalization with my friends. I don't see a big difference between my gay friends and straight friends. Neither group is more dramatic than the other. It's only certain individuals who create more drama in their life. I'd say the most dramatic friend I have is a straight guy because he constantly whines and nags about everything. He never seems happy with anything.
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    Sep 13, 2011 7:40 PM GMT
    I agree with you . At the moment I have no gay friends and fine with it. I was friends with a gay couple but the drama made me cut them off. one was 53 the other 33. after 8 years together the younger cheated and broke up with the 53 year old. in 6 months the older attempted suicide twice, wouldn't work gained 100lbs. I was friends with them 8 years and I just walked away. haven't contacted them in 10 months
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    Sep 13, 2011 8:10 PM GMT
    Reminds me of the gay play, 'The Boys in the Band'...
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    Sep 13, 2011 8:15 PM GMT
    Not if you can find mature (as in strong, grounded people, not mature as in their age) gay guys... they are out there.
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    Sep 13, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    Perhaps you might examine if the cost of pursuing these friendships is worth the benefits you receive by doing so.
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    Sep 13, 2011 8:33 PM GMT
    I agree to the person who said it depends on the person, some people are just dramatic. Some gay people are just as dramatic as straight people.
    As for the guys that try and sleep with you. I have friends that try and sleep with me I just tell them politely that they are in the friend category and I don't ever have sex with friends. Don't do anything that will make them think you are giving them mixed signals like by flirting with them. That just throws people off.
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    Sep 13, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    My gay friends are not drama queens. I dont have the patience for it.
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    Sep 13, 2011 8:43 PM GMT
    NEWS FLASH: ALL PEOPLE HAVE THE POTENTIAL FOR DRAMA.

    That's why - over time - sometimes one must weed those relationships out.

    Other news flash: LOTS of straight couples have LOTS of drama!

    Gay people learned it from THEM - and often their parents.
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    Sep 13, 2011 8:46 PM GMT
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    Mixleanmachine said Don't do anything that will make them think you are giving them mixed signals like by flirting with them. That just throws people off.
    The problem is that just being nice to a person can be considered flirting by someone else. Flirting is all subjective.


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    Sep 13, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    manboy_nyc saidNEWS FLASH: ALL PEOPLE HAVE THE POTENTIAL FOR DRAMA.

    That's why - over time - sometimes one must weed those relationships out.

    Other news flash: LOTS of straight couples have LOTS of drama!

    Gay people learned it from THEM - and often their parents.


    THIS says it all.

    As rich and diverse as your TWO friends may be - they are not an adequate representation of ANYTHING other than themselves - least of all gay dudes the world over.
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    Sep 13, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    Cash said
    Trollileo said
    Mixleanmachine said Don't do anything that will make them think you are giving them mixed signals like by flirting with them. That just throws people off.
    The problem is that just being nice to a person can be considered flirting by someone else. Flirting is all subjective.


    O. M. G. !!!

    Are you flirting with me?!?!?!?!?!?!?

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    If watching you while you sleep is flirting then yes.


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    Sep 13, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    hum , i dont have real life gay friends .. but i hope i meet decent ppl
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    Sep 13, 2011 8:55 PM GMT
    See the last page of this thread icon_eek.gif lol
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1812121
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    Sep 13, 2011 8:59 PM GMT
    somewherenew saidSee the last page of this thread icon_eek.gif lol
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1812121


    LOL! That's not a gay problem (even though it's about a gay topic). You can find bitching, trashing, and trolling on any forum out there. I post on a gymnastics forum that comprises mostly of straight girls and women. Yet the same kind of shit goes down there.
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    Sep 13, 2011 9:02 PM GMT
    I know, I was more just kidding. It's the internet, people love to voice their opinions and not give a shit about anyone else.
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    Sep 13, 2011 9:04 PM GMT
    Indeed. It's pretty easy to do that as an anonymous user behind the computer. Nobody has to know who you really are.
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    Sep 13, 2011 9:06 PM GMT
    The drama never seems to end regardless. I have some single friends who whine all the time that they can't find a suitable partner. And then some friends who are in relationships whine about all the annoying shit their partner does. Nobody's ever happy, eh?
  • dancedancekj

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    Sep 13, 2011 9:20 PM GMT
    Lots of people have drama, some friends are more dramatic than others. Some have drama I can handle and discuss, others just like to whine all the time.
    Gay men certainly have a lot more complications than some straight folk, but are not necessarily more dramatic. I think the most dramatic people in my life are young single heterosexual females actually...
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    Sep 13, 2011 9:25 PM GMT
    dancedancekj saidLots of people have drama, some friends are more dramatic than others. Some have drama I can handle and discuss, others just like to whine all the time.
    Gay men certainly have a lot more complications than some straight folk, but are not necessarily more dramatic. I think the most dramatic people in my life are young single heterosexual females actually...


    Goodness, yes! I have to agree. Most of my 'dramatic' friends are indeed single straight females. If it isn't their lack of a bf, it's their weight or some other physical flaw keeping them from finding a bf. Or they're having a fit with their closest female friend. Or their parents cut them off from money/credit cards.
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    Sep 13, 2011 9:27 PM GMT
    gay people never grow up
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    Sep 13, 2011 9:41 PM GMT
    Everybody who has a family is familiar with drama. It's certainly not limited to gay guys!
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    Sep 13, 2011 9:46 PM GMT
    The A-List RJ!
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    Sep 13, 2011 9:50 PM GMT
    I wouldn't trade my gay nerd friends for ANYTHING.
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    Sep 13, 2011 9:52 PM GMT
    mayBbignow2 saidHave you tried ones who are in the arts, intellectual and spiritual scenes?
    You might be around too many metropolitans.


    HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! You think the Arts are drama-free?!?!?!!?!?!?

    What are these arts you refer to? Finger-painting?


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