Being a douche to beginners..

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    Sep 14, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
    So I've been playing Tennis for all of three weeks.. Like, still getting blisters on my palm, the definition of Novice. And I've been playing as often as possible to try to get better. Well.. Earlier today I'm at a public park (Seneca Park for local RJ's in Louisville) and had a run in that's bothering me, and leaving me with some questions.

    So I'm pretty quick at picking up on sports, and athletic activities. But there are still times where I'll bounce a ball over the fence, or send one rolling across neighboring courts. We all gotta start somewhere, right? Well today the guy at the court beside me, really got under my feathers with his subtle attitude that I was bothering his game. The problem is that I'm not exactly an expert on public tennis court etiquette. (not like that was hard to tell from just watching me slowly wack the ball backhand forth), and this guy thought he was fucking Djokovic... I mean really. I returned his balls, too, and without the attitude. I guess I expect a certain level of leniency as I learn what I'm doing... Mixed with my understanding that it's not a private court so ultimately you'll have to deal with some retard (like me) every now and again.

    My questions are these.. Does the Tennis community largely treat new players with a little cushion? And what sort of unwritten rules are upheld at tennis courts and clubs? I wanna do my best to not show my ass..

    And just so I'm not misjudged, it's not like I was whacking the balls up into his face all the time. It was like maybe one every 15-30 minutes, and we played for around 3.5hrs.
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    Oct 24, 2011 5:30 AM GMT
    From what you describe, it sounds like you were just next to a bad apple.

    Was this guy playing a match on the court next to you? Sure, it can be frustrating to have to play a let in the middle of a point because of an errant ball from the court next to you, but that's life.

    I could see if a ball came rolling over every couple minutes, but it doesn't sound like that was the case.

    As you said, if you play at a public park then you have to accept there will be a few more balls coming your your way than you might experience at a club.

    I guess the bottom line is the guy was a bit of douche. I wouldn't worry about it. Keep playing and getting better, the game gets more and more enjoyable as a result.

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    Oct 24, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    people are douches to me as a beginner on this site icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 24, 2011 5:42 AM GMT
    Kloud_Kannon saidpeople are douches to me as a beginner on this site icon_sad.gif


    Be lean and mean and get your attitude on brah
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    Oct 24, 2011 5:45 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    Kloud_Kannon saidpeople are douches to me as a beginner on this site icon_sad.gif
    Upload pics. People will love you more. Especially of that one... You know...

    People liked me when I was a faceless troll too though...
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    Oct 24, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    Kloud_Kannon saidpeople are douches to me as a beginner on this site icon_sad.gif


    they are? forget em... not worth your time
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    Oct 24, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    For some reason I thought this was a "how to" thread.

    That happened to me once. My St. Pete friends decided to take me to their favorite court one day.

    ...long story short..I caught the ball in the triangle thingy at least twice, and hit it into another court until our neighbors went to another side. OOOPS!
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    Oct 24, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    waimea said
    People liked me when I was a faceless troll too though...


    That's because you're intelligent and witty and I always had the sneaking suspicion that you were hot...
  • Brandonizer

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    Oct 29, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    KentuckyTuss said
    My questions are these.. Does the Tennis community largely treat new players with a little cushion? And what sort of unwritten rules are upheld at tennis courts and clubs? I wanna do my best to not show my ass..


    Heyy! I'm kinda new here, so nice to meet u guys icon_smile.gif

    Well, I don't really know much about the public courts in the country you guys are in but I do have somewhat of a similar experience in my own land, Singapore.

    I started off dreaming of how I would hit the ball on the court and obviously that didn't went my way. Balls were flying all over the courtS and pissing the others off. lol. But who cares, I'm there to play and learn. icon_smile.gif

    Just play more. Get a coach for a few hours probably, just to learn the basics. Thats what I did after an embarrassing situation for me back then when my friend and I had a "match" with two boys, whose age are probably single digit. They thrashed us and onlookers were laughing.

    Been playing close to 2 years now and I can return probably 90% of the balls given with direction. icon_smile.gif I'm fortunate that I was selected in my school team which gave me free and extra trainings. So yuup, just play as much as u can and m sure u won't have that problem again icon_smile.gif

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    Oct 29, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    Having played tennis for awhile at the varsity level, I would say there are a lot of snobby tennis players...just whip your hair and shake em off ;)
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    Oct 29, 2011 4:47 PM GMT
    A public court is "public". Anyone, regardless of expertise, should expect interference, noise, errant hits etc. Even when people hit well, the ball bounces into other areas. So don't worry about that so much. That being said, there is some etiquette you have to follow when your ball goes into a neighbor's court. You wait for their point to finish, you try not to move during their serve, and you need to be mindful of running onto their court

    If you're a competitor, you're going to naturally be irritated when your game or concentration is interrupted so maybe he was pissed about the situation more so than at you. Just realize that if you're hitting a lot of errant balls, it's annoying. No matter how new someone is or how many times they say "sorry", if someone is interrupting a lot, it's REALLY frustrating. You might want to hit against the practice wall, and maybe pick a court/time when it isn't so crowded so that you can have the full space if you find yourself hitting really poorly. Tennis is fun. I switched over to racquetball though, so, I've lost my swing. Good luck.
  • Brandonizer

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    Oct 29, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    Soccerstud4 saidHaving played tennis for awhile at the varsity level, I would say there are a lot of snobby tennis players...just whip your hair and shake em off ;)


    Yeah same here! icon_smile.gif Most varsity players here walk as if their neck is in a cast. Those whose NTRP that seems to be above 3.0, tend to exude this kinda "superior" attitude, from my observations.
  • Sk8Tex

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    Oct 29, 2011 5:23 PM GMT
    There's always that one person with low self-esteem that has to make themselves feel better by making others feel bad. Just forget what everyone else says or thinks because at the end of the day you'll still end up on the winning end.

    @Kloud_Kannon, I experienced the same when I joined this site but there's a lot of good seeds out there with tough exteriors.
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    Oct 29, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    Congrats to you for getting out there and getting started! If you and your buddies were playing next to us, we'd never give you any attitude if a few stray balls came our way. That's just going to happen sometimes. Don't let it bother you and get right back out there. Didn't you say the idiot had a few balls come your direction - - - that you returned to him? See - there you have it - - everybody has balls that go astray during a rally or a game. Don't sweat it, and consider the source. You'll get better and better with time. Tennis is a great sport. Just enjoy it.

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    Oct 29, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    My man has outright REFUSED to let me play tennis with him. He has been playing for like 15+ years and is pretty good (I assume). I've asked on a few occasions for him to teach me (hell, half of his neighborhood has private tennis courts) but it's territory that we just wont tread on.


    He's a great guy, patient, etc... But he likes to enjoy a good tennis match, and says he would become frustrated with a beginner. I respect it. I'd like to keep our relationship in tact.
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    Oct 29, 2011 7:15 PM GMT
    he was prob getting his butt kicked, and took it out on u. don't worry about it.
  • silverfox

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    Nov 03, 2011 2:35 AM GMT
    To the OP:

    Tennis is a great sport. I started playing when I was 42 and I wish I started 40 years earlier.

    However, like other sports there will be bad eggs, sore losers, gamesmanship issues, and such. You have to take it all in stride.


    I remember when I started playing competitively in tournaments how frustrated I became ....almost to the point of quitting the sport all together. Forget matches, or sets...I couldn't win a game. Balls would be fired at me at lightning speed (or at least it seemed at the time) and every one else seemed better than me.

    And they were. Because these trophy hunters would play one or two divisions below their level....so that they could be assured of winning.

    I wonder how many other players have been discouraged by tactics of these douche bags....as well as the kind of guy you encountered. But they are out there. In droves. You got to keep your spirits high and remember....it is only a game. Right? icon_biggrin.gif