So... Always afraid I'm going to die of cancer like my father... But I don't think I could bare putting my partner through the pain my Mum went through :(

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    Sep 14, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    So... With the death of the amazing Andy Whitfield... I've been thinking. He died only a few years older than my father of the same cancer. My dad was like 35 or something :S

    And on his side almost every sibling of his has had cancer, except 1 or 2 out of 6 kids. Now it's My brother, sister and I. And I can only see a familiar pattern. Unfortunately I've always had the stance on life "Why bother? I'll be dead soon anyways." Which I've pretty much overcome now, but regret this as I left school in year 9. My point is, my Dad had 3 kids, then dropped dead. Even nowadays the cancer is pretty much inoperable. And there's no way that out of 3 kids one of us won't get it. And it scares me because I've been with my partner for 3 years, and I wanna have kids... But I couldn't stand for what happened to my Mum to happen to him.

    I've always been healthy, no smokes or drugs. Drink occasionally and eat junk food... But that's about it. And from what I know... There's nothing you can do about cancer til you've got it. It's a very shy topic avoided in my family. So yeah... iunno, anyone else have this concern with family history of cancer?
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    Sep 14, 2011 5:35 AM GMT
    Oh - I can't WAIT to see where THIS thread goes...
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    Sep 14, 2011 2:55 PM GMT
    This is serious guys... It's not a joke.
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    Sep 14, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    Sounds like an unresolved trauma from your childhood is manifesting... I would talk to a counselor. If you talk to a doctor, they'll just scare you at this point.
  • DCEric

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    Sep 14, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    In the words of Wesley in The Princess Bride: Love is pain, highness.

    Not that you should want him to suffer emotionally, if you suffer pain physically (or in your example, die), but if you are close to someone, loosing them is going to hurt. That hurt will never be as great, though, as the love you shared.
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    Sep 14, 2011 3:08 PM GMT

    All I know is that there is NOTHING that will KILL you faster than spending time worrying about death and dying icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 14, 2011 3:23 PM GMT
    Kristoff saidThis is serious guys... It's not a joke.


    Sorry, you forever forfeited your right to be taken seriously about 391 trollish posts ago. There really is no coming back from it. Fortunately, there is a fool proof way out of your pain.

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  • janu88

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    Sep 14, 2011 3:29 PM GMT
    cancer comes from our choices of lifestyle, what we eat, where we live, what we use, and let us exposed to.

    so change.
  • mizu5

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    Sep 14, 2011 5:51 PM GMT
    janu88 saidcancer comes from our choices of lifestyle, what we eat, where we live, what we use, and let us exposed to.

    so change.
    Not... Really no. Cancer is something that can run in a family. My mother had what her mother had what her motherbhad, and he lifestyle of her jewih mother and grandmother in Europe during the holocaust were ery different than hers in Toronto, utterly different, down to food and environment.
  • Syphon

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    Sep 14, 2011 6:00 PM GMT
    Well if it runs in your family, tell your doctor and get screened every year. Duh!

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    Sep 14, 2011 6:16 PM GMT
    janu88 saidcancer comes from our choices of lifestyle, what we eat, where we live, what we use, and let us exposed to.

    so change.

    All true, but there can also be a genetic disposition to cancer, that runs in families, making all of these factors. Work continues to be done in this field, and I don't know if the OP would be an appropriate candidate for any of the screening methods starting to be used (or able to afford them). In the past, family history was used as a general but imperfect predictor of cancer risk.

    If the OP thinks he's at risk, then he can lower his risk by living a healthier lifestyle, and avoiding known cancer causers, like smoking. And having annual checkups, that include whatever special tests a doctor feels are appropriate for his family history and other risk factors.

    And whether this thread was started by a troll with low credibility or not, the basic subject matter is important, at least to some here.
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    Sep 14, 2011 6:18 PM GMT
    Ask your mother if she would give up her entire life, all of her children, and all of the fond memories those have all brought her, just to avoid feeling the pain of Loss..

    What's harder, having for a while and then having it taken away? Or never having at all?
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    Sep 15, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    Enjoy your cancer, dwarf boy.
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    Sep 15, 2011 6:08 AM GMT
    Anduru saidEnjoy your cancer, dwarf boy.


    That's not even remotely funny.

    My best friend just lost her Nan to cancer as well. you ungrateful twat.
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    Sep 15, 2011 6:13 AM GMT
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    Anduru saidEnjoy your cancer, dwarf boy.
    That's not even remotely funny.
    My best friend just lost her Nan to cancer as well. you ungrateful twat.
    You're not even remotely worth the empathy.

    I can't wait for your thread asking where to get a good-quality wig,
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    Sep 15, 2011 7:11 AM GMT
    You're only 18. You have the opportunity to make certain lifestyle choices now that may reduce your risk of developing cancer and a host of other lifestyle illnesses. Don't smoke, eat healthy, exercise, and in about 20 years time, you can begin asking your doc what you should be screened for.

    Fall in love, have kids, enjoy your life and stop worrying and stressing about something that you don't know will happen anyway. Laugh, enjoy your loved ones while they're still around. Put a smile on your face every morning and be grateful for the little things you usually take for granted. Give cancer the middle finger!!!

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    Sep 15, 2011 6:04 PM GMT
    Kristoff said
    Anduru saidEnjoy your cancer, dwarf boy.


    That's not even remotely funny.

    My best friend just lost her Nan to cancer as well. you ungrateful twat.


    Shut up Kristoff. Just shut up.

    Anyone who has had any experience with you what-so-ever knows EXACTLY what you are all about and puts no weight in ANYTHING you say. Including stories about your fellow gnome "friends" and and their ailing Nanas.

    HOWEVER, as Jeandeau, Martin_Maros and even (gasp!) Art_Deco have proven, even low-rent-district, mutant trolls like you can sometimes create an arena for genuinely worthwhile even brilliant comments that may change a life somewhere.

    So just sit back in your highchair with yer cake and yer pudding and yer pie and yer empty social calendar and just shut up...
  • BCSwimmer

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    Sep 15, 2011 6:20 PM GMT
    janu88 saidcancer comes from our choices of lifestyle, what we eat, where we live, what we use, and let us exposed to.

    so change.


    Some cancers come from lifestyle choices and some are due a complex variety of reasons including inherited predisposition.

    I speak from experience as my late spouse, rest his soul, died from an Oligodendroglioma brain tumour that experts suggest may have been present in utero or at the very least began to develop in early childhood formative years (it only came to light in his early 40s due to a seizure and unfortunately he died in July of last year, 7 years later).

    He was the epitome of a healthy lifestyle; never smoked; add a low-fat, well-balanced (occassionally pesco-) vegetarian diet; exercised regularly his entire life; minimzed stressors; etc.

    The irony is that he worked in health care, supervising technicians preparing anti-neoplastic agents (i.e. chemotherapy) and in recent years was one of the subjects in a University Study attempting to determine the increased risk of cancers in health care workers exposed to such agents (unfortunately when he first started working in this field in the 80s there wasn't the same level of ventillation hoods that were later developed). The implication of the study, as I understand it, is not that the agents cause the cancer but that they may turn on the switch in those predisposed to it (but then that might be true of food chemicals such as calcium propionate; red dye no. 2; etc.)

    Sure there is evidence that a lot of cancers are due to lifestyle choices such as smoking; poor diet; etc however your blanket statement that implies all cancer can be avoided by changing lifestyle is simply incorrect and unfair to those suffering a cancer they could not prevent or avoid.
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    Sep 15, 2011 7:02 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidThis thread is full of so much lulz.

    Edit: To actually be helpful to the OP. Don't sweat it. Just screen yourself every year.


    Agreed. Also if it is such an issue, just dont get a partner. Problem solved.