Your boss sends you a friend request on facebook...what would you do?

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    Sep 15, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    There's nothing on my facebook that I'd worry about her seeing neither is she trying to come on to me. But has anyone else experienced this? Awkward 101!!!
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    Sep 15, 2011 2:53 AM GMT
    Go into ghost mode...say that your account was hacked.
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    Sep 15, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    This is why I will never use facebook. Things are so indirect, there's such drama attached to the etiquette, so unnatural.
  • JP85257

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    Sep 15, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    Dont deny them, but ignore their requests. If they ask about it just say it is probably buried and that youre not on FB all that much.
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    Sep 15, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
    That's why you're supposed to have three FB accounts..

    - One for your boss, co-workers, business contacts, and casual acquaintances. This account you will rarely touch. Only times you'll log in is to accept friend requests and change your status every month with some inspiring quote.

    - Another account with a fake name. This is your actual account that you interact with people that you know and trust.

    - Another account with another fake name for following various companies, stores, brands for free coupons/promotions/giveaways. Basically, this is your spam collection account.
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    Sep 15, 2011 3:12 AM GMT
    all of that is not very honest. And it's a lot of work and wasting other peoples' time.
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    Sep 15, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    Ignore the request, or accept and put them into a privacy group which as as much (or less) exposure than your public profile.

    Suggest LinkedIn.
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    Sep 15, 2011 3:19 AM GMT
    yeah, how about referring him to a different account or site for work people. It's common knowledge that people keep work accounts separate from personal. He may even have been worried about that. Being straightforward about it will only build a stronger professional relationship.
  • JP85257

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    Sep 15, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    xrichx saidThat's why you're supposed to have three FB accounts..

    - One for your boss, co-workers, business contacts, and casual acquaintances. This account you will rarely touch. Only times you'll log in is to accept friend requests and change your status every month with some inspiring quote.

    - Another account with a fake name. This is your actual account that you interact with people that you know and trust.

    - Another account with another fake name for following various companies, stores, brands for free coupons/promotions/giveaways. Basically, this is your spam collection account.


    I have 2 accounts.

    One for my family and people I used to go to church with when I was a kid because if they saw what I posted on my REAL facebook they would flip the fuck out.

    /jptomblin if youd like to add me hahah
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    Sep 15, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    Just don't answer it. Have it pending forever.
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    Sep 15, 2011 3:38 AM GMT
    FYI: Facebook has a weird algorithm (or software bug) that deletes friends automatically if there isn't a steady stream of activity. So go ahead and add your boss. Maybe he'll automatically get deleted later on. icon_lol.gif

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    Sep 15, 2011 3:40 AM GMT
    xrichx saidFYI: Facebook has a weird algorithm (or software bug) that deletes friends automatically if there isn't a steady stream of activity. So go ahead and add your boss. Maybe he'll automatically get deleted later on. icon_lol.gif



    That's not true. Nobody's friends are "deleted". It just doesn't have their posts show up on your news feed as much.
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    Sep 15, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    JP85257 said
    xrichx saidThat's why you're supposed to have three FB accounts..

    - One for your boss, co-workers, business contacts, and casual acquaintances. This account you will rarely touch. Only times you'll log in is to accept friend requests and change your status every month with some inspiring quote.

    - Another account with a fake name. This is your actual account that you interact with people that you know and trust.

    - Another account with another fake name for following various companies, stores, brands for free coupons/promotions/giveaways. Basically, this is your spam collection account.


    I have 2 accounts.

    One for my family and people I used to go to church with when I was a kid because if they saw what I posted on my REAL facebook they would flip the fuck out.

    /jptomblin if youd like to add me hahah


    omg you guys are totally the type that would have multiple realjock accounts too. one with your pictures where youre nice and another that is photoless where you insult people?
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    Sep 15, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    I would accept. I have nothing to hide.
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    Sep 15, 2011 9:19 AM GMT
    You can click on ignore which will just make the invite go away. Then you could send her an invite on linked in which is more appropriate for maintaining professional relations.

    This way you can still brag on fb when you play hookey!

    Hell how do you spell hookey? I tried ending with ie, y, and ey...none look right.
  • bmoney1

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    Sep 15, 2011 12:05 PM GMT
    Ew, I have an awkward boss like this too. FB friends with many of our coworkers (knows better than to add me). She did used to text me allll the time though, I finally had to tell her face-to-face that the texting had to stop due to how unprofessional it had gotten.. Things have never been the same between us, but oh well.

    I's day ignore the request. They are likely to even notice. And if they do, just laugh and say you never check your FB..
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    Sep 15, 2011 12:11 PM GMT
    Add her but make sure to hide certain statuses she might find non-PC. PC police types are always on the lookout, so if she is one of those... then make sure she doesn't see anything that could pierce her paper-thin skin.
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    Sep 15, 2011 12:15 PM GMT
    This is a perfect example why my company STRONGLY suggests that employees here do not have Facebook pages. It is very frowned upon. icon_sad.gif
    They do search/check/spy to see who does amoungst us. When located, the employee is asked to remove it. If they don't, they do not get fired. But my company is VERY generous to us both in salary and bonuses. So they expect their wishes to be followed. If you don't, then that employee suffers the financial consequences.

    I was asked to speak to one of the people I'm in charge of to shut down their profile last year. Luckily they did. She is really an excellent employee. Would hate to have seen a productivity loss in my division. Phew! icon_wink.gif

    Tristan
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    Sep 15, 2011 12:16 PM GMT
    Don't add her. Just because she's your boss doesn't mean you have to be her friend and just because you might want to be your friend doesn't mean you have to add her on your Facebook.

    There are some things and some people that you should keep separate from work and from personal life. You shouldn't have to filter yourself on your page because of your friends and by adding your boss that's exactly what you will be doing. Plus you give them access to part of your personal life and that's not something you wanna do with a boss.
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    Sep 15, 2011 12:16 PM GMT
    I might approve it, but I would immediately set up filters. LOTS of filters.

    Facebook doesn't have to be all potentially incriminating stuff though. If you are knowledgeable on a particular subject, you can always write notes about it and help your friends learn about it. For me, that's the realm of finance and economics. When the whole world was going to hell in 2008, I was able to help explain in notes what was going on and how it could impact us. Many of my friends appreciated that.
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    Sep 15, 2011 12:17 PM GMT
    This is why you need to not have your last name on there! Do your first and middle name or something so that people can't find you! If you absolutely need to be on facebook for work, then create a new profile.
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    Sep 15, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
    musclefetish1 saidThis is a perfect example why my company STRONGLY suggests that employees here do not have Facebook pages. It is very frowned upon. icon_sad.gif
    They do search/check/spy to see who does amoungst us. When located, the employee is asked to remove it. If they don't, they do not get fired. But my company is VERY generous to us both in salary and bonuses. So they expect their wishes to be followed. If you don't, then that employee suffers the financial consequences.

    I was asked to speak to one of the people I'm in charge of to shut down their profile last year. Luckily they did. She is really an excellent employee. Would hate to have seen a productivity loss in my division. Phew! icon_wink.gif

    Tristan



    Good grief. That seems incredibly intrusive.
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    Sep 15, 2011 1:04 PM GMT
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    I do not I repeat do not add co-workers.
    One girl got fired for the dumbest thing- she shouldnt have added co-workers.


    Sad but true. Facebook as gotten many people fired. Granted they did it themselves but you have to stop think sometimes how things would've gone had they NOT added co-workers as friends.

    Having co-workers or a boss as a friend gives then a way to keep tabs on you when you're not at work.
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    Sep 15, 2011 1:08 PM GMT
    When in doubt keep them out. If they are offended, that's their issue and your right.

    I am the National Director of Marketing and Social Media for my company. Though we do not forbid being friends with your employees, we strongly suggest you don't. I work for a restaurant chain, and for liability with alcohol and harassment we have a no fraternization policy, so it fits in line with that. The policy also has some guidelines on how to conduct yourself

    Its actually against FB policy to hold more than one account. I suggest you decide what you want your online relationships to be and what your professional relationships to be. There are other networks like Linked in that may be more appropriate for professional relationships.

    I am friends with a very few of my co-workers. Not that I have anything to hide. I just prefer to keep that line clear. I also keep my profile hidden to those who I do not know.

    Remember, the best way to be connected in a social network is face to face. We managed for a long time without Facebook. Its not imperative to extend or even participate in these networks.
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    Sep 15, 2011 1:08 PM GMT
    You need to add him but put him on your limited profile with very strict settings: s/he cannot see your status updates, photos, notes, anything sensitive. maybe groups you are in. Anyway thats what I do.