Thinking of closing my realjock account

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 15, 2011 12:58 PM GMT
    I've been thinking of shutting down my realjock account. I spend hours on here and sometimes its good and encouraging and other times I feel old and broken down and rejected. Just like life!

    I've met a bunch of really nice guys on here, way more balanced than other sites I've been to, but not many local to where I am.

    On top of all that, maybe I don't know what I'm looking for or who I am and I'm just confusing myself hanging out here.

    Just wondered what you guys thought.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 15, 2011 1:01 PM GMT
    Hey canadaguy...just take it for what it is...some forums, workout plans, and some chat....
    you don't need to know what you want...just enjoy what's here...one foot in front of the other icon_smile.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 15, 2011 1:02 PM GMT
    Hey I know exactly what your talking about. Where are you anyways? It sounds like were both in the same boat. Small town and not much action. I would be more than happy to become friends with you. I'm sure we have lots in common. Booneicon_cool.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 15, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    canadaguy48_vic said...I'm just confusing myself hanging out here.

    Just wondered what you guys thought.

    I think you may be confused, but not because you're hanging out here. It's likely because you can't act on it to give yourself closure, one way or the other.

    You live in Victoria, or near there, right? I know it, naturally. Absolutely gorgeous, yet isolated in its own way, despite being a provincial capital. And you sound isolated yourself.

    Not an inaccessible place, but not easy to get off the island, either, it's ferry or plane. And so much tempting good stuff not that far away. Vancouver, of course, or Seattle on the US side, where I lived 5 years and came out, close to your age, or Bellingham, my favorite campground and where I crabbed in the Strait. But from Victoria you just don't hop in your car and visit these places at the drop of a hat.

    Nor can you meet these RJ guys at the drop of a hat, and I wonder if both those problems are what's eating at you. Your profile hints at it. You're lonely and longing to meet guys. And either fulfill your destiny, or find that's not your path.

    Should you remain on RJ? I think it's better than the alternative. And maybe there'll be an RJ meet-up in Vancouver or Seattle before long, something you could do for a few days. But leaving this site will be withdrawing and giving up. And missing out on the 124 RJ members a search for Victoria reveals. Nothing like the numbers in Seattle or Vancouver, but guys who in turn could further network you into the gay community there.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 15, 2011 2:44 PM GMT
    Please just try to hang in there. Increasing your profile visibility by posting more will help a lot. Think about that please.

    RJ even though dysfunctional at times, has by far the fastest turnaround time and interesting people. We need a moderator though. I vote for trollileo. RJ should pay him icon_wink.gif
  • Import

    Posts: 7193

    Sep 15, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    Wittle baaaby wants to dewete his account. Go ahead dude, it's not that deep.


    *takes a bite of taco
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 15, 2011 3:03 PM GMT
    Import saidWittle baaaby wants to dewete his account. Go ahead dude, it's not that deep.


    *takes a bite of taco


    Haha I thought this was hilarious but dont understand the taco reference.

    I get it - sounds stupid but to be honest - the only gay guys I know are on here - this is kind of my connection to the gay world.

    OK, that sounds more pathetic. haha.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 15, 2011 3:04 PM GMT
    Import saidWittle baaaby wants to dewete his account. Go ahead dude, it's not that deep.


    *takes a bite of taco


    taco??? LOL
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 15, 2011 6:29 PM GMT
    I've found gay websites are like the tide: no interest then interest all at once. Stay on. Come on over to Vancouver and I'll buy ya a coffee and hear your story... Maybe all you need is someone to vent to or hear whatever you are going through.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 15, 2011 8:04 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    waimea saidRJ even though dysfunctional at times, has by far the fastest turnaround time and interesting people. We need a moderator though. I vote for trollileo. RJ should pay him icon_wink.gif
    Wait, what?


    Nooo! He will delete all my posts :-(
  • masculumpedes

    Posts: 5549

    Sep 15, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    Trollileo said
    waimea saidRJ even though dysfunctional at times, has by far the fastest turnaround time and interesting people. We need a moderator though. I vote for trollileo. RJ should pay him icon_wink.gif
    Wait, what?


    Nooo! He will delete all my posts :-(


    YES!....You can always trust a guy with nice feet....icon_cool.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 15, 2011 8:33 PM GMT
    Leave it open and go away for a while. That's what I did when I first opened my account. Sometimes I disappear for awhile, then I come back.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 16, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    cry-me-a-river.gif