Spin-off on SkinnyBitch's "Do you make yourself beautiful to 'deserve' someone beautiful?" (great question, btw)

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    Sep 18, 2011 10:12 AM GMT
    Have you ever felt that supremely good-looking guys were "invisible" because, while there are very few socially acceptable versions of "the beautiful", there is an infinite variety of "the interesting", "the unusual" -- in other words, there are guys who aren't conventionally good-looking but who can catch your eye and capture your heart by possessing a mysterious something that you will not find on the cover of a magazine or ramp?

    In other words, is it possible that when a very good looking guy walks past, a part of you says, "Seen that, I'm tired of drooling over what I could never have anyway"? But when someone who's...different...walks past, you find yourself incredibly interested, sometimes even stalking the guy..?
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    Sep 18, 2011 10:31 AM GMT
    The je ne sais quoi.
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    Sep 18, 2011 11:45 AM GMT
    Anduru saidThe je ne sais quoi.


    the "that's IT" that no one can forget
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    Sep 18, 2011 11:46 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidYeah, I think I get it. When I look at incredibly hot guys, I might as well be looking at a magazine (that's how disconnected I am with the prospect of sexing said guy.) And the guys who I find myself feeling a spark for, usually have some quirky feature, some 'flaw' or uniqueness. Some (Mark Messier) are downright ugly, but there's something there. icon_twisted.gif

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    I see what you're seeing in him, yes!
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    Sep 18, 2011 11:46 AM GMT
    being said
    Anduru saidThe je ne sais quoi.
    the "that's IT" that no one can forget
    The je ne sais quoi.
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    Sep 18, 2011 11:48 AM GMT
    Anduru said
    being said
    Anduru saidThe je ne sais quoi.
    the "that's IT" that no one can forget
    The je ne sais quoi.


    I believe we're talking about the same thing? Unless I'm wrong?
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    Sep 18, 2011 12:01 PM GMT
    Yes!

    Mine is confidence. It makes a phenomenal difference and I'm not talking about the confidence that comes with society elevating you as the most desirable (so the super hot guys). The confidence that can only come from within
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    Sep 18, 2011 12:57 PM GMT
    adam228 saidYes!

    Mine is confidence. It makes a phenomenal difference and I'm not talking about the confidence that comes with society elevating you as the most desirable (so the super hot guys). The confidence that can only come from within


    But it must be an inclusive confidence, not confidence at the expense of others' dignity. It must pull you in and embrace you.

    (I have a major weakness for nice guys)
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    Sep 18, 2011 1:10 PM GMT
    being said
    adam228 saidYes!

    Mine is confidence. It makes a phenomenal difference and I'm not talking about the confidence that comes with society elevating you as the most desirable (so the super hot guys). The confidence that can only come from within


    But it must be an inclusive confidence, not confidence at the expense of others' dignity. It must pull you in and embrace you.

    (I have a major weakness for nice guys)



    Cool questions and interesting points, Being.

    Bill, to me, is pleasing to MY eyes. His voice gives me small electrical surges. To paraphrase The Beatles, 'something in the way he moves, attracts me like no other lover'.

    Is Bill very confident? Am I? Probably not, lol. A good thing in a way, because we each get a private thrill from boosting each others' confidence. Bill says the ways in which I help others make him melt and always has.

    Interesting, eh?

    -Doug

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    Sep 18, 2011 1:13 PM GMT
    being saidI believe we're talking about the same thing? Unless I'm wrong?
    je ne sais quoi
       /ʒənə sɛ ˈkwa/ [zhuhnuh se kwa]
    French.
    an indefinable, elusive quality, especially a pleasing one: She has a certain je ne sais quoi that charms everybody.
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    Sep 18, 2011 1:34 PM GMT
    Anduru saidThe je ne sais quoi.


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    Sep 19, 2011 5:34 AM GMT
    engine92056 said
    Anduru saidThe je ne sais quoi.


    je ne sais queer? icon_wink.gif



    *leaping to feet in applause*
    bravo! bravo!
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    Sep 19, 2011 5:34 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    being said
    adam228 saidYes!

    Mine is confidence. It makes a phenomenal difference and I'm not talking about the confidence that comes with society elevating you as the most desirable (so the super hot guys). The confidence that can only come from within


    But it must be an inclusive confidence, not confidence at the expense of others' dignity. It must pull you in and embrace you.

    (I have a major weakness for nice guys)



    Cool questions and interesting points, Being.

    Bill, to me, is pleasing to MY eyes. His voice gives me small electrical surges. To paraphrase The Beatles, 'something in the way he moves, attracts me like no other lover'.

    Is Bill very confident? Am I? Probably not, lol. A good thing in a way, because we each get a private thrill from boosting each others' confidence. Bill says the ways in which I help others make him melt and always has.

    Interesting, eh?

    -Doug



    interesting? i'd say it's beautiful !!! icon_biggrin.gif