Two questions for a gay sex newbie

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    Sep 18, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    Hey all, I only realized I was gay about a year and a half ago so I'm not very experienced...well, experienced at all really. I'm in the beginning stages with this guy and he is incredible in bed and really experienced. He says he doesn't care I'm inexperienced and I trust him/buy it, but I have two main questions...

    1) I get so nervous that I never cum when I'm with a guy. Seriously, this guy was sending me just about everywhere I could possibly go last night, he was blowing me and hitting nerves I didn't know existed, it was the single most pleasurable thing I've ever experienced...except after 15-20 minutes, still no cum and not even close to cumming. As soon as I realize I'm not cumming, I get all self-conscious about it and get in my head. I really like this guy and want to give him a load and don't want it to be this thing where I can never cum in front of him, any suggestions? I have literally never cummed with any guy, ever, and I want to change that.

    2) Any tips of things I can be doing? I know a lot of it is listening to his body and seeing what turns him on, but I'd love any tips you guys have for gay sex where I'm incredibly inexperienced and he is the exact opposite.
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    Sep 18, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    Quit thinking about it so hard.. just enjoy it and let thing naturally happen. In time it will.
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    Sep 18, 2011 5:17 PM GMT
    Why do you have a time limit in mind? Unless you're having a quickie I don't think watching the clock is really going to help your anxiety about this.

    Apart from that you shouldn't think about it so hard, just like TropicalMark says. Don't think "this is taking so long"... why not think, "This is so freaking hot!"
  • Koaa2

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    Sep 18, 2011 10:46 PM GMT
    Ya, there is no time limit. I am sure he just wants to be with you for who you are not when you will cum. Try to relax as best you can, enjoy what is happening and forget that you must cum, it will take care of itself.
  • wpc56

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    Sep 19, 2011 6:26 AM GMT
    Thinking is probably the worst you can do during sex, try not to think so hard about trying to "perform" and just relax.

    Secondly, how often do you wank? If you really want to "cum", you can keep your hands off yourself for a few weeks or a month... by that point any stimulation will probably cause you to cum uncontrollably icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 19, 2011 3:53 PM GMT
    wpc56 said
    Secondly, how often do you wank? If you really want to "cum", you can keep your hands off yourself for a few weeks or a month... by that point any stimulation will probably cause you to cum uncontrollably icon_cool.gif


    I usually jack off as soon as I get up, and then probably a second time every third day (but that's more if something really sets me off online, TV, etc).

    I'll probably see him late this weekend, so I think I'll stop jacking off Tuesday or Wednesday and see what goes down. I have a feeling it's 100% mental, so if I blow my load once I'll probably be fine after that.
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    Sep 19, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    Do you always watch porn when you jack off? Needing those images can be cause complications with someone new. I've been in the same boat. Like the others said, try to relax and don't worry how long it takes. Also, don't jack off for a few days before you see him. Be more verbal with him and tell him exactly what you want to do to him/have done to you. Have fun. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 02, 2011 9:49 PM GMT
    travelfan said
    wpc56 said
    Secondly, how often do you wank? If you really want to "cum", you can keep your hands off yourself for a few weeks or a month... by that point any stimulation will probably cause you to cum uncontrollably icon_cool.gif


    I usually jack off as soon as I get up, and then probably a second time every third day (but that's more if something really sets me off online, TV, etc).

    I'll probably see him late this weekend, so I think I'll stop jacking off Tuesday or Wednesday and see what goes down. I have a feeling it's 100% mental, so if I blow my load once I'll probably be fine after that.


    How did it go? It is probably mental buddy.