This is an .......AWKWARD SITUATION :(

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    Sep 18, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    So i really dont know where to start.....
    i was dating this guy from Dubai and he was really amazing and we would hang out a lot and i remember him telling be about his family like how he had a brother and he could speak English a little and they would go the chicago and other places for his case,,, I stop talking to the guy and i moved to a different city , (Chicago) for a little and i met the most amazing guy we talked all the time and we had sex a few times . but then i started to realize some things he spoke bad English , he was from Dubai , he told me last nigh he had a brother in Michigan
    so i asked him what his brother name was and i just had to go because his brother is coming to his house today and they do not know that are both gay .... So i really don't know what to do because i was suppose to go to dinner with them but I DONT WANT TO GO NOW


    Im sorry if i didnt make any sense im just so nervous i can think str8
  • rebelbeard

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    Sep 18, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    Oh Lordy Lordy that is a situation!

    This is a tricky one because on the one hand I want to tell you just steer clear of the situation. On the other hand I want you to help the brothers discover they are both gay. That would be great for them and their relationship.

    Go with your gut feeling on this one I guess.
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    Sep 18, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
    HighOctane saidOh Lordy Lordy that is a situation!

    This is a tricky one because on the one hand I want to tell you just steer clear of the situation. On the other hand I want you to help the brothers discover they are both gay. That would be great for them and their relationship.

    Go with your gut feeling on this one I guess.

    ha no i think one of them would try to kill me :/ ali is crazy
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    Sep 18, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    11337S saidso, basically, you're a brother fucker?
    you got it on with both men and they don't know it?
    how do u manage?
    you find two guys from dubai when they're already pretty scarce in the world
    and urs just happen to be brothers...
    who happen to be related..
    which you have happened to bothly screwed..

    well, blood is thicker than liquor
    so i suggest u get em both plastered
    and have a go at em, together!


    its not my fault i swear i thought i would of never been in a situation like this, i mean there are millions of people in America and i just so happen to met two brothers in two different city's
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    Sep 18, 2011 5:40 PM GMT
    11337S said
    tonylavon734 said
    HighOctane saidOh Lordy Lordy that is a situation!

    This is a tricky one because on the one hand I want to tell you just steer clear of the situation. On the other hand I want you to help the brothers discover they are both gay. That would be great for them and their relationship.

    Go with your gut feeling on this one I guess.

    ha no i think one of them would try to kill me :/ ali is crazy


    ali has every reason to be crazy!
    i can't believe you!!!!!!!!!!!


    oh COME ON I DIDNT KNOW ......
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    Sep 18, 2011 5:46 PM GMT
    11337S saidwere u hunting specifically for guys from dubai?
    what about all other ethnicities?
    were they taken?

    even if they were from dubai
    i'm sure it'd take a lot more than two good friends
    to grant u a few nights at the burj al arab
    seriously.


    um no actually i met the first one at metro beach in michigan and we clicked , then i met the other one at the store and we saw each other at the gym the next day and started talking more and they both talked to me first i didnt pic anyone i love all guys so
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    Sep 18, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    Well this certainly is an interesting situation. Before you bow out...Ask the guy you're currently in touch with on how he would feel if his bro found out he was gay. Then query the topic on if his bro 'hypothetically' was gay too....

    OR and this a merely an off hand suggestion

    Leave something behind at his house that his bro would KNOW that it belonged to you....

    If you don't feel that you should be involved then bow out but respectfully tell the guy you're currently slept with that you are not into him any more...
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Sep 18, 2011 7:07 PM GMT
    Screw both brothers don't let them find out. When they do eventually find out, the one that loves u the most will stick with u. Hopefully....
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    Sep 18, 2011 7:14 PM GMT
    Dude, have a three-way icon_biggrin.gif or wait until I can get there and we'll have a four-way! icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 18, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    tonylavon734 said
    11337S saidwere u hunting specifically for guys from dubai?
    what about all other ethnicities?
    were they taken?

    even if they were from dubai
    i'm sure it'd take a lot more than two good friends
    to grant u a few nights at the burj al arab
    seriously.


    um no actually i met the first one at metro beach in michigan and we clicked , then i met the other one at the store and we saw each other at the gym the next day and started talking more and they both talked to me first i didnt pic anyone i love all guys so

    Tony: 11337S is the worst kind of troll. It's got no interest in your issue aside from the fact that someone (you) is being stupid enough to actually give it some screen time. Ignore it. Nothing helpful will come from that direction. Ever. It's only using you to create its trolly content (look at this thread for evidence of that.)

    I side with HighOctane: you've got two brothers from a society that isolates gays and I can't help think it would be wonderful if they knew they had the support of each other. That said, family dynamics are not 'obvious'...you never know how people are going to react. And there is the added complication that you've dated both (which could be really awkward for them or incredibly funny.)

    I don't know how I would have handled the situation at 19. But at my age, I think I would be inclined to help them both bridge the gap, even if that meant no relationship with either guy. But it would need to be handled with a lot of tact and sensitivity...the stakes are so high for guys from that culture dealing with gay issues.



    ha but this really sucks this haves been the best relationship i have ever been in my hole life and its now going to end, DAMIT maybe i was it just was not meant to be, i already know ali is going to brake up with me if i let him know this and his brother is crazy to so hopefully i dont die , but i think i should probably let them know that they are both gay but idk im so nervious
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    Sep 18, 2011 7:52 PM GMT
    i was jk about the dying part lol ^^^^^^^
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    Sep 18, 2011 8:47 PM GMT
    11337S saidso, basically, you're a brother fucker?
    you got it on with both men and they don't know it?
    how do u manage?
    you find two guys from dubai when they're already pretty scarce in the world
    and urs just happen to be brothers...
    who happen to be related..
    which you have happened to bothly screwed..

    well, blood is thicker than liquor
    so i suggest u get em both plastered
    and have a go at em, together!


    I can only top if they are related icon_redface.gif
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    Sep 18, 2011 8:50 PM GMT


    What a situation it is... I say go to dinner.. It'd make a great story!!!

    The first being that you had sex with both of them, and that the two brother's found out that they are gay, and had been gay with you...icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 18, 2011 9:50 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidIt's a really tough situation. I can't relate to the feelings you have, because I'm not in the situation, but if these are two gay brothers exploring their true selves in the relative safety of the US, knowing the other is in the same boat could be life-altering in a positive way.

    I've heard of situations where there were two gay brothers and one saw the first come out to family and friends, but it was so awful that the second not only didn't stand up for his brother but then stayed closeted longer out of fear of what would happen to him. I can't help think that if they knew ahead of time they could have worked out a better strategy. Fighting for your rights alone is very different than fighting for the rights of you and someone else.

    So yeah, this kind of earthshattering news is very possibly going to ruin the chance of a relationship. But you're 19...not many people can manage successful relationships at that age even when everything is going in their favour. And he (the brother you want more) might actually really feel bonded to you that you would risk a personal relationship with one of them because you felt it was more important that they know about each other. And bottom-line, what happens if you DO continue to date one of the brothers and become close....isn't it going to be even more awkward NOT having that conversation?? (I just don't see a future where you're with one of these guys AND you've NOT had this conversation amongst you.)

    You didn't create this situation: you're not complicit or responsible or anything. But you've been thrown in it....the universe has given you the chance to make a difference in these guys' lives. The ball is in your court.



    ha i was really thinking that well tonight will be an interesting night im really scared but well
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    Sep 18, 2011 9:50 PM GMT
    dragondevil said

    What a situation it is... I say go to dinner.. It'd make a great story!!!

    The first being that you had sex with both of them, and that the two brother's found out that they are gay, and had been gay with you...icon_biggrin.gif


    yea... already have stores to tell the kids lol
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    Sep 18, 2011 11:10 PM GMT
    tonylavon734 said i moved to a different Chicago


    I'd like to visit this "different Chicago". Crazy story, BTW. Go to the dinner and bring a reality TV crew.
    (Side note: Anyone else have difficulty reading that? I mean, it looks like English...)
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    Sep 18, 2011 11:44 PM GMT
    OK. This is SO out there... you HAVE to tell us what happens.. and (honestly) good luck to you... and to both of them. Hope they take it well. Ummm...

    OTHER POTENTIAL SCENARIO:

    What if.... IF... it turns out they're NOT related. I mean - do they even look similar?? That said, they could be half brothers or adopted.

    BE SMART ABOUT HOW YOU BRING ANYTHING UP - JUST IN CASE.

    I'd honestly map this out on paper first. No joke! Insane.
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    Sep 19, 2011 12:05 AM GMT
    Danger, Danger. Danger Will Robinson!!!

    Seriously, get out. Get out of this. Go no further.

    This is a lose/lose scenario for you. There is no upside.

    My advice is get out of this and don't look back.
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    Sep 19, 2011 12:58 AM GMT
    Damn.. I'm jealous hahaha you got them both!

    I was dating a guy and his brother was gay and cute too, I wanted to do them both hahaha
  • MrPapo317

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    Sep 19, 2011 1:11 AM GMT
    Awkward id say
    .. wow

    I would agree with Alpha_Muscle get away from that shituation!
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    Sep 19, 2011 1:15 AM GMT
    Wow ... thats it xD
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    Sep 19, 2011 1:59 AM GMT
    TerraFirma said
    tonylavon734 said i moved to a different Chicago


    I'd like to visit this "different Chicago". Crazy story, BTW. Go to the dinner and bring a reality TV crew.
    (Side note: Anyone else have difficulty reading that? I mean, it looks like English...)


    i ment different city ,i was in Michigan first
  • omatix

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    Sep 19, 2011 2:23 AM GMT
    1. Getting stuck in shit like this (although this specific situation might have been very unlikely) is why you don't date guys who are in the closet.

    2. Not only are they both in the closet, you get the vibe that they'd flip out if they figured out that their brother was gay? They sound awesome.

    3, And, wait, they'd also flip out if they found out that they'd accidentally dated the same person? Even better.

    Jesus. Run away, then stop and figure out why you don't choose better relationships.
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    Sep 19, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
    Omatix said1. Getting stuck in shit like this (although this specific situation might have been very unlikely) is why you don't date guys who are in the closet.

    2. Not only are they both in the closet, you get the vibe that they'd flip out if they figured out that their brother was gay? They sound awesome.

    3, And, wait, they'd also flip out if they found out that they'd accidentally dated the same person? Even better.

    Jesus. Run away, then stop and figure out why you don't choose better relationships.


    all my relationships are always F up icon_sad.gif my life sucks i think god just hates me seriously my first time was with a guy we were caught by his step sister and he had to move back to him mothers house
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    Sep 19, 2011 2:47 AM GMT
    tonylavon734 said
    all my relationships are always F up icon_sad.gif my life sucks i think god just hates me seriously my first time was with a guy we were caught by his step sister and he had to move back to him mothers house


    Shit happens. Date people who are worth your time.