Telling my dad that I am gay - LIVE

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    Sep 20, 2011 2:08 PM GMT
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    Sep 20, 2011 3:13 PM GMT
    I also think this guy is adorable.
  • hartfan

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    Sep 20, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    Powerful stuff. Brings back many memories for me, not all of them good. But it's almost cathartic seeing this.


    Scruffypup saidI also think this guy is adorable.


    I second that.
  • Neurons

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    Sep 20, 2011 3:18 PM GMT
    That was such a sweet video. His dad sounds so caring and loving. If my dad were still alive, that the kind of guy I'd want him to be. I'm so happy for this guy!
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    Sep 20, 2011 3:21 PM GMT
    Damn that was so moving.
  • beaujangle

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    Sep 20, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    Wow, I'm impressed! I must say I felt emotional but they appear pretty calm.
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    Sep 20, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
    that was awesome icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 20, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    That was really touching icon_smile.gif. I was nervous for him! It sounded like they had a good relationship with each other
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    Sep 20, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidHe should have called collect!
    ur jokes are tacky and i hate u
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    Sep 20, 2011 3:50 PM GMT
    **crying**

    I was so proud of that Dad. And that is exactly what my Dad was like. He took it in stride and said, "Well, it is what it is and nothing has changed. If you need me I am here."

    Loved that Scruffypup! Thanks for the post!
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    Sep 20, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    Aww. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 20, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Anduru said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidHe should have called collect!
    ur jokes are tacky and i hate u


    Great. I'm glad you hate me, so no need to start trolling me in every thread.



    You're probably the only person left who hasn't blocked his ass. I'm not even aware of his existence anymore until someone occasionally quotes him. (Also not a good idea.)
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    Sep 20, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    TOUCHING !!!
    love this video actually
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    Sep 20, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    Great post! Thanks for that.

    It's funny how watching after the fact, I can see things I would have done differently. However, I know when you're in the heat of the moment you're not always able to follow a script.

    He did a great job though.
  • Lincsbear

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    Sep 20, 2011 4:05 PM GMT
    A very moving post!
    I never managed to tell my father I was gay.It`s my one regret(even though I think he knew anyway).
    It brings back memories(and a few tears) of telling my mother,how I 'worked' myself up all day to do it and then she just smiled when I told in the late afternoon.She was completely unfazed by my news.I was always her son and loved.
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    Sep 20, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    I am a dad. Can I tell you guys that parents ALWAYS know? My son isn't gay, my daughter might be. Too early to tell. But when they told me about deep things they did or thought, I always knew.

    If you are gay and your dad is loving and caring and involved in your life and doesn't seem to notice anything, I bet he knows and is waiting for you to address it.

    If your dad is stern, unhappy, preachy he may STILL know but wont react well.

    I dont know, I think that parents who are loving and supportive will be loving and supportive no matter what happens.
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    Sep 20, 2011 4:22 PM GMT
    From reading the comments beforehand I knew what was about to happen in the video but it still gave me chills. That guy has an amazing dad.
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    Sep 20, 2011 4:31 PM GMT
    Awww :] ... when he clutched his chest with one hand & almost broke into tears... I was like *Get a bloody grip softy!*

    Lol jk...


    It was hella moving. I felt physically nervous/emotional/relieved for him watching that. Also, it was surprisingly revealing how well the news was accepted as opposed to how most people build it up to be a terrifying thing in one's head.

    This type of video is a great idea for gay youth who need to prepare themselves for coming out, hopefully there will a stream load more coming-out vids, the good as well as not so.

    Great find. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 20, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI think I should block him.

    Sorry for quoting him in this thread.


    Ugh, why the hell didn't he stay away. I only notice when he is quoted. The video was phenomenal. I wish my mothers reaction was like his.
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    Sep 20, 2011 4:49 PM GMT
    i came out 2 my rents a week ago last friday. i thought i'd tell my Pop 1st, but...well, i'm not sure why i decided 2 tell them at the same time.

    they love me. they told me so, they tell me so... f-word, now i'm crying....

    thank you for sharing, scruffypup.
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    Sep 20, 2011 4:50 PM GMT
    Seems like an attention-whorey thing to do. Is it really necessary to post something as personal as this on YouTube? Whatever happened to having a private life?
  • starboard5

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    Sep 20, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    Total sidebar and I know I'm probably going to get shit for this but:

    Am I the only person who thinks this is inappropriate? To record such a deeply personal and intimate exchange and publish it on the Internet?

    Of course, we all feel good for this guy; it's a beautiful thing, And I do not think he had any self-serving intentions whatsoever in doing this.

    This is an example of how technology changes people. We're losing the skill to discriminate between what's public and private.
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    Sep 20, 2011 4:57 PM GMT
    starboard5 saidTotal sidebar and I know I'm probably going to get shit for this but:

    Am I the only person who thinks this is inappropriate? To record such a deeply personal and intimate exchange and publish it on the Internet?

    Of course, we all feel good for this guy; it's a beautiful thing, And I do not think he had any self-serving intentions whatsoever in doing this.

    This is an example of how technology changes people. We're losing the skill to discriminate between what's public and private.


    To a certain extent, I agree with you. The lines of distinction between public and private are certainly blurred as technology becomes increasingly invasive. In this circumstance, however, I believe it to be a good thing.

    He recorded this first before uploading it to Youtube. I imagine that if the outcome were different he may not have put it up. Then again he very well may have. I think that now more than ever this kind of material, where a father, who lives in Alabama, shows his love and support for his son, who happens to be in the US Military and is stationed in Germany, is a very powerful thing for young gay men out there to see.

    Very rarely do people ever get to have the kind of powerful experience that true love and support without strings attached can bring. That man is lucky and his story, his experience serves as that beacon of hope that I feel humanity desperately needs.
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    Sep 20, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    I think it's a great thing to put on youtube. It's a great for parents and gays who are struggling with coming out. It'll help parents understand how difficult it is for their kids to come out to them and it'll teach them to be accepting of their kids no matter what. The guy in the video looks like he's in his mid-20's. If his parents actually seemed accepting of gays from the time he was 3 and told him that they are alright with it, he might have told them a lot sooner.
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    Sep 20, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    I just realized that this is the "gay military" guy that has been making headless videos for a while now. This is the first video that he shows his face in.