Your school is not that conservative, one of my good friends queens it up all over campus and has never had an issue. Neither has his slightly less queeny boyfriend seen any negative repercussions.
To answer your question, how to meet people before you are ready to be out, you can go with grindr if you have a smartphone; adam4adam; manhunt; craigslist; or just message someone on RJ. Straight guys do not make accounts, flirt with guys all day, and then publicly out them to shame them. You will be among "family" on those sites. However, with the exception of RJ, most of the users of those sites are just as desperate and ONLY looking for sex, not a conversation. Although there are always exceptions to the general rule.
I think more than just finding someone to have sex with, you need someone responsible and engaging to have earnest conversations with - sort of like a mentor/mentee relationship - just so you can start feeling more comfortable about things and receive feedback and honest answers to questions that are sometimes just as difficult to answer as they are to frame. The worst thing you can do is be shy about it, you will never feel empowered to say something witty and sarcastic or call out someone's heteronormativity in a discussion. You are still learning a lot about yourself. A good environment to be in is one where you feel comfortable and at ease exposing all of your personality and your thoughts.
Look for someone supportive, willing to talk to you as a person, that is not going to instantly try to get your pants off. It is okay if the pants do come off at a certain point - but it should not be your primary objective. If you actually convince yourself what I have said is a good idea, then that should entirely eclipse the desperateness that might otherwise be obvious to a predator from a mile away.
It's not hard to find out which faculty members are gay also - select one you will never take a course from, e-mail him asking for a few minutes of his time in his role as a campus Ally, and just start talking. Don't flirt of course - just get some feedback on your thoughts.
You put a face photo on RJ, which must have been nerve wracking to begin to put yourself out there in the community. You are on the right path