Funny how we have all these means of communication but people suck at communicating

  • Joeyphx444

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    Sep 21, 2011 6:10 AM GMT
    Just thinking icon_razz.gif
    Maybe I am just getting people like that or who are not interested in really talking

    If you meet someone who is interested in you they should chat with you and initiate conversation right?
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    Sep 21, 2011 6:18 AM GMT
    Mmm, I'd say so.

    You must have just had that happen to you. Am I right?
  • Lincsbear

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    Sep 21, 2011 6:44 AM GMT
    Totally agree.
    Because we`ve made the mistake of thinking communication is about technology,whereas it`s all about people.The machinery has allowed us to live separate lives and we`ve adapted to a more solitary existence.I think we may have become lazier as well.The there`s the issue of how this medium(or any other) is demoralizing us to the point where nobody really cares too much about anyone online.Manners seem lower on here than in the real world.No wonder so many are poorer at communicating these days.
    I`ve had lots of guys say they`re willing/interested to talk,but they wait for me to initiate something,they don`t give anything to get things going.It`s as if they`re really busy elsewhere and you`re just an incidental part of their lives at best.They seem to have forgotten communicating is a two way street.It`s frustrating and off putting.Ultimately,if they don`t make the effort,I doubt they`re really worth knowing.There are so many other guys online anyway.
    My brother is the same.He lives away from me and has all the latest kit,but can I actually talk to him?Not without a struggle!
    The answer is probably to switch the computer off more and go meet guys in the real world,in clubs of interest,etc.
  • spaceofficer

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    Sep 21, 2011 6:45 AM GMT
    like... on the internet or in real life? cuz those are two complete different realities brah.
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
    godandsatan saidlike... on the internet or in real life? cuz those are two complete different realities brah.



    One's merely an extension of the other, and that's been forgotten.

    A telephone call and a conversation in person both involve real people, as an example.

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    Sep 21, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    "...people suck at communicating..."

    Please speak for yourself.

    My communication skills are more than adequate.
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    Sep 21, 2011 2:32 PM GMT
    You only have to look here to see all the dating-gone-sour threads of people who seem to have difficulty making the transition from internet life to real life. There are many here that only have gay friends online, some only on this site. For some, probably most of their friends in general, gay or straight, are online. I look at all the difficulty gay men have in dating today and I remember a time when I was a young man when it seems we were more successful in dating life at a time when we did not have so many forms of communication (no internet, no Grindr), homosexuality was not as accepted by society, and there were less out people. You would think dating would be easier, but it seems it has only become more difficult.
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    Sep 21, 2011 2:32 PM GMT
    Good point, theantijock.

    Like this then, in order, with better communication being first:

    In person

    By telephone

    By internet (not including web-cam with voice)


    How's that?

    -Doug
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    Sep 21, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    Lol how about those quality xbox live conversations


    --Borrowed from Jason_B on Call of Duty 4 beta forum.XBOX LIVE:

    Person with "sample" gamertag: xxSN1P3Rxx

    -Is 12 years old
    -Really good at Halo 2
    -Likes: glitching, your mom
    -Dislikes: anyone beyond puberty, anyone who kill steals

    xxSN1P3Rxx: OMG you n00b, u R teh GAYZoRZ!!!1 YuO took my kill you faggot!

    Normal Person: Shut up, homo.

    xxSN1P3Rxx: TahT'S wut ur MOM said!!!11!1shift!

    Normal Person: Talk to me when your balls drop.


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    Sep 21, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
    I like modern digital communications, though they do have their drawbacks when used for interpersonal messaging. The lack of voice inflection and body language, mentioned earlier above, places the responsibility for conveying the message meaning solely upon the written words alone. And many people today do not have very sophisticated writing skills, at least not those individuals coming out of the current US education system.

    There was a time when people had "pen pals" with whom they corresponded by paper mail over great distances, sometimes leading to their meeting in person, or sometimes never. I see computerized communications in much the same way, just a faster and paperless form of it. Plus when you post to blogs & forums, or blast an e-mail, you can have many readers at once, rather than just one. But the principle to me is the same, and really quite old.

    Nor does it lead me to substitute virtual friends for real ones. On the contrary, I use the one to increase the other, to expand the scope and locale of people I meet in person. And when we meet I communicate all over them. paulflexes and a few others right here know that. LOL! And I'm as garrulous on the phone as I am in writing -- just ask meninlove. icon_redface.gif

    So I dunno, modern means of communication has increased my daily communicating utilizing every means, not reduced or narrowed it, nor has it damaged my skills. And my circle of in-person friends has increased since I started going online in the 1980s, not decreased, so I'm certainly not a reclusive shut-in as a result of it (though my friendship numbers also got a big boost due to my coming out gay at the same time).
  • Joeyphx444

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    Sep 22, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    I am talking about mostly about after you've met someone, whether it's from online or in person

    I mean keeping in touch is hard. Should it be? When you have email, text, phone, messengers, Facebook, etc, it should be easy to say hey, let's do something or just a what's up? But then you get the "I'm busy" excuse, which is code for-"I don't really wanna talk to you now or later but I'm not sure"

    Not to mention it's so easy to get a hold of someone and at the same time it's so easy for them to just not reply and push your message to the side