too many hotlistings??

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    Sep 21, 2011 11:48 AM GMT
    So, I was embarrassed to see that I have hotlisted almost 400 men. But when I looked through the list, I really thought they are all hot. On this website I have met some incredible men who are hot and fun and I would love to date, friend, cuddle or fuck almost everyone on my list.

    When does it become excessive? What are your thoughts on guys whose hotlist is too big?
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    Sep 21, 2011 11:51 AM GMT
    Right after you hot list me. Then you can stop.icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 21, 2011 11:59 AM GMT
    I've thought about that exact thing, actually... for a minute there I was kind of pruning my hotlist so that it didn't get over 100 people. But I sort of gave up. Hot is hot, and everyone on my list I'd date or fool around with.

    I think I'm ok right now, but I feel like if I found 500 guys that I thought were hot and interesting, and I were still single, then it's about time I did something about it. A long distance thing would start to look pretty attractive at that point!
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    Sep 21, 2011 12:32 PM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidI've thought about that exact thing, actually... for a minute there I was kind of pruning my hotlist so that it didn't get over 100 people. But I sort of gave up. Hot is hot, and everyone on my list I'd date or fool around with.

    I think I'm ok right now, but I feel like if I found 500 guys that I thought were hot and interesting, and I were still single, then it's about time I did something about it. A long distance thing would start to look pretty attractive at that point!


    For where I live, it is a LDR or no R at all.
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    Sep 21, 2011 12:43 PM GMT
    Same here, buddy icon_confused.gif. My city only exists, seriously, because it is exactly between Jacksonville and Pensacola... in the middle of a swamp.
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    Sep 21, 2011 12:58 PM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidSame here, buddy icon_confused.gif. My city only exists, seriously, because it is exactly between Jacksonville and Pensacola... in the middle of a swamp.


    If you're talking about Tallahassee then what you say is true.
    I don't think the number of guys hotlisted matters. A large number suggests that you find a wide range of guys hot and there's nothing wrong with that.
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:07 PM GMT
    I rarely hot list anyone...Unless I have actually spoken with that person which means he is something worth it

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    Sep 21, 2011 1:10 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidI rarely hot list anyone...Unless I have actually spoken with that person which means he is something worth it



    We've spoken more than once, you jerk!
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:14 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidSo, I was embarrassed to see that I have hotlisted almost 400 men. But when I looked through the list, I really thought they are all hot. On this website I have met some incredible men who are hot and fun and I would love to date, friend, cuddle or fuck almost everyone on my list.

    When does it become excessive? What are your thoughts on guys whose hotlist is too big?


    I'd check your list and not all of them are hot... well, at least ONE is not.
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:16 PM GMT
    Larkin_PLR said
    Fivealive saidI rarely hot list anyone...Unless I have actually spoken with that person which means he is something worth it



    We've spoken more than once, you jerk!


    I didn't hotlist you? I thought I did!! lemme rectify that!

    Done
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:17 PM GMT
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    Alpha_Muscle saidSo, I was embarrassed to see that I have hotlisted almost 400 men. But when I looked through the list, I really thought they are all hot. On this website I have met some incredible men who are hot and fun and I would love to date, friend, cuddle or fuck almost everyone on my list.

    When does it become excessive? What are your thoughts on guys whose hotlist is too big?


    I'd check your list and not all of them are hot... well, at least ONE is not.


    Surely that's just YOUR opinion though - no one gets to dictate what anyone else finds hot.
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:18 PM GMT
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    FastlaneKid said
    Alpha_Muscle saidSo, I was embarrassed to see that I have hotlisted almost 400 men. But when I looked through the list, I really thought they are all hot. On this website I have met some incredible men who are hot and fun and I would love to date, friend, cuddle or fuck almost everyone on my list.

    When does it become excessive? What are your thoughts on guys whose hotlist is too big?


    I'd check your list and not all of them are hot... well, at least ONE is not.


    Surely that's just YOUR opinion though - no one gets to dictate what anyone else finds hot.



    It is. But Did I ask for your opinion of my opinion? no right.
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:18 PM GMT
    Fastlanekid, hotness is entirely subjective. icon_wink.gif

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    Sep 21, 2011 1:20 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidSo, I was embarrassed to see that I have hotlisted almost 400 men. But when I looked through the list, I really thought they are all hot. On this website I have met some incredible men who are hot and fun and I would love to date, friend, cuddle or fuck almost everyone on my list.

    When does it become excessive? What are your thoughts on guys whose hotlist is too big?

    I feel exactly the same way.

    I've kinda given up on the general concept of having it as a bookmark feature, and have begun to use it more like the Facebook Like button.
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    meninlove said Fastlanekid, hotness is entirely subjective. icon_wink.gif



    No, it's funny because the OP PM once when the subject in question which should remind nameless started a tantrum post one night in the forums a while back with me in particular and he (the OP) told me privately this particular RJer is not worth arguing with because "he's full of it" in his own words. I'm sure he meant me arguing with him but perfectly OK for tantrum boy to do so with me. Yet the OP have this "creature" Hot listed. A bit of hypocrisy in there don't you think?
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:31 PM GMT
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    meninlove said Fastlanekid, hotness is entirely subjective. icon_wink.gif



    No, it's funny because the OP PM once when the subject in question which should remind nameless started a tantrum post one night in the forums a while back with me in particular and he (the OP) told me privately this particular RJer is not worth arguing with because "he's full of it" in his own words. I'm sure he meant me arguing with him but perfectly OK for tantrum boy to do so with me. Yet the OP have this "creature" Hot listed. A bit of hypocrisy in there don't you think?


    Hmm, maybe, but hot douchebags are still hot.
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:32 PM GMT
    Hmmm...no, not really. There are many jerks that are good-looking. Now buddy-listing is a whole different thing, and where your observation would be more telling, don't you think?
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:47 PM GMT
    This is why I did not create a hot list
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    a buddy list for that matter icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:50 PM GMT
    meninlove said Hmmm...no, not really. There are many jerks that are good-looking. Now buddy-listing is a whole different thing, and where your observation would be more telling, don't you think?

    Yes, I feel that the buddylist is more about connections than the hotlist.
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    Sep 21, 2011 1:53 PM GMT
    meninlove said Hmmm...no, not really. There are many jerks that are good-looking. Now buddy-listing is a whole different thing, and where your observation would be more telling, don't you think?


    I don't want to derail the OP's thread but I wanna mention there are some of us who are not jerks or douche bags but have lots to offer and we're really good-looking showing ourselves in our up-to-date photos and we get the boot and we're often seen as the "evil one". Judged by others in here base on a number of useless factors because X-dude looks "hotter" is his old half naked pics ( to someone without taste) than Z-dude which have none., and everything X-dude does should be celebrated and approved but not for Z-dude because we don't like him. Which is fine for a shallow website like this that seems to rejoice in celebrating bad behavior because the offender usually fits the "jock mold".

    But at some extend I do agree with you. Buddy listing is more personal as you tend to communicate with the other party first and regularly. At least that's how I view it. I like to converse on RJ and outside with those who are visible and not visible on my Buddy list periodically.
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    Sep 21, 2011 2:04 PM GMT

    Fastlanekid said, "I don't want to derail the OP's thread but I wanna mention there are some of us who are not jerks or douche bags.."

    Of course there are, lol. Many as a matter of fact.

    However your initial observation was that the OP had someone on his hotlist who was a jerk. My observation is that there are good looking men that are jerks. How a person looks is no indication of their character. icon_wink.gif Generally, hotlists I've seen are based on eye candy. Buddy-lists are often both about looks and character, or just character. Our buddy-list is based on character. What often perturbs me is that a buddy on our list sometimes displays a persona on here that is not in synch with their character as we know them to truly be.

    This site has a tendency to bring out the Low in some who are otherwise pretty wonderful people. I often wonder about that.

    -Doug
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    Sep 21, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
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    Fastlanekid said, "I don't want to derail the OP's thread but I wanna mention there are some of us who are not jerks or douche bags.."

    Of course there are, lol. Many as a matter of fact.

    However your initial observation was that the OP had someone on his hotlist who was a jerk. My observation is that there are good looking men that are jerks. How a person looks is no indication of their character. icon_wink.gif Generally, hotlists I've seen are based on eye candy. Buddy-lists are often both about looks and character, or just character. Our buddy-list is based on character. What often perturbs me is that a buddy on our list sometimes displays a persona on here that is not in synch with their character as we know them to truly be.

    This site has a tendency to bring out the Low in some who are otherwise pretty wonderful people. I often wonder about that.

    -Doug


    You're missing my point. So let's just leave it like that. But from what you're saying is that it's OK to be a jerk as long as you are "good looking"

    This reminds me of a story My grandfather told me before he passed away about two secretaries applying for the same position., One was a professional, intelligent and knew how to do the work on time and perfectly but had one "problem" she was obese. Then the other candidate was stupid, lazy and barely knew how to perform the tasks require for the job but had an "advantage" she was skinny. When both candidates apply for the position, the boss decided the "best candidate" was the one that was skinny even though she couldn't do her job the way it was required but was hired because she was more pleasing to the eyes and fit the structure of the company...

    My opinion on this topic is bad behavior should NOT be celebrated or rewarded in any way.
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    Sep 21, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    Fastlanekid said, " But from what you're saying is that it's OK to be a jerk as long as you are "good looking"


    No, I didn't. Please show me where in my posts that came from. I'm pointing out that there are many men who are good looking and their personalities wonderful, just as there are many men who are good-looking that are jerks. A hot-list is often about looks rather than character.

    If I've failed to be clear on that, apologies. icon_wink.gif


    PS If I see a jerk on 'Joe's' hot-list the last thing I think is that Joe thinks the hot-listed guy is a wonderful person. What I do think is that 'Joe' thinks the hot-listed person has good looks, nothing more.

    If I want to see who Joe thinks is a wonderful person I look at Joe's buddy-list.

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    Sep 21, 2011 2:26 PM GMT
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    meninlove said Fastlanekid, hotness is entirely subjective. icon_wink.gif



    No, it's funny because the OP PM once when the subject in question which should remind nameless started a tantrum post one night in the forums a while back with me in particular and he (the OP) told me privately this particular RJer is not worth arguing with because "he's full of it" in his own words. I'm sure he meant me arguing with him but perfectly OK for tantrum boy to do so with me. Yet the OP have this "creature" Hot listed. A bit of hypocrisy in there don't you think?


    huh? I didn't understand that at all.

    What?

    EDIT: Okay, I reread it and I think I understand.

    My hotlistings are usually based upon someone's profile. And I rarely, if ever, unlist someone. So I may have hotlisted someone who later turned out to be a jerk and I just never hotlisted them. Why? It doesn't mean anything, when you really think about it.

    I dont think that makes me hypocritical and if it DOES, well.... sorta not giving a shit about it to be honest. It is all rather silly when you think about it.

    I will say that there are extraordinarily good looking men on this site. Some are very friendly and down to earth. Some aren't. Eh... it is what it is.
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    Sep 21, 2011 2:34 PM GMT
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    Fastlanekid said, "I don't want to derail the OP's thread but I wanna mention there are some of us who are not jerks or douche bags.."

    Of course there are, lol. Many as a matter of fact.

    However your initial observation was that the OP had someone on his hotlist who was a jerk. My observation is that there are good looking men that are jerks. How a person looks is no indication of their character. icon_wink.gif Generally, hotlists I've seen are based on eye candy. Buddy-lists are often both about looks and character, or just character. Our buddy-list is based on character. What often perturbs me is that a buddy on our list sometimes displays a persona on here that is not in synch with their character as we know them to truly be.

    This site has a tendency to bring out the Low in some who are otherwise pretty wonderful people. I often wonder about that.

    -Doug


    You're missing my point. So let's just leave it like that. But from what you're saying is that it's OK to be a jerk as long as you are "good looking"

    This reminds me of a story My grandfather told me before he passed away about two secretaries applying for the same position., One was a professional, intelligent and knew how to do the work on time and perfectly but had one "problem" she was obese. Then the other candidate was stupid, lazy and barely knew how to perform the tasks require for the job but had an "advantage" she was skinny. When both candidates apply for the position, the boss decided the "best candidate" was the one that was skinny even though she couldn't do her job the way it was required but was hired because she was more pleasing to the eyes and fit the structure of the company...

    My opinion on this topic is bad behavior should NOT be celebrated or rewarded in any way.


    By hotlisting you're not celebrating one's behavior but their looks. It's shallow but that's the difference between hotlisting and buddylisting. I suppose everyone has their interpretation of what each list's purpose is but generally the hotlist is a shallow representation of what a person likes, character aside. I admit there are guys I can't stand to be in the same room with (they are not my buddies) but I do think these guys are attractive on a purely physical level.