The Jamey Project

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    Sep 21, 2011 4:41 PM GMT
    To the RJ Community: The recent suicide death of 14-year-old Jamey Rodemeyer of NY because he was bullied over his sexuality is poignant. Even after his parents contacted his school about their son being bullied and Jamey went into counseling. He also was part of the It Gets Better campaign to tell young men and women it does get better as one gets older. But for Jamey he never got better.

    I too was bullied in the 9th grade so I know how it feels. Willing to go tell my story in front of school groups, help on a P.R. campaign, do whatever is necessary to put a brighter spotlight on this and other tragic stories to save even one life.

    It is time we who lived to see adulthood in the GLBT community work to put an end to this needless and senseless bullying and really reach out to the youth across North America to say, 'We hear you and we stand with you against all forms of bullying.'

    Beyond the name, The Jamey Project, I do not have any more ideas at this time. So I would like to solicit advice, comments, suggestions and even criticisms from RealJock members.

    We have the strength, the talents, the resources to come together as a gay community to make this happen.

    Who is with me?

  • HopefulMuscle

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    Sep 21, 2011 5:44 PM GMT
    Well you know what they say, there's only one way to deal bullies, you have to stand up to them. Even if they're not yours.
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    Sep 21, 2011 5:46 PM GMT
    Give me some details & I am all about it. How can I help?
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    Sep 21, 2011 5:50 PM GMT


    Well, public speaking is very good, but I also think it has to start with each of us in our daily lives. The kids get 'talked to' in public settings, but really it's the daily nitty gritty incidents where a huge difference is made when we intervene.

    Thanks for starting this yankinbc!

    admiring,

    -Doug
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    Sep 21, 2011 5:50 PM GMT
    thebaddestdude saidWell you know what they say, there's only one way to deal bullies, you have to stand up to them. Even if they're not yours.



    Hear, hear!
    +10
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    Sep 21, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    Hmmm wouldnt know what to do, but its a good idea
  • kuroshiro

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    Sep 21, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    At the moment, I know bracelets have been made and are currently being shipped out to people to sell them to help the family cover the cost of funeral expenses. Aside from that, it's mainly just community support via projects and what not. I'll poke around with some friends to see what's being done.

    Update: The funeral cost are covered. We (people selling bands) will be sending the profits to an anti bullying group in Jamey Rodemeyers name by request of Jameys wonderful parents.
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    Sep 21, 2011 6:21 PM GMT
    bullying and gay bashing is still a world wide epidemic.... think any of those bracelets will make there way to Canada? perhaps there could be an 'anti-bullying' crusade in honor of this guy, and his family. Raise the awareness, raise the roof!!! however nothing will bring this beautiful young man back.... but maybe his death does not have to be forgotten. cheers on the gay community for offering to help.
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    Sep 21, 2011 6:42 PM GMT
    im in.
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    Sep 21, 2011 6:45 PM GMT
    GreenHopper saidHmmm wouldnt know what to do, but its a good idea



    Just be the positive person you are here on this site. When you hear something anti-gay or witness bullying, stand up and speak up. I am sure most of the other kids that witnessed the bullying understood it was wrong and thought it was unfair but took the 'none of my business' attitude or were to scared to speak up or both. I live just two miles from the Detroit area gay community center that has a glbt youth support group and being in an urban area many of the high schools have some sort of gay support group. Even then those groups that can help will not reach all of those that need it. I grew up in a small town and even after all these years there is not any kind of gay organization in the area. For those young people, we have to have the courage to speak up and lead by example. See in the other thread meninlove's story of witnessing bullying and becoming a leader in the moment. There is a chance that boy would never stumble across the Trevor Project online or ever have the courage to contact a support group and so a real life experience like that might be the only type of support the kid will get.
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    Sep 21, 2011 6:53 PM GMT
    like the hot guy above said... just try to be decent, positive, and not hurtful....
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    Sep 21, 2011 7:01 PM GMT
    Might I suggest that you find a way to reach out this kid's parents before you even think about starting a project in his name.
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    Sep 21, 2011 7:06 PM GMT
    I am no expert at this, but I would think it might be better to come up with the vision for what the project will be about before approaching them.

    It seems that is what yankinbc is trying to do by soliciting ideas from the RJ forum.


    Ducky47 saidMight I suggest that you find a way to reach out this kid's parents before you even think about starting a project in his name.
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    Sep 21, 2011 7:18 PM GMT
    What I'm thinking his family may not want to have his name or their associated with a site such as this. They prolly want to create their own project. Just because something seems like it's a good idea does not always makes it doable. Most importantly there may be certain legal issues that the site administrators would have to explore as well.

    That's all I'm saying. A full due diligence would have to take place regarding this site. Given some of the general post and profile pictures posted on here it's not very family friendly.
  • metta

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    Sep 21, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    Great idea. I think that there are organizations that out there that may be able to help with this as well, such as the Trevor Project. http://www.facebook.com/TheTrevorProject

    It Get's Better
    http://www.facebook.com/itgetsbetterproject

    The Bully Suicide Project: http://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Bully-Suicide-Project/221347206120

    http://www.stopbullying.gov/

    ABC Anti Bullying Coalition http://www.facebook.com/AntiBullyingCoalition
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    Sep 21, 2011 7:50 PM GMT
    Agreed.
    Trollileo said
    Ducky47 saidWhat I'm thinking his family may not want to have his name or their associated with a site such as this. They prolly want to create their own project. Just because something seems like it's a good idea does not always makes it doable. Most importantly there may be certain legal issues that the site administrators would have to explore as well.

    That's all I'm saying. A full due diligence would have to take place regarding this site. Given some of the general post and profile pictures posted on here it's not very family friendly.
    I don't think he was suggesting that the project be directly associated with this website. More likely that he was just looking for ideas before approaching the family and that he has a demographic such as ours to brainstorm from.
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    Sep 21, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    Yeah, it was "poignant."

    You know who the real bullies are? Dan Savage and his "husband," who have bullied "gay kids" into participating in their irresponsible project.

    I want to see them, along with many others, prosecuted for this child's death.
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    Sep 21, 2011 7:53 PM GMT
    Earth to Jack, come in Jack * hears only static noise*

    ...I think we lost him.
  • Latenight30

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    Sep 21, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    We all say this now. We all took a long hard road, many of us faced harassment and still do in certain settings. I don't stand for anyone to be mistreated. Respect is for everyone.
    I will always lend an ear or hand to any young LGBT. I think like Stonewall was in 1969, this has to be our crusade and legacy to pave the way for equal rights and fair treatment to all.
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    Sep 21, 2011 7:58 PM GMT
    if such a 'project' did get off the ground, then full diligence, and consent of the parents would be in order. I think we all as gay men, owe it to those before and after us, to foster a positive enviro. Associating a tribute in conjunction with this site could be most inappropiate, but raising awareness amoungst those on this site surely cant be of harm... can the fellow who mentioned the bracelets let us Canucks know if they are available in Can? im sure that the family would be heartwarmed to see tons of the bracelets worn in their sons honor... doesnt have to be associated with RJ, or gay folks... just associated with 'humanity'.
    the humanity, that let this poor kid down...
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    Sep 21, 2011 7:59 PM GMT
    JackNWNJ saidYeah, it was "poignant."

    You know who the real bullies are? Dan Savage and his "husband," who have bullied "gay kids" into participating in their irresponsible project.

    I want to see them, along with many others, prosecuted for this child's death.


    With like nearly every post, nothing said for the purpose of adding to the conversation, but instead just carefully worded to see how of a rise you can get out of people.

    And I guess we fell for it.
  • trainhard2011

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    Sep 21, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    How about getting involved in the life a gay kid? Becoming an active member in their life as a gay man. How about that?
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    Sep 21, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
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    JackNWNJ saidYeah, it was "poignant."

    You know who the real bullies are? Dan Savage and his "husband," who have bullied "gay kids" into participating in their irresponsible project.

    I want to see them, along with many others, prosecuted for this child's death.


    With like nearly every post, nothing said for the purpose of adding to the conversation, but instead just carefully worded to see how of a rise you can get out of people.

    And I guess we fell for it.


    Dan Savage's whole project is aimed at spreading his acrimony and making a name for himself. Now a child is dead.

    Oh, but he can't be held responsible - because he's so "wonderful" and only "cares for the children" and he's a fucking "hero," blah blah blah.

    White Liberals are the worst people on earth.
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    Sep 21, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    trainhard2011 saidHow about getting involved in the life a gay kid? Becoming an active member in their life as a gay man. How about that?


    How about leaving children the hell alone? Yes, they're children. Stop pestering them.
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    Sep 21, 2011 8:08 PM GMT
    Ducky47 saidMight I suggest that you find a way to reach out this kid's parents before you even think about starting a project in his name.


    A good suggestion. Will do...