To the people with no photos

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    Sep 23, 2011 8:51 PM GMT
    edit: Not being sarcastic! geez

    No photos, yes profile, and longtime member:

    I kind of respect you. It's a shallow and competitive community, and posting a photo is a form of caving to the pressure or a way to get attention. So for the people who aren't caving, I salute you!

    Doesn't apply to:
    new people
    members without a filled out profile
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    Sep 23, 2011 10:27 PM GMT

    guess I'm the only one. *shrug*
  • Timbales

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    Sep 23, 2011 10:33 PM GMT
    as my friend in London might say, I'm not fussed either way
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    Sep 23, 2011 10:41 PM GMT
    The question is not whether there's sarcasm intended here, but how thick it is. icon_rolleyes.gif
    Anyone who takes the ~4 seconds needed to read the section of my profile which explains why my pic isn't "public" has all the info they need. Not everybody who has no photos posted (or "private" only) is a closet case, a spammer, a troll, or a snooping employer/parent/cop/little sister.
    The only "pressure" is to have not reached age 26 (or, failing that, "look younger"), own pecs/ass/abs/etc to die for, have tons o' money, and live in a fabulous gayborhood. But that's gay life in general!
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    Sep 23, 2011 10:44 PM GMT
    It's not sarcastic! That's what I think. It's not a popular opinion tho.

    Timbales saidas my friend in London might say, I'm not fussed either way

    Are you sure he wouldn't say "I'm not bovvid"?
  • creature

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    Sep 23, 2011 10:52 PM GMT
    I never really felt compelled to show my pic. I'll show my pic eventually, but don't see the need for it. My opinion is just the same, with or without one. I'd rather us a fun image and change it from time to time.
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    Sep 23, 2011 11:09 PM GMT
    yeah, that's one thing I don't like about it. An avatar of a star or a pickle would help identify people as I read the forums. The no-pics kind of blend together and it's hard to remember who said what.
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    Sep 23, 2011 11:58 PM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidyeah, that's one thing I don't like about it. An avatar of a star or a pickle would help identify people as I read the forums. The no-pics kind of blend together and it's hard to remember who said what.



    So should he go with a kosher dill, a gherkin or a polski ogorki?
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    Sep 24, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
    I've been on here for a while, but only just started posting in the forums, so I don't know how 'new' that makes me.

    There are several reasons why I'd rather not use a public photo, and I think it's great that you can respect that! There's much more to a person than a face or hot body!

    However, I think people should have something in place, just to add a bit of character and identity. That would explain why I do have a pic, but one that isn't easily identifiable. I always felt a bit rude when I messaged someone with a face while lacking any sort of photo myself.
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    Sep 24, 2011 3:12 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidTo the people with no photos
    Please post a pic.

    Nekkid.

    kthxbai
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    Sep 24, 2011 6:37 AM GMT
    "posting a photo is a form of caving to the pressure or a way to get attention."

    I don't think that everyone who has a profile with pics does it just to get attention.
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    Sep 24, 2011 11:42 AM GMT
    I don't think 'caving in to pressure' is necessarily true. That assumes one wouldn't have wanted to do so on this site otherwise. People are looking for many different things out of being a member on here, or choosing not to preclude possibilities, so for some, pics are an asset whilst for others, not so much (although the reasons for the latter uploading pics despite this is still myriad).

    I will say this though, I'm secretly impressed when a non-pic profile manages to establish his presence/influence/personality and/or popularity on the threads, as most will be either ignored or forgotten.

    Waimea is the prime example of somebody whose personality alone is enough to break and thrive past the visual-importance norm saturated in this site. Kudos. ;]
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    Sep 24, 2011 10:52 PM GMT
    _SAGE_ saidI don't think 'caving in to pressure' is necessarily true. That assumes one wouldn't have wanted to do so on this site otherwise. People are looking for many different things out of being a member on here, or choosing not to preclude possibilities, so for some, pics are an asset whilst for others, not so much (although the reasons for the latter uploading pics despite this is still myriad).

    I will say this though, I'm secretly impressed when a non-pic profile manages to establish his presence/influence/personality and/or popularity on the threads, as most will be either ignored or forgotten.

    Waimea is the prime example of somebody whose personality alone is enough to break and thrive past the visual-importance norm saturated in this site. Kudos. ;]


    That's why I wrote "caving or seeking attention", to cover those not wanting as well as those wanting to be looked at.

    I agree with the rest, but I don't know if your example is the best one..


    You'll thank me for NO nekkid pics.