Why do you miss them most when you're sick?

  • melloyello

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    Sep 24, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    being sick sucks
  • Neurons

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    Sep 24, 2011 11:55 AM GMT
    It's clear, you're not over him. With what you've said, I'm assuming he's over you. I think it's best that you do your best to move on and not wait for him to show up because it'll only lead to heartache. While you're hoping he'll
    come by, he's probably in the middle of butt fuck no where not really giving you a second thought.

    What's done is done. You mention you had problems which lead to the break up. You need to get over him! I'm sorry about the accident and hope you get better soon!
  • melloyello

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    Sep 24, 2011 10:01 PM GMT
    Thx man. I think he's over me. And I'm not 95% over him, I'm just getting that "Rear Window" syndrome from being home all weekend. I can't get my foot set in a cast until Monday so I'm told to stay off it.

    Other then that, feeling 100%, no whiplash or anything so I'm lucky.

    I just continue to not be able to understand how you can shut off feelings for someone. Just can't do it. They're always a little part of me.
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    Sep 24, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
    Hey man....sorry you got in what sounds like a terrible accident. I'm glad you're not too banged up, and didn't break anything that won't heal.

    That sucks about the ex, I get what your saying, it would've been nice if he reached out to you, or maybe came to hang out, or brought food or something icon_smile.gif.

    Feel better.
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    Sep 24, 2011 11:48 PM GMT
    You're feeling vulnerable and that is ok. It is a part of life that you will know later on that you will come out of it stronger. Sure when you are sick or unfortunate events are happening, you feel like your world is crumbling down and you wish that there is somebody who is there who can lend you a shoulder to cry on, or to give you some emotional support. But when you think about life, we all came here alone and we will leave alone as well. If you are lucky, you will have met people who understood you and who you will cherish in your heart. I really hate to sound real cheesy but just like in the movie ghost, the love inside, you take it with you. Awww. At least I would like to think so.

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    Sep 24, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
    waimea saidYou're feeling vulnerable and that is ok. It is a part of life that you will know later on that you will come out of it stronger. Sure when you are sick or unfortunate events are happening, you feel like your world is crumbling down and you wish that there is somebody who is there who can lend you a shoulder to cry on, or to give you some emotional support. But when you think about life, we all came here alone and we will leave alone as well. If you are lucky, you will have met people who understood you and who you will cherish in your heart. I really hate to sound real cheesy but just like in the movie ghost, the love inside, you take it with you. Awww. At least I would like to think so.



    This is it.

    I still feel great attachment to my first love, even if neither of us actually wants to be together again.
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    Sep 25, 2011 12:08 AM GMT
    Did your relationship w him end badly? I seriously don't know how some people cab be so heartless.

    BTW get well soon you beast icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 25, 2011 12:15 PM GMT
    Because you've been in a dangerous situation, potentially killed/severely injured and you're thinking on high speed and you're also feeling sorry for yourself (you want someone to care and he was someone that really did).

    Focus on physical healing, being upbeat and not needing an emotional crutch mate. Car accidents are awful and traumatic, been involved in two bad ones, one as a kid and one a few years ago so talk to someone (anyone), don't wait for anything/anyone.
  • davidsticky69

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    Sep 26, 2011 3:26 PM GMT
    melloyello saidTotaled my cherry M3 today. Massive 5 car pileup at the base of an onramp and there was no way to stop so my poor car can fit in the compact car slot at the parking lot now.

    Bad bloody nose and 2 black eyes from the airbag and a broken foot from trying to slam on the brakes and the impact. But I guess it could have been worse.

    Now I'm sitting on my couch waiting on an Ambien and a vicodin to start working so I can go to sleep and I can't help but think about the guy I was with for 3 years who dumped me. We work together and I was supposed to be his relief this evening so I know he knows what happened. Its just sort of depressing me that he didn't even text or call to see how I was. If I'd heard something had happened to him, I'd be on the first car/bus/train/foot to get there and make sure he was ok.

    For instance, a few days after we broke up, he asked to borrow my old "beater" car and he got stopped in it and hauled off to jail for a outstanding warrant from a traffic ticket from a year ago. This was at 10pm on a Saturday night. I called in every favor I could call in and had a lawyer friend down there and paid his bail to get him out of there as fast as I could. And I ended up sitting there all night in the waiting room waiting for him.

    Look I wasn't a great boyfriend when we were together. I had some issues and I kinda wanted my space but I spent the whole end of our relationship trying to prove that I was different. Thats my fault, and I deserve to be thrown out in the cold 100% but theres not a guy I have a minutes worth of connection with whose pain I wouldn't try to alleviate if I could.

    I honestly don't want anything other then his presence. Sometimes the best things in life are gone before you realize it and theres nothing you can do even if you kill yourself trying.

    Thanks for the rant guys.


    I don't feel sorry for you at all. Neither am I going to shower you with sympathetic craps icon_wink.gif

    All I can see from what you wrote is GOOD NEWS!

    Your rational mind knows that you are better off without him.
    It's a big world out there with a huge ocean of fish for you. Get going. Be selective. And never forget the lessons learned from the past experience. After all, you have only got 1 heart. If you don't learn to protect it, who will? ;)

    Best regards