Realjock Etiquette and Rules

  • rebelbeard

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    Sep 24, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    There are two issues that seem to come up often on Realjock. One is that people with no pics and an empty profile Hot List me. That seems a bit unfair and one sided. I have no idea who these people are that are adding me. I think you should at least have some pics if you are going to hot list someone.

    Second, there are times when guys just randomly unlock their pics. Sometimes I don't even look because I am not interested. Do you think they are expecting me to unlock back as common courtesy? If I didn't inquire about their private pics I feel like I shouldn't have to unlock mine.

    What do you guys think?
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    Sep 24, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    1. I disagree, hotlisting is no big deal so I think anyone can hotlist you.

    2. I agree, I mean, at least send me a message first before unlocking your pics what do they expect me to do when they unlock their privates and we haven't even talked before?
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    Sep 24, 2011 5:22 PM GMT
    HighOctane saidThere are two issues that seem to come up often on Realjock. One is that people with no pics and an empty profile Hot List me. That seems a bit unfair and one sided. I have no idea who these people are that are adding me. I think you should at least have some pics if you are going to hot list someone.

    Well who the hell are you to dictate the privacy of someone's profile if they're given an option by RJ to be anonymous?


    HighOctane said
    Second, there are times when guys just randomly unlock their pics. Sometimes I don't even look because I am not interested. Do you think they are expecting me to unlock back as common courtesy? If I didn't inquire about their private pics I feel like I shouldn't have to unlock mine.

    Oh, this is just random horny spillage from A4A, Grindr, BigMuscle, etc. What I do it look at their pics and then delete their "unlocked" message and usually never hear back from them. I think of these people as mindless neanderthals. So to ignore them doesn't make me feel bad as I view them as sub-human.
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    Sep 24, 2011 6:18 PM GMT
    HighOctane saidThere are two issues that seem to come up often on Realjock. One is that people with no pics and an empty profile Hot List me. That seems a bit unfair and one sided. I have no idea who these people are that are adding me. I think you should at least have some pics if you are going to hot list someone.

    Second, there are times when guys just randomly unlock their pics. Sometimes I don't even look because I am not interested. Do you think they are expecting me to unlock back as common courtesy? If I didn't inquire about their private pics I feel like I shouldn't have to unlock mine.

    What do you guys think?


    First point: get off your high horse and just let people hotlist you whenever they want. Take it as a compliment.

    Second point: you don't have to look or unlock back unless YOU want to.
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    Sep 24, 2011 6:43 PM GMT
    waimea said

    First point: get off your high horse and just let people hotlist you whenever they want. Take it as a compliment.

    Second point: you don't have to look or unlock back unless YOU want to.


    Basically this.
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    Ooh, I've got another one that bugs me...

    So you write something on a thread in the forums and then you get some guy private messaging you wanting to ask questions or make comments about what you wrote. Do they not understand that how forums work?! It's all about sharing and collective knowledge. Before I've just said 'that's a good question, i'm going to write the answer on the original thread'. It's always older guys that do this, sorry to generalise, but it's true!
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:48 PM GMT
    T600 saidOoh, I've got another one that bugs me...

    So you write something on a thread in the forums and then you get some guy private messaging you wanting to ask questions or make comments about what you wrote. Do they not understand that how forums work?! It's all about sharing and collective knowledge. Before I've just said 'that's a good question, i'm going to write the answer on the original thread'. It's always older guys that do this, sorry to generalise, but it's true!


    Some people are more private than others and they don't like to share their thought with all the people who read the forums.
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:48 PM GMT
    1) I personally don't care. The hot list thing is pretty innocent. I just see it as a compliment. I don't see why some guys get bothered by this. Think of it this way, as you walk around in public in your day to day activities, I bet there are plenty of anonymous people that "hot list" you in their heads as they walk by. Does that bother you too?

    2) I think there are lots of reasons for this. But one time a guy unlocked his private pics without any prior interaction. I just replied, Hi. He responded with something like.. "Thank you for sharing your pics. I just thought it would only be fair to share mine". All my pics are public, so I guess he felt obligated to show all of his to me. Wasn't really necessary, but I thought it was very thoughtful of him. And his pics weren't nude. They were all normal face/body pics.
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    T600 saidOoh, I've got another one that bugs me...

    So you write something on a thread in the forums and then you get some guy private messaging you wanting to ask questions or make comments about what you wrote. Do they not understand that how forums work?! It's all about sharing and collective knowledge. Before I've just said 'that's a good question, i'm going to write the answer on the original thread'. It's always older guys that do this, sorry to generalise, but it's true!
    Most likely because those guys are using "PRIVATE" messaging.......... what part of PrivateM dont you get?
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    Some taunts and insults are best traded in private, like gossip.icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:50 PM GMT
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    T600 saidOoh, I've got another one that bugs me...

    So you write something on a thread in the forums and then you get some guy private messaging you wanting to ask questions or make comments about what you wrote. Do they not understand that how forums work?! It's all about sharing and collective knowledge. Before I've just said 'that's a good question, i'm going to write the answer on the original thread'. It's always older guys that do this, sorry to generalise, but it's true!


    Some people are more private than others and they don't like to share their thought with all the people who read the forums.


    This.
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:50 PM GMT
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    T600 saidOoh, I've got another one that bugs me...

    So you write something on a thread in the forums and then you get some guy private messaging you wanting to ask questions or make comments about what you wrote. Do they not understand that how forums work?! It's all about sharing and collective knowledge. Before I've just said 'that's a good question, i'm going to write the answer on the original thread'. It's always older guys that do this, sorry to generalise, but it's true!
    Most likely because those guys are using "PRIVATE" messaging.......... what part of PrivateM dont you get?

    You're mean and decrepit.
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:53 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    q1w2e3 saidSome taunts and insults are best traded in private, like gossip.icon_lol.gif
    Yeah, all my gossip goes on in private messages... I never initiate gossip, though.


    Then you don't "truly" understand gossip. Don't you watch Gossip Girl?icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:53 PM GMT
    waimea saidSome people are more private than others and they don't like to share their thought with all the people who read the forums.


    Oh it's never anything actually private, it's always something really simple that could be on the thread for all to see. If it was something personal I could understand. But asking say, 'how's that workout routine going for you?' is something we can share. I think we all get a lot of help and advice from these forums, give back what you take.
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:54 PM GMT
    T600 saidOoh, I've got another one that bugs me...

    So you write something on a thread in the forums and then you get some guy private messaging you wanting to ask questions or make comments about what you wrote. Do they not understand that how forums work?! It's all about sharing and collective knowledge. Before I've just said 'that's a good question, i'm going to write the answer on the original thread'. It's always older guys that do this, sorry to generalise, but it's true!

    I agree.. I believe in sharing knowledge. But there are some exceptions. Like if the thread has very little/no further activity, and seems unlikely that you'll see his response. Or if the person has a related question, but slightly off topic from the original thread.

    Maybe it's the older people that are just accustomed to usenet newsgroup posting etiquette. Cuz back then, if you didn't follow the rules, everyone would definitely let you know. icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:54 PM GMT
    1. It is not a big deal with hotlisting. To mean it doesn't mean much

    2. I agree at least let me know you will unlock for me and not just up and do it
    of the photos i keep in my profile that people are so desperate to see but i
    won't do that unless i am asked for.
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    T600 saidOoh, I've got another one that bugs me...

    So you write something on a thread in the forums and then you get some guy private messaging you wanting to ask questions or make comments about what you wrote. Do they not understand that how forums work?! It's all about sharing and collective knowledge. Before I've just said 'that's a good question, i'm going to write the answer on the original thread'. It's always older guys that do this, sorry to generalise, but it's true!

    Is there some rule to "understand" in forum that "Thou shalt not contact others" through their humble e-mail which are available to everyone?

    I sometimes do it because it is off-tangent to the original topic.
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:57 PM GMT
    HighOctane saidWhat do you guys think?

    A few times I've unlocked my pics without preliminaries, just because I admired what the guy posted in a thread, or my pics were related to what he had written. Otherwise I don't.
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:58 PM GMT
    closer85 said
    waimea said

    First point: get off your high horse and just let people hotlist you whenever they want. Take it as a compliment.

    Second point: you don't have to look or unlock back unless YOU want to.


    Basically this.


    +1
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    Sep 24, 2011 7:58 PM GMT
    T600 said
    waimea saidSome people are more private than others and they don't like to share their thought with all the people who read the forums.


    Oh it's never anything actually private, it's always something really simple that could be on the thread for all to see. If it was something personal I could understand. But asking say, 'how's that workout routine going for you?' is something we can share. I think we all get a lot of help and advice from these forums, give back what you take.


    I agree. But some people feel that they would like to ask you those questions in private since it is more personable. Plus with the way the threads are going you might not check back in those threads if you're not online frequently. Sending you a prvt message has better chance for you to respond their questions more individually.
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    Sep 24, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    eh, it's the internet.
    I wouldn't take it seriously dude.
    There are more important things to be more annoyed about.
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    Sep 24, 2011 8:08 PM GMT
    Shawnathan saidSometimes I PM guys just to piss them off, like the message I just sent you ;)


    You are one funny dude.
  • hawkeye7

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    Sep 24, 2011 8:11 PM GMT
    shawnathan.....i already like you
    some of the boys who have posted on this forum do not understand a few facts of gay life. I like a few of these guys, I have chatted with them. We gay men give each other out gay men a certain level of respect. It is a badge of honor, it is not earned lightly. I am sorry it has nothing to do with privacy, that is a load of bullshit. Grow up.

    Be the man you want in your life, be the man your mother would be proud of.
    Just be a man!
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    Sep 24, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
    High Octane,

    So some people with empty profiles hotlist you?

    LUCKY YOU!!!

    Despite my efforts in losing weight, and showing the differnce between how I look now and how I was some 30 months ago, I'm more likely to find a pot of gold by pure chance than to be hotlisted on this website.

    After all, who in his right mind would find a guy approaching 60 attractive?

    Get over yourself and be thankful for the small things you are fortunate enough to receive!
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    Sep 24, 2011 9:22 PM GMT
    Yeah, if you have a profile on here, you need to have at one picture public.

    I don't have anything crazy in my pvt pics (no nudity), so I unlock sometimes without being asked because the other person has face pictures public and I don't. Just trying to be fair to them.