PEE-SHY -- any advice?

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    Sep 24, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    I'm wondering if anyone has constructive suggestions for overcoming pee shyness? I have no idea why I'm pee shy -- I'm comfortable with nudism, I have a sometimes exhibitionistic side to me, I have no issues with my "package", and I'm not a shy person. Yet I find it tough to try peeing at a urinal in a public restroom -- and most of the time will have to go into a stall to pee. I'd really like to get over this and would appreciate any advice for overcoming this, thanks! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 24, 2011 9:33 PM GMT
    I'm the same way.
  • sbwlguy

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    Sep 24, 2011 10:35 PM GMT
    I also suffer from it sometimes. What I do is to close my eyes and try to block everything out around me.
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    Sep 24, 2011 10:42 PM GMT
    you could try counting to 10. it helps me remain calm and focused
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    Sep 24, 2011 10:49 PM GMT
    BuffTennisJock saidI'm wondering if anyone has constructive suggestions for overcoming pee shyness? I have no idea why I'm pee shy -- I'm comfortable with nudism, I have a sometimes exhibitionistic side to me, I have no issues with my "package", and I'm not a shy person. Yet I find it tough to try peeing at a urinal in a public restroom -- and most of the time will have to go into a stall to pee. I'd really like to get over this and would appreciate any advice for overcoming this, thanks! icon_biggrin.gif

    I'm also blocked at times, originally because as a young teen I was nearly molested at a public urinal. Later my prostate infections caused blockages, which made me feel embarrassed standing there unable to do anything, and thereafter couldn't learn how to relax again, my fear of blockage causing blockage.

    Best for me is to distract myself. I'll often take out my smartphone and check e-mail or something. Or read the ads over the urinal. Having my partner peeing next to me also helps, since I'm not shy with him, and our having a conversation also distracts me, so I relax. Once I have a successful pee I try to return subsequently to that same urinal, the familiarity and success giving me confidence, and again, the all-important loss of tension I need.
  • NHLFAN

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    Sep 24, 2011 10:51 PM GMT
    Just keep holding it until you absolutely have to go and you won't have nearly as much of an issue.
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    Sep 25, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    I had this problem for a few years in my 20s. I completely overcame it. I can piss on anybody now (just kidding).

    I found it to be mostly a confidence/insecurity thing. Even though I felt confident and secure in every other situation, pissing in public was difficult as hell for a while.

    A few tips:

    It's easier to go when you're drunk. I saw your profile and I realize you don't drink, but maybe you could take it up for a while and call it therapy?

    It's much easier to go when you're comfortable. If you wait till you're ready to burst, that may actually make it harder, because you've just spent the last hour or whatever straining to hold it in.

    It takes practice, so you should piss at a urinal whenever you have the restroom to yourself. If someone comes in before you get started, just pretend you're already finished, flush and run away. If someone comes in after you get started, cool - it's easy to keep going once you've started, so it will be good practice and will help acclimatize you to someone else being right beside you while you piss.

    And now, here's what really got me over the hump. I found it much easier to piss in a group setting if I tell myself I'm a fucking bulletproof stud alpha male Greek god compared to the guy standing next to me. Like I said, it's a confidence thing. Of course I don't have to tell myself that anymore, but I do it anyway just for good measure (just kidding again).

    There are still times when it takes me a bit of time to get started, but it's been years and years since I found myself unable to go.

    Oh, and one more thing - I think whoever got the idea to put up dividers between the urinals (which for some reason nobody thought of until the 1990s) should get a fucking Nobel prize.
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    Sep 25, 2011 12:57 AM GMT
    had this, got over it overnight, the only thing that changed was self confidence, maybe youre not very confident?
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    Sep 28, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    MrPolish saidhad this, got over it overnight, the only thing that changed was self confidence, maybe youre not very confident?


    LOL no, that's not my issue (being "not very confident") -- like i posted originally, i'm not a shy person, I have no issues with my "package" (the exhibitionist in me likes to show it off sometimes ha ha icon_razz.gif), and I'm definitely not cum shy (thank god lol), and I'm very comfortable with public nudism (I've been to many nudist resorts where I've been naked and I'm very very comfortable with that).

    The origin + reason for my pee shyness is a great mystery to me. I've not had any traumatic event. When I'm by myself I can pee immediately, no issues at all. But at a public urinal, ugh, different story. I guess I'll just have to keep forcing myself to try using a public urinal and hope to somehow magically just get over it. I also wondered half-jokingly if trying to get into watersports could be helpful (at this point I'll try just about anything to get over this pee shynes!! icon_razz.gif)
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    Sep 28, 2011 2:42 PM GMT
    BuffTennisJock saidI'm wondering if anyone has constructive suggestions for overcoming pee shyness?


    Pee on Michelle Bachmann's face every time she opens up her mouth to talk.
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    Sep 28, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    I used to be like that. Having to go badly while stalls were occupied helped me get over it. Just force yourself to do it.
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    Sep 28, 2011 2:51 PM GMT
    Athaleet stole all my advice! But ya, I'm pee-shy too, but when I'm drunk it's not an issue, haha.

    Another trick that I use is to stare at the wall pretty intensely, so that I focus my mind away from the fact that I'm peeing at a urinal. After 10 seconds or so of focusing on that spot on the wall, I'm often able to pee!
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    Sep 28, 2011 2:52 PM GMT
    Yeah, tell the guy to stop moving his tongue so much while you're trying to pee. icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 28, 2011 2:56 PM GMT
    I heard this a while back . Spit everytime before you pee to train
    Yourself to go when you spit. When are are at a public urinal you will be trained to pee when you spit. I don't have this problem but I notice that a lot of guys spit before they pee.
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    Sep 28, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    I suffer from the same affliction... but for some reason I have no desire to overcome it. I like using stalls. Urinals are uncivilized.
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    Sep 28, 2011 3:25 PM GMT
    I sometimes have this, but usually when there's a hot guy around. I just focus on one tiny spot on the wall in front of me and think only of that. It'll start flowing pretty quickly if you really have to go.
  • Lincsbear

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    Sep 28, 2011 3:43 PM GMT
    Me too.Sometimes known as 'bashful bladder syndrome' in the UK.
    It can be physical or psychological.
    I can urinate perfectly well at home or in a cubicle,but in an open trough-style urinal, with another guy present, I just can`t go.On my own,sometimes.For me,I think it`s the latter,something about lack of confidence,etc.
    General relaxing helps me.Or waiting until I`m full and bursting to go!
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    Sep 28, 2011 3:50 PM GMT
    I'm the same way. I go to the stalls because It won't come out when I use those things attached to the walls.
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    Sep 28, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    So, when you stand there, unmoving and unpeeing, do you start to feel embarrassment and the need to zip up and run?

    You might need to introduce a reward system to combat the negative reinforcement you're getting at the moment of delivery. Don't laugh; I do this for my dogs. "Go potty! Go potty!" and after they dribble their stream they get a milk bone.

    I can tell you I had a short bout of this in my late twenties (have no idea why). And it just went away. My cure was to declare (to myself) that I was Proud to Pee in Public, and it just came out.





    On a completely unrelated note: how do I get you to be an exhibitionist in MY neck of the woods?
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    Sep 28, 2011 4:04 PM GMT
    WOW - i thought i was the ONLY one with this! Never was a problem until my mid 30's and suffering from a (hereditary) enlarged prostate- which slows down the stream and takes longer to get the piss running. I usually go in stalls so i can "concentrate".... no other issues at all.

    My urologist says its a combination of prostate enlargement and "stage fright"...

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    Sep 28, 2011 4:07 PM GMT
    endo saidI suffer from the same affliction... but for some reason I have no desire to overcome it. I like using stalls. Urinals are uncivilized.



    I agree. I prefer the troughs. You get a good look at everyone's weenie that way. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 28, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    I am not but my boyfriend is. He is even shy to pee in front of me.
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    Sep 28, 2011 6:06 PM GMT
    I don't know if this would help but if you are at the gym and have to go, turn up your music on your earphones and ignore anyone around you. I do this sometimes for #2.
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    Sep 28, 2011 6:34 PM GMT
    Never have overcome it and don't think it's a big deal. It's not even a worry about size, masculinity or gayness, but I don't want anyone having a picture of my dick seared in their head. Especially if it was a guy friend. Would be awkward.

    And my friends have this annoying habit of following me into the bathroom to continue talking.

    What the cluck? I can't pee with you babbling!

    And yeah, unless the bathroom is empty, I go into a stall.