joe122 saidI feel like the word homophobia is used incorrectly more often than not and I feel like people who actually get labeled as homophobes aren't actually afraid of all gay people. I feel like most people who get labeled as homophobic have an intense dislike for the flamboyant gay guys who act like Jack from Will and Grace. I noticed that no one has treated me differently since I came out and I also noticed that some people who are cool with me being gay often put down feminine gay guys. I feel like bullies would pick on and make fun of a straight guy that was overly feminine more than they would a gay guy who was jacked and masculine. I think they should create a new word that means "fear of feminine guys." There are plenty of masculine gay guys on here who don't care for feminine gay guys which is another reason why I think the word is used incorrectly.
I also think there is a HUGE difference between not caring for, not liking, compared to being actively against in behavior and action.
I don't care for being forced to act in a stereotypical manner being straight, gay, normal, or what ever. If someone does something I don't care for I'm not going to insult them and demean their sense of well being or self esteem in order to represent "me".
I agree with the surface point here if it is used correctly. I also see that this could be used as a weapon against the life style some don't identify with (which is fare), but another percentage work actively against for the pure sake of conformity or fear based hate.
I see the constructive usefulness with the idea, but it has to simultaneously not divide us to the point that gives cause for more negative conformity and hate. I would rather it not be a surreptitious approach to disarming an obvious act of harmful prejudice, as homophobia is just that, harmful prejudice.
At times a straight person will seem like they are fine with it, but some individuals will eventually betray you with a passive aggressive approach to weasel out of the dreaded "Homophobia" allowing them to continue their negative actions.