THE BIG C Part 2

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    Sep 25, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    I've received a whack of emails in the past week from guys wishing my mom the best--which sincerely gladdens my heart and if I haven't replied to everyone, please accept my thanks. It's amazing how simple words from complete strangers can lighten up my day, just like that!

    My mom is back home and laughing and cursing and cooking and finding fetching ways to wear scarves on her head. It's slowly dawning on my family that maybe this just wasn't her time to go. We thought it was but somehow she got a pass. And if it comes back in the future we'll just have to get together and deal with it again and hopefully beat it a second time. Plus, keeping an eye on my dad is now something my brother and I will have to be responsible for.

    Some RJers have also written to tell their personal experiences with cancer-- whether their own, a family member's or a friend's.

    And since this is cancer we're talking about, not all of those stories have had a happy ending like mine seems to have.

    Those are the emails I'm having a hard time responding to. And I have to say, I kinda feel like a shit for not writing some of you back. Maybe it's a weird form of survivor's guilt. It's not so much that I don't know what to say--I've been to my share of wakes and funerals and am well versed in all of the appropriate phrases that we're all supposed to say. But after this very real scare this past summer, and now realizing how close we came to actually losing her, repeating those phrases to guys who've lost parents and lovers and friends just seem really inadequate. "I'm sorry for your loss" is on the tip of my tongue, but now that I know about the fear and anguish behind every illness story, it just doesn't cut it for me. Problem is, I can't seem to find anything to replace those tired clich├ęs.

    So to all of you who may have been expecting a reply, please accept my apologies, and I hope you're able to get by with all of the memories and mementos you have of your lost ones. Thank you for sharing your stories with me. They really do mean a lot to me.

    -Nick
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    Sep 25, 2011 8:34 PM GMT
    Glad she is doing ok!!

    My grand mother went through colon cancer last year..She just recently has come out of it...She's little haggard and there are some things to be watched over...But her will is strong and I'll be glad to be seeing her soon, when I return back to Toronto!

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    Sep 25, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]danforthboytoy said[/cite]

    My mom is back home and laughing and cursing and cooking and finding fetching ways to wear scarves on her head.


    When I spoke to her on Friday, I had suggested a berret. She said to keep my eyes out for a Raspberry one. She's obviously still a Prince fan! LOL
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    Sep 25, 2011 11:22 PM GMT
    Oh my God, TOTALLY. She told us she wants "Sometimes it Snows in April" and "Let's Go Crazy" at her funeral.
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    Sep 25, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    I'm glad to here she's doing better. You have my sympathies for the ordeal. I can't think of much to say that you probably haven't heard a million times already. It's a roller coaster ride of emotions when you have these types of family situations. You sound like you are handling it well. Good luck.
  • RSportsguy

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    Sep 26, 2011 12:47 AM GMT
    I am so happy for your family that she is doing better!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 26, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    Glad she is back home and that she has a loving family to love her, and you have such great support from people around you.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Sep 26, 2011 1:24 AM GMT
    Cancer plays hell with the physical body, I learned from experience, but it plays even worse hell with your mind. We put up the false brave front, but there were many nights that I cried myself to sleep. Depression is a part of the disease. Having a loving son like you at her side probably played a big part in her being strong and surviving.
  • leftysj

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    Sep 26, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    Good for her! May you and she take full advantage of the time you're granted!!
  • ursa_minor

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    Sep 28, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    My aunt visited me from Michigan last year after battling breast cancer, she's on her 4th year on remission (yay! good for her).

    The rarity of her visiting Europe while I'm in it made me drive her across Belgian borders ... we visited six countries and about 10 cities in a span of 10 days. Of course it was tiring for her, but I'm sure she enjoyed it.

    Good to hear your mom's fighting it so well.
  • Lincsbear

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    Sep 28, 2011 7:33 PM GMT
    Good to hear your mother is on the mend!
    Try to be strong and brave for her and your family!
    Best wishes,
    John.