I consider it a form of torture when...

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    Sep 27, 2011 8:44 AM GMT
    ...interesting guys view my profile but don't say "Hi"

    I personally always try to eventually initiate conversation/reply to emails. Takes a while, but it happens.

    I'm not looking to chat/have cam sex etc. Simply to relieve feelings of isolation. We pass one another on the street, make eye contact, mutually feel a spark of interest -- and then allow our conditioning to get the better of us.

    "Don't talk to strangers."

    "Guys like that aren't interested in talking with guys like me."

    "I don't have anything clever to say."

    "I'll just make a fool of myself."

    "What if he realizes how boring/weird I am?"

    "Why bother?"

    We fear risk, so we continue in our isolated little hells. If there is a God, I'm sure this upsets him more than any other "sin".
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    Sep 27, 2011 9:49 AM GMT
    Hi. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 27, 2011 11:46 AM GMT
    lol, definitely feeling this... I CANNOT approach people for the life of me. I warm up really quickly but it is literally impossible for me to break the ice.
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    Sep 27, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
    Maybe it's because we're so busy skipping from the one hot face that catches our eye to the next that we never really stop?
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    Sep 27, 2011 12:56 PM GMT
    It's apparent after reviewing your profile that you are exceptionally handsome, intelligent, and sensitive. I'm guessing this intimidates a lot of men.

    Also, the fact that you are monogamously coupled is a bit of a deterrent on a site where many men are single and searching. Lastly, you speak a lot about your relationship with God, which is wonderful. However, many gay men have a visceral reaction to religion in general because of the damage done to the community by fundamentalist.

    As more members become familiar with you through your forum posts, they will become a bit more comfortable making contact with you.

    However, unfortunate as it is, you may need to be the one that breaks the ice in the majority of cases. There are many guys who are just very insecure when they really should not be.

    I happen to know that you are not shy about doing that, which speaks highly of your own confidence in yourself.

    Good-luck and don't be discouraged.

    Be the change you want to see in the world. -- Mahatma Gandhi
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    Sep 27, 2011 1:23 PM GMT
    Creyente, Creyente, Creyente...