Assertiveness, aggressiveness and temperament.

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    Sep 27, 2011 3:45 PM GMT
    It happens in traffic. At the water cooler. At the gym. In the grocery line.

    Someone cuts you off, breaks in the line, overtakes illegally, etc.

    Do you

    a.) let it be

    b.) explode.

    Go.
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    Sep 27, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    explode, its more fun
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    Sep 27, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    c.) I calmly let the person know what they have done. More often than not it is someone who did not realize what they did, or was hoping you didn't realize it.

    In either case, it usually always remedies the situation. However, if it fails see option b. icon_wink.gif

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    Edit: In traffic, I just let it go. You're not going to teach anyone a lesson car to car, and you never know what these idiots might do.
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    Sep 27, 2011 4:20 PM GMT
    What a great topic: life's daily irritants! I'm still working on this - people in downtown Vancouver just love to cut across in front of you on the sidewalk instead of let you pass first - to just let it go. I think it's a form of power-play... isn't it too bad some people think acting like this and what you described will make their day/life better?
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    Sep 27, 2011 6:37 PM GMT
    Depends what country Im in and what the local etiquette is ... in new york I would prolly say something immediately.. in Paris I would just let the person cut in front...

    When in Rome, do as the Romans do...

    (I should add, that I get livid when people come in from other countries and start telling people in their countries how to do things "politely" by their foreign standards... i find it so rude, I get quite temperamental about it)
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    Sep 27, 2011 6:38 PM GMT
    I usually let it go. If someone has to do shit like that, their life kind of sucks anyways, so I just figured that they are bad people and dont really care.
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    Sep 27, 2011 6:40 PM GMT
    I personally

    B. Explode

    and then

    A. Let it go.

    Best of both worlds.
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    Sep 27, 2011 6:44 PM GMT

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    Sep 27, 2011 6:46 PM GMT
    used to let it go... now i explode, then let it go.... icon_mad.gif
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    Sep 27, 2011 6:46 PM GMT
    That's funny.

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    Sep 27, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    B. Cuss them out/fight them
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    Sep 27, 2011 6:58 PM GMT
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    THIS.
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    Sep 27, 2011 7:59 PM GMT
    I peel the skin from their face with my bare hands, then make them watch me eat it.
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    Sep 27, 2011 8:30 PM GMT
    creyente saidThat's funny.

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    Ditto
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    Sep 27, 2011 9:26 PM GMT
    Someone doesn't hold a door:
    THANKS A LOT, YOU FUCKING LAZY INCONSIDERATE BITCH

    Traffic:
    YOU STUPID FUCKING PIECE OF SHIT HOW HARD IS IT TO USE A FUCKING TURN SIGNAL GOD DAMN IT *flip the bird* HOLY TITS THE LEFT LANE IS FOR GOING FASTER THAN THE RIGHT LANE YOU STUPID FUCKING DICK BREATH DOUCHE BAG GO FASTER YOU CAUSE ALL TRAFFIC JAMS FUCK SHIT CUNT ASSHOLE DAMN IT etc etc

    If the person is really pissing me off, I will go out of my way to harass them. E.g. tailgating, cutting them off, blocking traffic if they're trying to pass, etc.
    I almost followed a guy home one time because he was going 30 in a 55 and when I tried to pass him over the dashed yellow line, he matched my speed of roughly 70 and almost caused me to get into a head on collision. When I got back behind him, he went back down to 30. I was about ready to smash his face in with a crow bar. Instead, I tailed the shit out of him with my brights on and my hand on the horn for a good 5 minutes until he pulled over.

    New York drivers make me so god damn angry. I don't think anyone here has a license. Seriously, the shit they do is mind boggling sometimes. I've never seen 2 lanes come to a complete stop at a green light for no reason at all and I've never seen someone make a right turn across 3 lanes of traffic and I've never seen someone pull out 300 feet in front of me when I'm driving in a 55... And this is almost an every day occurrence. I don't know how my blood pressure is normal.


    Sorry, kind of went off there. I have really bad road rage. icon_redface.gif

    That's all on a good day. You don't wanna know what my bad days are like.
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    Sep 27, 2011 9:29 PM GMT
    Cash saidI personally

    B. Explode

    and then

    A. Let it go.

    Best of both worlds.


    This

    I flair up, flame out, move on.
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    Sep 27, 2011 9:34 PM GMT
    http://youarenotsosmart.com/2010/08/11/catharsis/

    The Misconception: Venting your anger is an effective way to reduce stress and prevent lashing out at friends and family.

    The Truth: Venting increases aggressive behavior over time.

    "If you get into an argument, or someone cuts you off in traffic, or you get called an awful name, venting will not dissipate the negative energy. It will, however, feel great.

    Bushman’s work also debunks the idea of redirecting your anger into exercise or something similar. He says it will only maintain your state or increase your arousal level, and afterward you may be even more aggressive than if you had cooled off.

    Still, cooling off is not the same thing as not dealing with your anger at all. Bushman suggests you delay your response, relax or distract yourself with an activity totally incompatible with aggression."

    Why should I let the person who pisses me off win, unless I am able to directly fix it? I simply focus myself on better things. Doesn't always work, but I try to for the sake of my own happiness.
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    Sep 27, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    Calculate the situation, act on the desired effect.

    I have no need to explode on someone, but neither do I let go of things that matter. My temper is ice cold.
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    Sep 27, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    jprichva saidI used to get angry.
    Now I'm so mellow and laid-back that last week I ate an Earth Shoe.


    Lol right on.
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    Sep 27, 2011 9:59 PM GMT
    "Don't be bitter. Be better." I think that is the best way to direct your temper.