are gays tend to choose same-race partners?

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    May 17, 2008 11:06 PM GMT
    have you ever noticed any racist attitude in gay community? icon_neutral.gif
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    May 17, 2008 11:19 PM GMT
    Being attracted to men of a certain race is not, in my opinion, racism. I'll say right here that I am mostly attracted to white guys, but I've been intimate with men of other colors, too.
  • ShawnTX

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    May 17, 2008 11:21 PM GMT
    Yes, because gay people aren't any different than anyone else.
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    May 17, 2008 11:49 PM GMT
    ShawnTO saidYes, because gay people aren't any different than anyone else.
    ================================================================================ arent gays supposed to be more open-minded. so i wonder if there are any gay who dont try to hide his racist thought and feelings.
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    May 17, 2008 11:53 PM GMT
    Even gay guys are racist. You would think they would know better but nope. However, CarlosGringo is right. Just because someone isnt attracted to a certain race doesnt make them racist.
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    May 17, 2008 11:57 PM GMT
    Whoa...whoa...huh? What?? Gays are supposed to be more open-minded than other people? I don't think I got that memo. Why, exactly, are we supposed to be open-minded? Because we chose to embrace an alternative lifestyle? Because we chose to do something different?

    We are so much more than the sum of our sexualities. Who we are and who we find attractive or choose to date is as much informed by our cultural environs, socio-economic millieu, and numerous other factors. Being gay isn't a trump card that overrides all else.

    As for racism, sure it's there...some folks are just assholes. Let's not confuse racism for preference when it comes to attraction, then. If we follow that logic, all of us here are guilty of sexism because we choose to date men over women.
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    May 17, 2008 11:58 PM GMT
    I'm not sure as I've dated men from just about every race I can think of. The 3 bf's that I have been serious with have been hispanic.

    But I'm sure that some gay's can be just as shallow as everyone else.
  • ShawnTX

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    May 18, 2008 12:00 AM GMT
    turk saidarent gays supposed to be more open-minded. so i wonder if there are any gay who dont try to hide his racist thought and feelings.


    Is that in the Gay Manual?
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    May 18, 2008 12:05 AM GMT
    Shawn... I believe that it is on page 136 under paragraph 4 section 38
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    May 18, 2008 12:07 AM GMT
    Shawn, isn't that the page you got lube smeared on?? Maybe that's why you missed it. Entirely forgiveable.
  • HereNBoston

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    May 18, 2008 12:08 AM GMT
    oh yeah.. its right after that clause about having to all be activists too and carry signs in our trunks... because you never know when we'll have to protest something... a new law, a sale cut short at nordstrom, paris hiltons new line of ugly shoes... you know..important stuff.
  • ShawnTX

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    May 18, 2008 12:20 AM GMT
    I must have been staring at myself in the mirror and flipped though that part.

    Yes, gay people are allowed to date within their race...that's not racism.

    Have I noticed racism in the gay community? Yes, because we're no bteter or worse than straight people.
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    May 18, 2008 12:30 AM GMT
    turk saidhave you ever noticed any racist attitude in gay community? icon_neutral.gif

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    you are beating a dead horse!!!
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    May 18, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    My are to color-skin and race for bf.

    Oops...never mind. ESL.
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    May 18, 2008 12:33 AM GMT
    I dont think one can necessarily put a person's sexual attraction to any race down as racism. We are not in necessarily in control of our particular sexual attractions.

    For example, I didnt choose my particular attraction to short men. I dont know why a short guy turns me on more than a tall guy.

    Likewise, I dont think you can brand someone as racist if he is attracted more to one race than another.

    AND FURTHERMORE...

    When it comes to instances of intimacy and personal decisions, I don't think the concept of "racism" applies. People should have control of their own intimate lives. One's personal life is under the scrutiny of OEO.

    I would say that the one trying to butt into other's personal lives to check for racism doesnt understand the problem of racism.

    AND FURTHER FURTHERMORE...

    There is a possibility that there is biological basis for preferring someone who more closely resembles oneself. One who more closely resembles oneself is more likely to share common genes. So those genes may tend to bring people who resemble each other together.
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    May 18, 2008 12:37 AM GMT
    My bar has very few Black guys frequenting it but they are welcome and loved like any other patron. I think the reason so few come to gay bars is due to the Down Low culture. Toledo has plenty of black gay men as evidenced by their posts on "Craigs List". Most are just not very open about it. That isn't racism, it's
    just being private. I can respect that.





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    May 18, 2008 12:41 AM GMT
    caslon said One's personal life is under the scrutiny of OEO.


    What does the now-defunct Office of Economic Opportunity have to do with anything?
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    May 18, 2008 12:44 AM GMT
    jprichva said[quote][cite]caslon said[/cite] One's personal life is under the scrutiny of OEO.

    What does the now-defunct Office of Economic Opportunity have to do with anything?


    Oops...I thought it meant Office of Equal Opportunity. ... icon_lol.gif

    whew...it does: The National Institutes of Health (NIH) Office of Equal Opportunity and Diversity Management (OEODM)
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    May 18, 2008 12:47 AM GMT
    Pardon me while I barf on this thread.
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    May 18, 2008 12:54 AM GMT
    caslon said [Oops...I thought it meant Office of Equal Opportunity. ... icon_lol.gif

    whew...it does: The National Institutes of Health (NIH) Office of Equal Opportunity and Diversity Management (OEODM)


    Oh now, I didn't realize there was a new OEO.

    The OEO I referred to (and I was joking, but it was an actual agency) was a Great Society anti-poverty agency that was among the first to be eliminated when Richard Nixon took office.
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    May 18, 2008 1:32 AM GMT

    This must be a joke? How many times can this subject be asked? icon_eek.gif
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    May 18, 2008 1:35 AM GMT
    Let me put this out here. There is nothing intrinsically wrong with preferring men of one particular race versus another. We're only human, and there are some physical differences among the races that "color" our erotic sensibilities.

    With that said, it's still been my experience that gay men who impose absolute, exclusionary racial codes in their dating and social habits DO have a kernel of racism in their gut they cannot conceal or "dress up" as "personal preference," because it stinks from the inside out.

    If you place a giant "X" across an entire race, that betrays prejudice, and perhaps bigotry, and you are telling on yourself. Honey you forgot to roll on your Secret this morning.

    Yes, there are many black men who face inward and refuse to consider white men as sexual partners or social allies, but I believe that's a reaction to the gay sexual racism they have experienced. They have faced racially-based rejection and refuse to set themselves up for another insult.

    And let me put THIS out there as well. Gay people do have an obligation and a mission to be more progressive and open-minded than the general population because, in the Industrialized West we (gay men) have been the beneficiaries of extraordinary measures of protection taken on our behalf.

    Hell it took 300 years for American blacks to catch a damn break. Gay white men got their props a whole lot quicker. Pay the decency and consideration forward please.

    Prefer but don't exclude. There's a differences. Discerning eyes and noses can tell it and smell it.

    I told you we sometimes have to get down into the "funk" didn't I?
  • ShawnTX

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    May 18, 2008 3:52 AM GMT
    Sorry BabiGayPimp, I don't accept that discrimination is ok as long as it's coming from non-whites. Racism is racism, discrimination is discrimination, bigotry is bigotry, however you dress it up.

    When you fight fire with fire, everybody gets burned. Fighting discrimination with discrimination does not eliminate the problem, it just shifts it.
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    May 18, 2008 5:20 AM GMT
    Its a matter of choice what types we like and don't like and everyone has the right to chose!

    I like Latin type guys and Taller than me also Black guys but there a few here where I live.But when it comes to vibes about someone colour or race does not come into it.

    My b/f is Turk/Kurd from the eastern part of Turkey and I am white well brown tanned now with a white bottie!
  • joeindallas

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    May 18, 2008 5:28 AM GMT
    As a person who dated an Asian person I will tell you the pit fall of doing so. You slip up and say something that might coem back and bite you. We were talking on night on what type of resturant to go to. We were using non PC terms for the Resturants like Italian WOP etc. He suggested a Vietnamese place, the word Gook pop out of my mouth. He laughed it off but I knew he was hurt. That is why it is easier to date with in your own race. Just my opinion