Writing a Letter or Email

  • comical44

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    Sep 28, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    So I first came out to a couple of my Best friends in Summer of 2009

    They were my girl Best Friends....They were great and it Felt Great...to Finally share what Ive kept locked up for 24 years...Im sure most fo you know the feeling

    Im now 26 and the last few monthes ive been going crazy...It has been eating me up and im no longer gonna stay hidden and so unhappy and Lonely.

    2 days ago I realized its time to procede so I emailed my best friend(on of my guy best friends) I have 2 guy best friends and I chose to start with the one Im more comfortable with.

    Im going to make a goal to myself to tell people every other week or every month just for my own sanity ya know?

    Do you think its Wrong if I/or someone comes out through email or letter?I think its perfectly fine...Its all what your comfortable with
  • comical44

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    Sep 28, 2011 3:12 AM GMT
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    Sep 28, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    It's fine to come out via email. It gives you an extra buffer. In case they react negatively their emotions will be more stripped away through the internet. I actually came out to my aunt today via email. I had to give her the real reason why I didn't exactly see myself living in Nebraska. lol She hasn't replied yet but if she rejects me I probably won't give a fuck.
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    Sep 28, 2011 10:30 AM GMT
    Hmm, I had a friend that came out to his fraternity via email. I am also considering coming out to my rugby team in an email just bc I don't have the time or patience to do it one by one. But consider this, how is it going to be when you see them next? Could possibly very awkward.

    Secondly, wouldn't you prefer to come out to close friends face to face so you can see their immediate reaction? This could be valuable in evaluating yalls friendship in the future: perhaps the initial response is somewhat negative but you think you can make them come around eventually, you will then know that you need to work extra hard at showing them that this really hasn't changed anything between you, you've always been gay and always will be and its no big deal.

    I think face to face also shows your friends that they mean a lot to you and you value their friendship

    I guess I just feel like email is the easy way out, I would avoid unless there's a compelling reason not to do it face to face (nervousness is not a compelling reason btw)
  • comical44

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    Sep 28, 2011 6:47 PM GMT
    ncujock saidHmm, I had a friend that came out to his fraternity via email. I am also considering coming out to my rugby team in an email just bc I don't have the time or patience to do it one by one. But consider this, how is it going to be when you see them next? Could possibly very awkward.

    Secondly, wouldn't you prefer to come out to close friends face to face so you can see their immediate reaction? This could be valuable in evaluating yalls friendship in the future: perhaps the initial response is somewhat negative but you think you can make them come around eventually, you will then know that you need to work extra hard at showing them that this really hasn't changed anything between you, you've always been gay and always will be and its no big deal.

    I think face to face also shows your friends that they mean a lot to you and you value their friendship

    I guess I just feel like email is the easy way out, I would avoid unless there's a compelling reason not to do it face to face (nervousness is not a compelling reason btw)



    I agree wityh a lot of what you say to be honest...

    But then again I think an email can be just as good if the reasons are right.

    My best friend I came out to via email lives in hawaii...I havnt seen him in a year or so but I talk to him all the time...So I feel like this is alright to do....I told him in the email that if you was home I would have done it face to face