Sep 28, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
So the ex BF said that one of the contributing factors to the demise of our relationship was that I made everything about me. I would reduce everything down to how it affected me. He also admitted he was guilty of the same thing but in opposite, refusing to be the focus of attention to vehemently that the ensuing black hole was quite attention grabbing. Now after a discussion I realised that he was most likely right, but also that I didnt realise I was doing that. But here's the kicker, it is very difficult to try and even ask questions without putting th econtext on oneself. So how would a person change this behaviour if they didnt realise it existed in the first place? Also, would even asking this question be drawing attention to oneself, thusly creating a vicious circle? Can one even express themselves at all without being guilty of this?