What makes you a man?


  • Sep 28, 2011 8:47 PM GMT
    As we grow up we all go through different phases in our life. Legally I am an adult, but until this year I was always a kid. I am finally starting to see myself evolve to the point where I soon can call myself a man. What defining characteristics do you think signals us from boyhood to manhood? And how do I know when I have finally reached it?
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    Sep 28, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    Having a penis.

    Sorry, being a jerk because it was too easy of an answer for the title. ;)

    Umm, I'm not sure...I guess I never really thought about it. It must be different for everyone. Wonder what age is generally considered "manhood".
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    Sep 28, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    A dick some balls and an honor code.
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    Sep 28, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    Testes, fearlessness, independence, and responsibility for my own success and failures.
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    Sep 28, 2011 8:58 PM GMT
    southernkid105 saidAs we grow up we all go through different phases in our life. Legally I am an adult, but until this year I was always a kid. I am finally starting to myself evolve to the point where I soon can call myself a man. What defining characteristics do you think signals us from boyhood to manhood? And how do I know when I have finally reached it?


    I know some young guys who are men. I also know some guys older than me who are litle boys.

    It is hard to define. It isn't the false masculinity of being a poser. It is being self asured. Confident. Caring. Capable. Can you fix a problem without drama? Do you face your fears? Do you stand up for what is right, even when you are scared to do it?

    What is that called? What is the one characteristic? I dont know, but I know a man when I see him.
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    Sep 28, 2011 9:05 PM GMT
    integrity, independence, honor.
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    Sep 28, 2011 9:33 PM GMT
    In my opinion i think being a man is the following

    Confidence
    Loyalty
    Putting your spouse before you
    Dealing with things without the drama
    Not acting like your 18
    Dressing appropriately for your age while still caring a certain aura.
    Letting the little things roll off your shoulders.

    It is hard to explain. I think men don't really turn into a man until around 35-40. That age is where guys look their best and so on. They have a bit of rugged and sexy look. I know when I see it and don't. When I don't the guy is usually trying to look younger or cute. Men who age gracefully with confidence is key to attraction for me anyway.

    I see a lot of gay men who are still acting like their 16, kinda trying to hard, looking for validation where as a hot and handsome man just rolls with it. He is easy,confident,sexy, you understand where he is in life and he knows where he is in life.

    Hard to explain...
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    Sep 28, 2011 9:34 PM GMT
    "Maturity"



    Plain and simple. Not your penis or your balls, it doesn't matter how big or small you are down there. Its all about "Maturity" and how you handle circustances.

    As my Mother and Aunt said "its time to grow up, be a man, and be mature"
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    Sep 28, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    Zeus17 said"Maturity"



    Plain and simple. Not your penis or your balls, it doesn't matter how big or small you are down there. Its all about "Maturity" and how you handle circustances.

    As my Mother and Aunt said "its time to grow up, be a man, and be mature"


    I concur!
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    Sep 28, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    I was born a woman, I'm like Chaz Bono

    ^ just kidding. I'm actually a very very butch lesbian. I had you all fooled, didn't I?

    ^ that was a joke too.
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    Sep 28, 2011 9:45 PM GMT
    What are little boys made of?
    Frogs and snails
    And puppy-dogs' tails,
    That's what little boys are made of.


    (From the nursery rhyme)

    Some double-entendre imagery?

    I'm still partly a boy, many men of any age are. I pity the man who no longer has any bit of boy inside him. Then he is truly old, no matter what his age.

    I became a man at 13, I suppose, when my late Mother, with tears in her eyes, told me that I was much smarter than she and my Father, and that I was now in charge of running the household. All major purchase decisions would be mine, the managing of the household budget, vacation choices, changes to the house itself, everything.

    I was stunned. And I didn't want it. One moment I was a happy-go-lucky carefree kid like all my friends, the next I was the head of the family for all practical purposes. And I revered my parents, very smart & accomplished in their own right, and suddenly they turned the tables on me.

    And it happened just as they said. I selected their cars (before I could drive myself), all their appliances, bought our yard power equipment, I planned our family vacations, landscaped our property, chose the carpeting and wallpaper (well, it was still the 1960s), planned house renovations, etc, etc.

    I suppose the cynical view is that they both had very busy careers, and I often didn't see them. SOMEBODY had to run the house, and I was cheaper than hiring some kind of personal manager or assistant. But still, they placed that trust & responsibility in me at only 13, and I had to be a man at a fairly early age.

    It served me well, good training. So that when I enlisted in the Army at 20, only intending to spend a few years fixing trucks, I was dragged into leadership positions, and eventually given an officer's commission.

    I'm a man because I take a man's responsibilities & duties. A bit of a sexist view, I suppose, but don't forget my age, the generation I come from. Many women can do far better than me, I know, but still, I like that I know my duty, and I perform it, as best I can.

    What makes me a man is that I have duty, while many women have indulgent deference. Now flame me all you like. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 28, 2011 9:45 PM GMT
    XY chromosomal combination.
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    Sep 28, 2011 9:51 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle said
    southernkid105 saidAs we grow up we all go through different phases in our life. Legally I am an adult, but until this year I was always a kid. I am finally starting to myself evolve to the point where I soon can call myself a man. What defining characteristics do you think signals us from boyhood to manhood? And how do I know when I have finally reached it?


    I know some young guys who are men. I also know some guys older than me who are litle boys.

    It is hard to define. It isn't the false masculinity of being a poser. It is being self asured. Confident. Caring. Capable. Can you fix a problem without drama? Do you face your fears? Do you stand up for what is right, even when you are scared to do it?

    What is that called? What is the one characteristic? I dont know, but I know a man when I see him.


    ^^ Yes.

    A great answer. Well put, sir.
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    Sep 28, 2011 9:52 PM GMT
    Accountability and responsibility .
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    Sep 28, 2011 9:53 PM GMT
    Inostrankan saidXY chromosomal combination.


    That does make you male.
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    Sep 28, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    Cause I said so!

    And if you disagree with me I'll scratch your eyes out!
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    Sep 28, 2011 10:05 PM GMT
    Integrity and Honor.


    Having a penis, testicles and some pubic hair doesn't hurt, either.icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 28, 2011 10:05 PM GMT
    LVmotoJock saidPenis.


    Funny I was just about to say that!

    Also, my body hair makes me a man. When I shave, I feel like a boy!
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    Sep 28, 2011 10:07 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    LVmotoJock saidPenis.


    Funny I was just about to say that!

    Also, my body hair makes me a man. When I shave, I feel like a boy!


    I had to edit it. You're too quick dude
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    Sep 28, 2011 10:09 PM GMT
    LVmotoJock said
    Chainers said
    LVmotoJock saidPenis.


    Funny I was just about to say that!

    Also, my body hair makes me a man. When I shave, I feel like a boy!


    I had to edit it. You're too quick dude


    You forget, you are dealing with that which has no life on this site :-).
  • justinlee86

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    Sep 28, 2011 10:10 PM GMT
    FUCK I am way to late....


    Just like everyone else I wanted to say my DICK hahaha ugh!!!!
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    Sep 28, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    A hairy dick and balls
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    Sep 28, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
    I'm totally masc bro, dude. And that's why I'm a MAN.



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    Sep 28, 2011 10:28 PM GMT
    I'm not fake and a hoe
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    Sep 28, 2011 10:30 PM GMT
    ZbmwM5 saidI'm totally masc bro, dude. And that's why I'm a MAN.



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    Saying "bro, "dude" and claiming to be "masc" doesn't make you a MAN.


    Is there no honor or integrity left in the world?

    Chainers...help me out here buddy.