Sep 28, 2011 11:28 PM GMT
When I told my family I was gay my mom cried, my grandmother cried, my dad cried, everyone cried (except me, lol). I didn't expect them to throw me a party or anything and I knew that it would be hard for them. I never feared that they would stop loving me or disown me, but I knew that it would take them a little time to get used to the idea, and after a few months they were fine. Now my mom is pushing me to find Mr. Right and settle down, because she still wants grandchildren. But it made me wonder if we are sometimes too hard on our parents or if we expect too much from out parents when we first come out? I mean, we have to look at if from their perspective. Due to the laws in most states in the U.S., being gay means that we won't be able to get married, which is something many parents look forward to. Having children becomes more complicated. And more importantly, no parent wants to see their child struggle, and they know that being openly gay will most likely add some hurdles or obstacles to our lives. Maybe we should cut our parents and family some slack when we first come out, let them digest the news and give them some time to come around. They usually do. And if they don't then you move on with your life and they move on with theirs.