Just going to clear some of these assumptions up.
I live in West Hollywood, I go to school in Santa Monica. It's not remotely safe to admit you're gay at that school. I already have had 4 different guys whispering about jumping me just because they *think* I might be gay. And a total of 7 guys avoiding me like I have the plague because they've decided I'm interested in them because I smiled at them when they spoke to me. Oh and then all of the random guys and girls who call me a faggot just because I wear button downs and loafers/dress shoes instead of baggy shirts and overpriced sneakers. So you'll have to excuse me for keeping my sexuality to myself. Not sure where you guys are where you can just advertise it to the world without any consequences but don't take it for granted or assume everyone else can.
Also not sure how I'm a pansy when so far I've done all the work and he's passively sat around making eyes, but I guess that's what I get for asking for advice on the internet.
The whole Rice Krispie thing came from the fact that I literally have one on me all the time and he randomly gave me some Skittles(that he poured into his own hand first btw)...so I really did nothing he didn't do. I at least made the effort to write a note asking to talk privately minus the audience.
I also don't hate women and wasn't trying to insult his friends. I only called them fruit flies because they're always buzzing around him when they can clearly see I'm trying to get him alone. That said they do at least try to get him to dial it back because he's got all these little tests he's giving me when I don't play those little games with him.
Anyway I'll take it from here. I will go directly tell him that I'm interested...in case he's slow and missed that. If he's somehow no longer interested because I didn't blurt out to the whole world my sexuality when he never has then I'll probably tell him off for playing games and move on with my life. At the end of the day no matter how it's turned around he was interested in me first, he came to me, but he never once asked me out or anything. All he did was flirt and stare at me. So I don't see how I'm the one who lacks confidence. The one time I had him alone he ran out of the room before I could open my mouth.
I can own that I wasn't being direct but by no means was I being a pansy. I'm just aware of the world we live in...and West Hollywood is no gay mecca so I got a good laugh out of that. There are plenty of homophobic yuppies around here as well as racists and flat out catty people. California isn't a gay friendly state by any means so cut the crap with that lie seriously...Prop 8 should've proven that.