PART 2 - Military Guy Comes Out to Mom

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    Sep 29, 2011 6:55 PM GMT
    The same guy who's coming out video to his father last week got millions of hits now uploads the video of what happened when he came out to his mother. Pretty lengthy but I watched it in its entirety.

    11:45 - bible reference
    14:30 - she says who does he really know if he's gay

    He says from the start that she has a very conservative background and that she might not take it well, but I think overall it wasn't horrible. Hopefully she will come around in time.


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    Sep 29, 2011 8:26 PM GMT
    Looks like he's got a hard road ahead of him. He "thinks" all he wants is her love; but what he's going to get is years and years of lectures about going to hell.

    <-- Faced same shit for 20 years before disowning my mom.
  • Mepark

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    Sep 29, 2011 8:39 PM GMT
    ^ Actually, it just looks like a shock of the moment. The awkward silences show it.

    Sorry about what you went through for decades, but not everyone deals with that. My mom shut me out the instant I told her (I didn't even have a "conversation" like this dude is having) and we didn't speak for 2 months, but during that time she was absorbing it. Now we couldn't be any closer. My dad never understood it, but we speak. Not everyone accepts homosexuality the instant they are asked to. It's a complex issue.
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    Sep 29, 2011 8:55 PM GMT
    Sorry, but his mother sounds like a moron. She supposedly cares so much about what the Bible says but misquotes, takes things out of context and doesn't even know where passages are located. Yeah, the Bible is obviously a very important part of her life. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 29, 2011 9:06 PM GMT
    I like his dad better. Maybe he needs to slap the bitch around a bit and knock some sense into her.icon_lol.gif
    (just kidding, for all you sensitive feminist, non-violent types)
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    Sep 29, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
    i want to give this guy the biggest tightest hug ever!
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    Sep 29, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
    hairymusclejock saidi want to give this guy the biggest tightest hug ever!


    I want the biggest tightest hug from you ever!
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    Sep 29, 2011 9:21 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    hairymusclejock saidi want to give this guy the biggest tightest hug ever!


    I want the biggest tightest hug from you ever!


    Awww Chainers...anytime icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 29, 2011 9:34 PM GMT
    Awww, this guy is so cute and he seems like hes got a great head on his shoulders. His mom is just ignorant and scared, it does seem like he may have a tough road ahead of himself with her...
  • sbwlguy

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    Sep 29, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    I hope this guy keeps posting YouTube vids. He is remarkably mature for his age and reasoned pretty well with his mom. You could hear she was shocked indeed, but it's a shame that religion coloured her views.

    That fucking bastard, religion.

    And the guy who posted about disowning his family. I can identify with that. I had a MAJOR falling out with my sister when I went over to New York for work. I didn't speak to her for a year. This is what absolutely needed to happen for her to come to terms with my being gay.
  • coyler

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    Sep 29, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    Thanks for the post, it reminded me a lot of my own coming out.

    I disagree with a couple of the remarks made about the mum though, you kinda have to see it from her side as well, it's completely out of the blue and she's in shock. She handled it as best she could. He's probably the first gay guy she's knowingly talked to and for the first homo she has encountered to be her son is gonna take some getting used to as she re-evaluates the stereotypes she associates with gay people
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    Sep 29, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    The guy is awesome

    And yes, religion is ultimately the culprit. Destructive, as usual.
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    Sep 29, 2011 10:19 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidLooks like he's got a hard road ahead of him. He "thinks" all he wants is her love; but what he's going to get is years and years of lectures about going to hell.

    <-- Faced same shit for 20 years before disowning my mom.

    Ya know, just because you got the shitty end of the stick doesn't mean everyone will.

    My mother accepted it, took for about an hour to calm down and then she turned into an evangelical gay rights supporter!

    All my dad said was "as long as your happy"

    My brother and sisters pretty much didn't care.

    It does happen and we don't have to be as bitter as you.
  • hebrewman

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    Sep 29, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    i was, and am, still lucky. even though mom cried for about 10 minutes, she eventually realized that i make my own decisions and that somehow, she always 'knew' in the back of her head that i was gay. dad was very supportive but feared 'the tough road ahead'. remember, this was the early 1980's. now, my family, my brother, brother in law, sister, sister in law, neices and nephews it's no big deal. i am who i am and even aunts and uncles are keen to it.
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    Sep 29, 2011 10:39 PM GMT
    I hope he posts his honeymoon night.
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    Sep 29, 2011 10:44 PM GMT
    ChilaxinJOCK09 saidAwww, this guy is so cute and he seems like hes got a great head on his shoulders. His mom is just ignorant and scared, it does seem like he may have a tough road ahead of himself with her...


    +1
  • KissTheSky

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    Sep 29, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    In fairness to the mother, people like her have essentially been brain-washed their entire lives by these fundamentalist religions to think that gay people are sick, evil, going to hell, etc. So they can't really turn all that off in one second when they discover the most important person in the world to them is one of the "evil" people. They have to begin a de-programming phase that will take months or ever years. It's like trying to rescue someone from a cult -- they don't start thinking clearly right away.

    Hopefully she gets it together enough to be more supportive to this great young guy.
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    Sep 29, 2011 11:09 PM GMT
    No matter what you can't change what other people think. He seems to have a good support system with his dad and friends. I think he'll be alright in the long run, although it's still hard because it's his mother.
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    Sep 29, 2011 11:18 PM GMT
    Ya, his dad is a lot cooler.
  • Musicman91

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    Sep 30, 2011 12:45 AM GMT
    He's very cute. As others have said he seems very mature and thoughtful for his age. Someone you can root for. I hope his mother comes around, hopefully his father can help her. I hope he keeps posting videos as well.
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    Sep 30, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    Why is it gays who come out are the ones who are sympathetic and care what their family and friends think about this news but nary a word of comfort and true love you can believe in is given to the gay person coming out. Like this man?

    Does anyone know who he is and where to contact him 'cause there are undoubtedly thousands - if not tens of thousands of gay men and lesbian women (I am waiting for a similar Youtube from a lesbian telling her mother or father she's gay...) I'm sure will like to thank him and to know we are proud & support him.

    You just watched gay history in the making and this may be called 'The soldier who told his mother he is was gay' moment. Who could not be touched by this...especially the long silences?
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    Sep 30, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    yankinbc said Why is it gays who come out are the ones who are sympathetic and care what their family and friends think about this news but nary a word of comfort and true love you can believe in is given to the gay person coming out. Like this man?



    I've noticed that too.

    Why is it, so often, in cases like this, the kid is the actual adult, and the parents are frequently less than parental?
  • Montague

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    Sep 30, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    Ok, now he is getting redundant. Next week he will come out to his long lost brother.
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    Sep 30, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
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    paulflexes saidLooks like he's got a hard road ahead of him. He "thinks" all he wants is her love; but what he's going to get is years and years of lectures about going to hell.

    <-- Faced same shit for 20 years before disowning my mom.

    Ya know, just because you got the shitty end of the stick doesn't mean everyone will.

    My mother accepted it, took for about an hour to calm down and then she turned into an evangelical gay rights supporter!

    All my dad said was "as long as your happy"

    My brother and sisters pretty much didn't care.

    It does happen and we don't have to be as bitter as you.
    Keep in mind that your experience is the exception - not the rule.
  • JP85257

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    Sep 30, 2011 1:23 AM GMT
    I can sum this video up with 1 comment:

    MOAR! GIVE ME MOAR ATTENTION.