Scrawny/Feminine Physique - Can I ever look good? [UPDATED -Progress pics! :)]

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    Sep 30, 2011 5:37 AM GMT
    I'm 23 and I have very narrow shoulder/chest + my hips are kinda big for a guy making me look extra girly icon_sad.gif
    I want to start weight-lifting but I don't know it will make that much of a difference especially when wearing clothes as I have very narrow shoulders etc. and I know I can't change my bone structure.

    I really want to look broad/masculine and I'm getting really depressed about the way I look. I wear hoodies most of the time because I feel too insecure to wear a t-shirt as my scrawny body is more noticeable.
    I know I shouldn't focus on it too much and that I should be grateful for what I have but I can't help wishing I looked different and it's really getting me down icon_sad.gif

    Here's some pics so you know what I mean:
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    As you can see the main problem is my right side - my right shoulder is shorter than the left and my right hip sticks out more.


    I would love to have a physique similar to these guys but I think even with weight training it won't be possible because of my bone structure...
    http://i1097.photobucket.com/albums/g345/electrickcastle/45571_rcha_v09_015-1000px_122_620lo.jpg
    http://i1097.photobucket.com/albums/g345/electrickcastle/bodybuilding-photography.jpg

    Even this guy who isn't the hulk still looks way bigger than me because he has naturally broad shoulders/masculine physique.
    http://www.select-sport.com/Images/Beklaedning/T-shirt---male-model-2.gif

    What do you guys think?
    Thanks in advance for any replies icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 30, 2011 10:37 AM GMT
    Sorry but your links arent "clickable". Nobody is going to take the time to type the url address manualy.
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    Sep 30, 2011 11:53 AM GMT
    You should have seen me a year ago. Still work in progress, but I'm happy with the results so far.

    You're 23. Make the best use out of your testosterone now.

    Just eat more and lift correctly and consistently. You'll be surprised how much you can gain initially (the first 10-20 pounds are the easiest).
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    Sep 30, 2011 11:56 AM GMT
    Sure you can. Everyone looks good with confidence icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 30, 2011 11:58 AM GMT
    well! I made the effort to highlight the link and click "open in a new window" If you have a mac, things are just easier! icon_razz.gif

    Firstly, you have the body type that will benefit from lifting weights! I started with a body similar to yours and am making progress- you can too! you just need to STICK TO IT!!!!!!!!

    Swallow your pride and go and find a GOOD trainer, a GOOD trainer genuinely wants to see results and will persevere with you until that happens! it took me a little while to find a good trainer, i thought the local gym would be a good place to start however they just seemed to employ "pretty boys" that only worried about fluffing their hair in the mirror and struggled to have any kind of interaction with people that weren't already "pretty"! So i ended up with a 33 yr old lesbian bodybuilder! She's cool to me, she's a task master and she has bigger biceps than most of the guys on this site!

    your goals of the "body type" that you want to achieve, are and are not completely realistic, you're more likely to end up with an "athletic" build rather than a bear!

    So you're plan for the weekend is this
    1. start to find a GOOD trainer that you feel comfortable with!
    2. Eat like you've never eaten b4- Macdonalds doesn't = food!, I was lucky that my trainers gf (who incidentally was also a bodybuilder) is now a Nutritionist was able to put together a good plan for me! if you can afford it ( and i recommend it) get one!
    3. write down some goals and take small achievable steps towards them!

    remember, you're starting out so some days will be good some days will be bad- but DONT give up!

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    Sep 30, 2011 12:12 PM GMT
    Thanks for the replies, especially 'AussieMe'.
    An "athletic build" definitely sounds good enough for me lol icon_biggrin.gif

    I edited the post, sorry about the unclickable links, I have a plug-in for Firefox where you just triple-click on anything starting with htttp/www etc and it automatically opens it in a new tab so I forgot it was a hassle without that.

    Gah I feel so embarrassed looking at my pics up here lol icon_redface.gif
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    Sep 30, 2011 12:16 PM GMT
    Why has no one touched on nutrition here? Training alone won't get you big. Make sure you consume quick absorbing protein AND carbs after any resistance training. The carbs will make your body react with insulin, which will then encourage muscle building. Just keep your fat consumption low while this is happening or you'll gain fat, too.
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    Sep 30, 2011 12:56 PM GMT
    Honestly, I think you look so good and I want to totally love you and fuck you so much, so lovingly, so hard.
    love



    electrick89 saidI'm 23 and I have very narrow shoulder/chest + my hips are kinda big for a guy making me look extra girly icon_sad.gif
    I want to start weight-lifting but I don't know it will make that much of a difference especially when wearing clothes as I have very narrow shoulders etc. and I know I can't change my bone structure.

    I really want to look broad/masculine and I'm getting really depressed about the way I look. I wear hoodies most of the time because I feel too insecure to wear a t-shirt as my scrawny body is more noticeable.
    I know I shouldn't focus on it too much and that I should be grateful for what I have but I can't help wishing I looked different and it's really getting me down icon_sad.gif

    Here's some pics so you know what I mean:
    05.jpg
    01.jpg
    02.jpg
    07.jpg
    03.jpg
    04.jpg

    As you can see the main problem is my right side - my right shoulder is shorter than the left and my right hip sticks out more.


    I would love to have a physique similar to these guys but I think even with weight training it won't be possible because of my bone structure...
    http://i1097.photobucket.com/albums/g345/electrickcastle/45571_rcha_v09_015-1000px_122_620lo.jpg
    http://i1097.photobucket.com/albums/g345/electrickcastle/bodybuilding-photography.jpg

    Even this guy who isn't the hulk still looks way bigger than me because he has naturally broad shoulders/masculine physique.
    http://www.select-sport.com/Images/Beklaedning/T-shirt---male-model-2.gif

    What do you guys think?
    Thanks in advance for any replies icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 30, 2011 1:14 PM GMT
    bottomup4u saidHonestly, I think you look so good and I want to totally love you and fuck you so much, so lovingly, so hard.
    love


    cCKiO.jpg

    And maybe he'll give you a protein shake after he's done "loving" you, too. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 30, 2011 1:30 PM GMT
    You surely can build up. I was shaped liked and still am, but after adding more muscle mass to shoulders and chest helps a lot with the way you look esp in T-shirt. You need to start building up on you upper chest and shoulders more. Plus you have a flat stomach already which am still struggling to get.
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    Sep 30, 2011 1:34 PM GMT
    I'm with the guys who say, you look pretty hot already!

    And you might not broaden your shoulder bones, but you can still do something.
    Your chest might get bigger if you take up swimming. Worked for me, at least. And your shoulders might look a bit bigger if you make sure to have some exercises on your plan that work on neck, shoulders, deltoids, lat and arms. Most gyms will have someone to get you a plan, tell him, what your wishes are, stick to it and I'm sure, you will feel better already, just by knowing that you do something.
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    Sep 30, 2011 1:45 PM GMT
    Man I wish I started with that foundation! You are an unpainted canvas. You can go anywhere you like but you look fine just the way you are.
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    Sep 30, 2011 1:54 PM GMT
    First off,don`t worry! At that age I was even more skinny and unexercised. If you`re completely new to exercise,you won`t look athletic/toned,etc.,that`s to be expected.You have the advantage of youth and a reasonable body weight.As other guys have said,you don`t look girly at all!

    Begin to do some cardio,walking,running,swimming,cycling.This will strengthen your heart and lungs,burn off the fat and make you look more toned and muscled.This will be a good foundation for whatever else you do in life.

    Then begin weight training.If you`re new to this game,go to a gym and get professional advice on what you need to do.Failing that,get some home equipment like hand dumbells,stirrups,etc. to get you started.One exercise to broaden out your shoulders would be push ups with your hands slightly wider spaced that your shoulders! Your body weight alone can be used to give a good workout.There`s lots of advice online about plenty of exercises to do.Try Realjock!

    Consistency is the key to improving.Get in the habit of doing something active most days.

    If you have a fast metabolism,you need to eat frequently and don`t skip meals.Go for low fat,high calorie snacks,etc.For muscle growth,eat 1.5g of protein/kg. body weight;good,low fat,lean protein,meats,milk,fish,and so on.
    With all exercises,go gently at first,then build up as you get stronger.
    Rest well between exercises,drink plenty of water and be patient,you will see changes for the better!
    Best wishes,
    John.
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    Sep 30, 2011 6:33 PM GMT
    Sure, you can do it.

    You already look nice. I was way skinnier than you.

    Just lift a lot, do pushups, pullups, etc.

    Be consistent in your workouts, eat right, and don't overanalyze or be overly-critical about your body. You have a good foundation, actually....just build on it.
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    Sep 30, 2011 6:50 PM GMT
    LittleDudeWithMuscles saidSure, you can do it.

    You already look nice. I was way skinnier than you.

    Just lift a lot, do pushups, pullups, etc.

    Be consistent in your workouts, eat right, and don't overanalyze or be overly-critical about your body. You have a good foundation, actually....just build on it.



    100% Agreed!!!!!!

    For what ever it may be worth - you have a much better foundation than I did when I started doing anything.

    I have been reasonably happy with my results.

    I have no doubts you will be thrilled with yours!!!!!
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    Sep 30, 2011 6:59 PM GMT
    Dont worry about your feminine build/wide hips.

    There gonna give you a big ass, and that will let you control tops like a jedi mind trick. Embrace the big ass!
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    Sep 30, 2011 7:04 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    Cash said
    For what ever it may be worth - you have a much better foundation than I did when I started doing anything!

    Really, And we all thought you popped outta your momma looking like this.


    I see you have met Mother.
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    Sep 30, 2011 7:21 PM GMT
    Dude, you are fine. Nothing too worry about. You just need to eat and lift. You'll do great. Stay positive, form a plan of attack and in 6 weeks, if you stick to your guns, I'd bet money that you'll see a difference.

    I had the same frame as you when I was 23. I'm no beefy bear now, by any stretch of the imagination, but I'm pretty happy with what I have achieved by a little hard work and dedication- that's all it takes.
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    Sep 30, 2011 7:25 PM GMT

    Extra girly? Your underwear picture says otherwise!

    Everyone has a different body type. Focusing on trying to be the broad shouldered stereotypical alpha male is going to lead to dissatisfaction. You can however focus on adding muscle to your own body type and be happy with the result.

    Also, if you don't like clothes hanging everywhere... try getting some tighter ones! Armani Exchange, American Eagle, A&F and Hollister all have clothes designed for smaller people.

    The next step is find an excercise program and EAT. A lot. Of.. everything! But mostly protein and carbs.

    And your on your way icon_razz.gif


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    Sep 30, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    Buddy you gotta lifts weights and work hard to get the resukts you want. No pain no gain.

    It'll take time..But you will get there..
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    For a guy who has not started lifting, you have a great starter build with some natural muscularity. It will only get better if you work at it. Contrary to what you have already determined, in no way do you have one of those natural physiques that is hopeless.

    Stop being so hard on yourself. As far as wanting to be more masculine, that's more about attitude than exercise. You need a tougher more resilient and positive view on things to match the better body you're going to build.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:27 PM GMT
    Had a similar build when younger. Other guys advice is good. Until you get to where you want, here's a tip on jeans. You want them to fit tight at the thigh and then straighten at the knee. Will cut down on the "hippy" thing and complement a thin build better.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:36 PM GMT
    I have the same build as you, and while it always is a work in progress, I would agree that most people are spot on with their advice.

    In the meantime, you should try some more fitted clothes to show off your assets. Tighter, more fitted t-shirts would serve you well, as well as jeans with a higher inseam.

    Also, I would try and improve your posture as well. It should right itself naturally as you gain more upper body musculature, but as of right now it appears that you are slouching forward just the slightest bit, which makes your chest appear smaller/less muscular, and decreases the visual length of your shoulders.

    If you bring your shoulders back, "square them" so they project straight out from your clavicle and position then just under your ears, your chest will naturally "pop" a bit more, and allow your muscles (and shirts!) to sit in a more appealing way. I always think of a thread running up through my spine up through the top of my head like a marionette string.
  • Latenight30

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    Sep 30, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    one stand up straight with better posture.
    then work out and eat. it's all possible. This site is a great resource and so are the guys for advice and insperation. Use us..no really use us.
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    Sep 30, 2011 11:54 PM GMT
    Man I'm glad I started this thread!
    I feel so much better, thanks for all the replies! icon_biggrin.gif
    I don't have access to a gym yet so I'll focus on body weight exercises for now, then start lifting as soon as I can.

    Should I bother with eating 'above maintenance' calories with just a body weight workout? Or just wait until I actually start lifting weights?

    Hopefully there will be some progress pics up here in the near future icon_biggrin.gif