Not sure if i'm gay or not?

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    Sep 30, 2011 5:54 PM GMT
    I sound really thick and immature here, but I honestly don't know. For years i've always had a crush on girls and had a few girlfriends (i'm 17 just now), and had these "obsession" type things with guys. With girls I think they'd be really hot looking, but there was never any interest in having sex with them or seeing them naked. Even pictures of naked female models do nothing for me. The obsessions with men have always been excused as "oh I really wish I had a friend like him" or "I wish I was him" or "I wish I could meet him" (if it was a celebrity) but recently i've found myself staring at guys on the train and checking them out. icon_redface.gif I don't know if it's a phase or not but I've got these visions of guys in their underwear and it really makes me feel "right", but at the same time I still think girls are really hot. I would class myself as 'bi' but then, I think I fancy guys more than I do girls. The truth is, I don't want to be gay. icon_sad.gif If I am, i'm NEVER coming out the closet (far too deep to go in to)!

    I'm not camp at all. I'm just a normal guy. I do listen to alot of pop music and i'm quite in touch with my emotions but I'm not camp? I'm so confused!
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    Sep 30, 2011 6:42 PM GMT
    Welcome to the team!

    But really man, just take your time and figure it out. No rush. There is nothing wrong with being gay and its seems you think there is. Being gay has no reflection on who you are as a person, It simply means you fall in love with men. Relax, everything is fine. When you are comfortable enough try talking to guys and see if it leads anywhere. Good luck man and there are plenty of people on here that can talk to you if you feel overwhelmed.
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    Sep 30, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    chaos1239 said[...]The truth is, I don't want to be gay. icon_sad.gifIf I am, i'm NEVER coming out the closet (far too deep to go in to)!

    [...] I'm just a normal guy. I do listen to alot of pop music and i'm quite in touch with my emotions but I'm not camp? I'm so confused!


    (I have no idea what "camp" means.)

    From what you wrote you want to resist being who you are.
    From what you wrote you'll continue to confuse yourself if you refuse to accept yourself for whom you are.

    Analyze what it means to be "normal." Who are the "normal" people? Think. Use YOUR own brain based on logic you've accrued. Learn the significance of the word 'Epiphany', whether it be an actually hearing or mental intellectual realization. The combination of intelligence and time does wonders.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:22 PM GMT
    Take things slow, get to know and love yourself. And never say never.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:23 PM GMT
    showme saidTake things slow, get to know and love yourself. And never say never.


    GOD - that's SO Gay!!!!!!
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:23 PM GMT
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    showme saidTake things slow, get to know and love yourself. And never say never.


    GOD - that's SO Gay!!!!!!


    Oooooh, you so mean.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:24 PM GMT
    You don't have to love Britney if you're gay, you know.
    I mean, it helps, but you're you!
    Have fun with it.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:25 PM GMT
    showme said
    Cash said
    showme saidTake things slow, get to know and love yourself. And never say never.


    GOD - that's SO Gay!!!!!!


    Oooooh, you so mean.


    Stop labeling me.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
    Saber170 saidWelcome to the team!

    But really man, just take your time and figure it out. No rush. There is nothing wrong with being gay and its seems you think there is. Being gay has no reflection on who you are as a person, It simply means you fall in love with men. Relax, everything is fine. When you are comfortable enough try talking to guys and see if it leads anywhere. Good luck man and there are plenty of people on here that can talk to you if you feel overwhelmed.


    This.

    When I came out, we didn't have anything like the web we have now. I was in a small town in Wisconsin and knew a few lesbians but that was it. Saber's response - someone his own age - clear, concise, accepting and not overwhelming. I wish I had someone to say that to me 20 years ago. Chaos - just breathe - and listen to people like Saber. You'll be fine - whether you are straight, gay, bi, whatever. Best of luck.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:32 PM GMT
    Cash said
    showme said
    Cash said
    showme saidTake things slow, get to know and love yourself. And never say never.


    GOD - that's SO Gay!!!!!!


    Oooooh, you so mean.


    Stop labeling me.


    Label, schmabel. I am judging you.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:37 PM GMT
    showme said
    Cash said
    showme said
    Cash said
    showme saidTake things slow, get to know and love yourself. And never say never.


    GOD - that's SO Gay!!!!!!


    Oooooh, you so mean.


    Stop labeling me.


    Label, schmabel. I am judging you.


    Oh. Well...OK then....as long as there are no labels.

    Carry on....
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:37 PM GMT
    If you don't want to have sex with girls, you're gay. That's pretty much the end of the story. Bisexual guys don't really say "I've never been interested in having sex with girls".

    As for never coming out... why? You'll be happier if you do, and you'll get more men.

    As for not being "campy"... not every gay guy floats around in pink boas and makeup, stud. "Gay guy" doesn't always, and in my experience doesn't even frequently, mean the loudest, queeniest, in your face homo around: that's just the most eye catching so it gets stuck in people's minds. Regular old homo Joe going about his normal life doesn't make much impact.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:49 PM GMT
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    Cash said>Oh. Well...OK then....as long as there are no labels.
    Carry on....

    . . . all you wanted to do was pass snarky notes to the basketball-team star sitting two rows away . . .


    Aw, c'mon, by RJ standards Cash IS the basketball-team star to whom we all wish to pass snarky notes.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    if you like these pictures......

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    .......you are gay.
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    Sep 30, 2011 8:55 PM GMT
    fizzle saidif you like these pictures......

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    .......you are gay.


    If it is any way possible - I think this dude just made me even Gayer than I was before.

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    Sep 30, 2011 9:02 PM GMT
    Cash said
    If it is any way possible - I think this dude just made me even Gayer than I was before.

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    Sep 30, 2011 9:14 PM GMT
    I have to say the pictures are hot
    Larkin_PLR saidIf you don't want to have sex with girls, you're gay. That's pretty much the end of the story. Bisexual guys don't really say "I've never been interested in having sex with girls".

    As for never coming out... why? You'll be happier if you do, and you'll get more men.

    As for not being "campy"... not every gay guy floats around in pink boas and makeup, stud. "Gay guy" doesn't always, and in my experience doesn't even frequently, mean the loudest, queeniest, in your face homo around: that's just the most eye catching so it gets stuck in people's minds. Regular old homo Joe going about his normal life doesn't make much impact.

    What Larkin is saying here is really true. Truth be told Larkin and I both have made impacts in the lives of others but it is not because we are gay
    Take a look at this guy, take a look at me, both of us break all the sterotypes. Truth: i do have lots of shoes.
    Being gay is about what you make of it. It is who you are not what you are. It is about being a man. Being honest(with yourself and others) You can go live an amazing life or you can sit in the shadows and be miserable. You have acturally come to a great site to learn more about being a healthy, happy and active man, who happens to be gay.
    Last year a very brave man in UK Rugby came out,Garreth Thomas took a very bold move and should be an insperation for us all.
    Be the man you want in your life, be the man your mother would be proud of.
    Be a man.
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    Sep 30, 2011 9:29 PM GMT
    Sorry ....but just a off topic comment...Just who on earth thinks Asian guys aren't hot woo hoo icon_biggrin.gif


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    Sep 30, 2011 9:34 PM GMT
    showme saidTake things slow, get to know and love yourself. And never say never.


    I started loving myself raw when I was 13.
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    Sep 30, 2011 9:35 PM GMT
    fizzle saidif you like these pictures......

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    .......you are gay.


    I DO I DO!!
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    Sep 30, 2011 9:41 PM GMT
    chaos1239 saidI would class myself as 'bi' but then, I think I fancy guys more than I do girls. The truth is, I don't want to be gay. icon_sad.gif If I am, i'm NEVER coming out the closet (far too deep to go in to)!

    I'm not camp at all. I'm just a normal guy. I do listen to alot of pop music and i'm quite in touch with my emotions but I'm not camp? I'm so confused!


    It sounds like you don't want to be flamoyant and/or effeminate. Many, i dare say most gay guys are really relatively masculine "normal guys." Once you realize this, it sounds like you will have an easier time accepting your sexuality, whatever it is.
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    Sep 30, 2011 11:09 PM GMT
    fizzle saidif you like these pictures......

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    .......you are gay.
    Mmmmmmmmm...breakfast! nom nom nom icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 30, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    fizzle saidif you like these pictures......

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    tumblr_lnbyjmpql41qe9a6xo1_500.jpg

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    .......you are gay.
    Mmmmmmmmm...breakfast! nom nom nom icon_biggrin.gif


    Guess I may lose my gay badge. The boys looks very good and sexy, but trigger nothing more than a girl would in me : possible, but not a turn on.

    now, show me some beefy hairy guys, I will become gay back in second.

    Guess I'm bearsexual
  • coastguy90814

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    Sep 30, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    Yup you are confused and Gay. So sad that in this day and age (2011) there are people still ashamed to be who they are :/ Nonetheless, good luck man. There is nothing like accepting who you are...it's never an option to live a lie. All the best.