go back IN the closet?

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    Oct 02, 2011 7:05 AM GMT
    Has anyone done this? I'm contemplating going back into the closet for law school (but still listing my LGBTQ involvement and work in my resume/application).... Has anyone done stuff like this before?
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    Oct 02, 2011 7:11 AM GMT
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    Oct 02, 2011 7:37 AM GMT
    I've been out since I was 12 years old and so I'd be on 12 years of being out and feel like I could easily maneuver inside the closet as an experiment...but then again i have no idea! that's why i'm asking
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    Oct 02, 2011 7:53 AM GMT
    I'm more or less thinking of just omitting the fact in general, no regard towards sexuality -- if provoked i think i'd gladly tell someone or just say "i don't know."

    i wonder what it would be like to be thought of as 'Justin' first, instead of 'the gay guy Justin'

    hmmm
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    Oct 02, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    Think what you are trying to 'say' is hold-back in telling others you are gay, rather than going back into the closet. For years when I was younger I kept my private life - ie -sexuality - private. But now that I am married and older, find I am not going to censor who I am. Example: I deal with patients in a busy hospital daily but would never think of introducing myself as 'Hi, I'm Scott, your gay porter ready to take you upstairs'. But when talking to a coworker, feel I can share the fullness of my life which includes telling stories about my married life. Just like any other married person in the workplace.

    Now, if you are saying you were pretty wide-open, free, and 'slutty' and wrote your phone number down on every campus bathroom wall beginning with, 'For a good time call...' chances are it won't be an open-and-shut case to put the proverbial Genie back in the bottle...lol
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    Oct 03, 2011 11:20 AM GMT
    If you've been out since you were 12, I imagine this will be more difficult than you think.

    I think a lot of us are very good at doing this on a short-term basis or with people we rarely see. But staying in the closet with people you see on a daily basis becomes pretty tricky fast. Avoidance quickly turns into outright lies, which are harder to explain your way out of later. It's never good to start any relationship like that.

    Just don't bring it up, but if it does come up - be honest. Once anyone sees your work experience they're going to assume (or at least question) anyway.