Do you take better care of yourself when single or in a relationship?

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    Oct 03, 2011 6:11 PM GMT
    Pretty self-explanatory I hope!

    Do you take better care of yourself when single because you are on the lookout (whether for just sex or a relationship) and tend to be more complacent and 'let yourself go' a bit in a relationship, or does being in a relationship make you take better care of yourself because you want to be the best you can be for your partner?

    I'm the latter. I was pretty terrible at looking after myself when I was single, possibly because ultimately I wasn't that happy with myself, and though you might think that would spur me on to work harder at my appearance it sort of had the opposite effect and I didn't really care.

    Over to you!
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    Oct 03, 2011 6:26 PM GMT
    I move on so yes
  • dancedancekj

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    Oct 03, 2011 6:34 PM GMT
    I guess I'm high maintenance, since I take better care of myself when out of a relationship and have more time to think and take care of things for myself.

    I always try to do things for my significant other and spend a lot time with them and let them know they are a priority to the point of self detriment, so that might be the issue icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 03, 2011 7:16 PM GMT
    More body work happens for me in a relationship.

    Being in a relationship inspired me to push myself more... I liked being sexy for him icon_smile.gif. Plus he had a nice body too and it was partially competing with him lol.
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    Oct 03, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    I workout for myself not for someone else. But Ive never been in a relationship so who knows.
  • Lincsbear

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    Oct 03, 2011 7:27 PM GMT
    Same as you,Pure.
    Single,I lose all interest in cooking and food,for example. With a guy,I go super-chef!
    It`s strange how I behave when I need someone.
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    Oct 03, 2011 7:31 PM GMT
    I think its pretty 50/50. Though i do think that I'm more conscious about myself when Im with somebody and would be more effort into my looks and health.
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    Oct 03, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    It's a mix, not sure if an even one. I've very careless about myself when living alone, while living together he scolds me and makes me do things he thinks are better for me.

    But I also put his needs ahead of mine, and since he needs a lot of care & feeding, much of that comes at my own expense. It's a residual of my Officer training, where my own needs have the lowest priority compared to those of others.

    So on balance I dunno what the final results are. I do know things are different for me when I'm single versus in a relationship.
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    Oct 03, 2011 8:08 PM GMT
    If you're hooking up with a guy who is a "step up", then it seems natural to make sure you don't slip back.

    My current "friendship" has been good for 12lbs and two months of personal training so far.

    What sucks is when you meet someone at a time when you aren't looking your best.

    *gulp*!

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    Oct 03, 2011 8:46 PM GMT
    Pure said
    I'm the latter. !


    Im same as you.... When I have nobody around to care for... I let myself go
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    Oct 03, 2011 8:58 PM GMT
    Single!! As in having a waaaayyyy better body.
  • islander24

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    Oct 04, 2011 2:33 AM GMT
    Larkin_PLR said :

    "More body work happens for me in a relationship.

    Being in a relationship inspired me to push myself more..."

    I totally agree. Unfortunately, since I am single at this time, I snack. Watch too much porn . Don't get enough sleep.

    Gotta work harder for me
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    Oct 04, 2011 2:35 AM GMT
    Single.
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    Oct 04, 2011 2:47 AM GMT
    Well I take care of myself extremely well as a single guy.

    If I was in a relationship I'd continue to take of myself extremely well. Why be lazy and fall out of a good habit which could be a reason to break up with someone.
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    Oct 04, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    definitely in a relationship. He is my motivation and I would like to be with a guy who can challenge me, make me feel like I have to try my best at everything.
  • waccamatt

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    Oct 04, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    Probably when I'm in a relationship to keep myself and my man happy.
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    Oct 04, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    I think it depends, at least for me. If i'm single, and really want to look good, I'll push myself to get fit (which is what i'm trying to do atm, haha). On the other hand, if I'm dating someone who is fit, I also get motivated to look better.

    ... it's pretty obvious I haven't been motivated in the last couple months, haha... but I'm starting back up icon_razz.gif
  • wpc56

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    Oct 04, 2011 6:30 AM GMT
    Single. I'm negatively motivated icon_razz.gif Anger, depression drives me to gym... happy relationship makes me want to cuddle up with my bf and hibernate... icon_smile.gif