Ok guys need advice here.

  • Jordan36

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    Oct 05, 2011 6:45 AM GMT
    Was in a long term relationship for a little over 18 years, and he passed away 3 years ago now. And I still hesitate about dating and especially sex, is this just and issue with me what should I do to get on with my life?
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    Oct 05, 2011 7:01 AM GMT
    I don't think this is so much an issue. It's more of a matter of feeling ready. Although it's not good to dwell on the past, you're not forced to leap into the future either. Just take each day for what it is. 18 years is a long time, and I can imagine after 3 years, it still isn't easy. Just take things slow. When the right guy comes along, you'll know he's meant for you.
  • Jordan36

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    Oct 06, 2011 4:28 AM GMT
    Thanks for your comment all my friends tell me I need to move on and I think in ways I have. But they don't seem to understand that sometimes moving on is easier said than done. Especially when it comes to dating that's why I tell them I just want to make friends if more comes of it then cool if not cool too
  • Cdnontherun

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    Oct 06, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    When my father passed away, the third year was the hardest for my mother. The first year, she was just numb, the second, in pain and the third overcome by the feeling of "what the hell am I going to do now?". The good news is that she finally met and married another great guy. Hang in there. You'll be fine. It just takes time.
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    Oct 06, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    just move on simple as thaticon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 06, 2011 5:00 AM GMT
    archon saidjust move on simple as thaticon_biggrin.gif


    Soooo not that simple!

    It's probably so difficult, but I feel like you kind of have to force yourself to get out there and I'm sure it will feel a little uncomfortable at first but eventually you'll feel a little better about it and before you know, someone amazing will come along.
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    Oct 06, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    Starting to date doesn't mean moving on...it just means your opening yourself up again. It's important to start living again, even after a difficult loss. Take it slow and at your pace, but food for thought...Would he want you to still not be dating and holding yourself back, or would he want you to at least try to get out there and get some fresh air?
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    Oct 06, 2011 5:39 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]7Famark said[/cite]
    archon saidjust move on simple as thaticon_biggrin.gif


    Soooo not that simple!

    It's probably so difficult, but I feel like you kind of have to force yourself to get out there and I'm sure it will feel a little uncomfortable at first but eventually you'll feel a little better about it and before you know, someone amazing will come along.[/quote

    yes super simple, my dog can do it.
  • Jordan36

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    Oct 06, 2011 9:51 PM GMT
    Thanks guys for all your advice it is greatly appreciated. I am getting out there meeting new people and slowly getting back into the dating scene some what.
    And to the guy who said just move on that simple. I just wonder have you ever true loved someone with everything in you? I mean you love them with all your heart mind body and soul. Someone you loved so much you would do anything give anything even your life for that person without even a second thought to it. You know the type of love where you know everything about them from the way he looks first thing in the morning or that he sings the same song everytime he takes a shower or how his voice makes a squeaky sound as he tries to hit the high notes in that song. And you spend 18 years of your life with that one man grow more and more in love as the years pass, and then you loss that man in a moments notice cause he left the house to run to the gas station five minutes away and is killed in a car accident on his way there. And 15 minutes or so after he left the police are knocking on your door telling you the news that he was killed in the car accident . When you can go through all that and then you tell me it that simple just move on simple.
    To everyone else thank you for your advice. Its greatly appreciated