What to do? Can't handle the mind games.

  • NerdLifter

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    Oct 06, 2011 1:28 AM GMT
    In a nutshell, this dude I went out with a few nights ago asked for a picture of me yesterday cause he was lonely and bored. I sent him one. Said he can't make anything out, and wanted me to take another one. I said I was in bed about to go to sleep for class tomorrow morning. He asked me "why did you take the pic then?" I told him I took that pic last night as a fitness tracking photo (which I take regularly to track my progress). It the only recent pic on my phone and I had already turned out the lights and was bundled in bed ready to Zzz.

    Suffice to say, he went all paranoid and thought I took the pic to send to another guy and that I was lying. I assured him he has been the only guy I have talked to romantically in over 6 months (and he's the only guy I've gone out on a date with in over a year.) His response to that was: I'm tired, I'm going to bed.

    The situation seems to be a real mess, and I do not know how to handle the next step, if there is one. Should I bother trying to explain to him nothing is going on? On the other hand, I already tried to send him another text since then, and he hasn't responded.

    I hate it when people read far more into things than is actually there and can't take people at their word. No trust.
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    the next step is dropping him.

    From your storyline you've went on one date. Obviously he doesn't have enough humility in his life to realize what happened before him or you is just that. It's also none of your business what he thinks you were doing with pictures in your phone.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:51 AM GMT
    Look at this way: You guys have just met, so he's on his good behavior now. What does that mean for a year from now? Ten years from now? Don't you deserve better?

    Be decent to him, but don't worry too much about him. In the meantime, be good to yourself and be Mr. Right, versus looking for Mr. Right. The rest will sort itself out.
  • NerdLifter

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    Oct 06, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    Yeah, seeing as he never responded to my text. I'm just going to try to forget about him and move on. Sad part is he is ridiculously attractive. But go figure that the ridiculously attractive guy is a bit paranoid and assumes the worst possible scenario, which is a very high maintenance quality to have. I'm looking for a serious relationship, and somehow I doubt he's mature enough yet to provide that.

    He's only a freshman in college still in his teens, so maturity issues were probable; maybe in a few more years he'll get there. All I can really do is wish him the best and move on with my life.
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    Oct 06, 2011 5:33 PM GMT
    Dude I feel for u. I just started dating a few months ago and I swear most guys feed off of drama, lies and mind games. Uhg
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    Oct 06, 2011 10:08 PM GMT
    Studinprogress said[...] Suffice to say, he went all paranoid and thought I took the pic to send to another guy and that I was lying. I assured him he has been the only guy I have talked to romantically in over 6 months (and he's the only guy I've gone out on a date with in over a year.) His response to that was: I'm tired, I'm going to bed.

    The situation seems to be a real mess [...]

    I hate it when people read far more into things than is actually there and can't take people at their word. No trust.


    There's a guy in my gym who has a very jealous partner. Once I saw the guy taking a picture of himself in the mirror so I suggested that I'd take the picture for him. He responded that it would cause his partner to go crazy and become suspicious. A few months later I saw that same guy shaving at the sink, looking hot, and again I suggested I take a picture for him. Again he said his partner would go crazy. I suggested that he tell his partner that I photographed him since he knows me, but apparently that partner is too jealous.
    That's the way some people are. IMO accept and move on.
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    Oct 06, 2011 10:09 PM GMT
    wolverinecub86 saidDude I feel for u. I just started dating a few months ago and I swear most guys feed off of drama, lies and mind games. Uhg


    Fortunately most is not all!