Help! Feeling Discouraged at the Gym!

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    Oct 06, 2011 2:26 AM GMT
    Does anyone else here ever really beat up on themselves when you aren't really making any gains at the gym?

    I'm in a horrible rut, and I can't get out of it. I'm trying to shake up my routine, and vary the weights, but sometimes I feel like I'm getting nowhere. I really do love going to the gym, and working out is my favorite thing to do...

    But when I end up looking the exact same for months, and am not getting any stronger, I start to feel like I've basically wasted the last... say... year of my life. Not making any gains, just maintaining. Maintaining is fine if you are at your goals, but I am not. And on off days, when I can't lift as heavy as I did the week before... its even more head games.

    ANY advice on how to get past this? How do I get over this plateau? How do I finally make some real gains?

    I DON'T mean to be such a downer, but man... some days when I leave the gym I end up feeling worse. I want everyday to be a day closer to my goals... not another day of moving in place.
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    you do work out with a partner right?
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    Oct 06, 2011 4:37 AM GMT
    Have you tried picking some random workout program to mix things up?

    Are you advancing your nutrition to keep up with your advancing gains at the gym?

    Maybe having a partner or log to make sure your workout isn't stagnant? Having a log was what really made me realize how inconsistent and scatterbrained my old workouts were.
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    Oct 06, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    Just my thoughts...

    You sound like you're getting burned out. Discouraged, stressed, plateauing, frustration, and all of that stuff can be symptoms of it.

    As someone who has gone through burnout. I'd say it's best to take a week or two off, and give your body and mind a chance to recharge. You have a great body and you won't lose anything you've worked for. Also, the thing with burnout is that injury and illness are often not far behind if you don't take a break.

    Questions to ask yourself may be, how is your nutrition? How much rest are you getting both at night, and how long are you taking to recover from hard workouts? Have you taken any time off in the past year? What are your stress levels like outside of the gym? If something's off you have a chance to adjust it so you can continue to make gains.

    Good luck.
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    Oct 06, 2011 6:28 AM GMT
    The first thing i always ask is how many calories do you eat a day, along with how much protein, carbs, fats etc, over how many meals- whats your typical diet like in a day?
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:04 PM GMT
    Runninchlt saidJust my thoughts...

    You sound like you're getting burned out. Discouraged, stressed, plateauing, frustration, and all of that stuff can be symptoms of it.

    As someone who has gone through burnout. I'd say it's best to take a week or two off, and give your body and mind a chance to recharge. You have a great body and you won't lose anything you've worked for. Also, the thing with burnout is that injury and illness are often not far behind if you don't take a break.

    Questions to ask yourself may be, how is your nutrition? How much rest are you getting both at night, and how long are you taking to recover from hard workouts? Have you taken any time off in the past year? What are your stress levels like outside of the gym? If something's off you have a chance to adjust it so you can continue to make gains.

    Good luck.
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:05 PM GMT
    This is me. Two days ago I all but walked out I was so frustrated. I am taking a week off next month when I am on vacation. See if that does anything.
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    Have you thought about getting gang banged at the locker room by a bunch of straighies? Always helps me out when I'm in a rut
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:08 PM GMT
    waimea saidHave you thought about getting gang banged at the locker room by a bunch of straighies? Always helps me out when I'm in a rut
    <3
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    I dread plateaus because they always put me in a shitty mood even outside of the gym. Once you feel yourself getting to one, change your routine completely. Google 'plateau buster routine' and I'm sure you'll find some solutions. Good luck man!
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    waimea saidHave you thought about getting gang banged at the locker room by a bunch of straighies? Always helps me out when I'm in a rut


    Thats what I call squats!
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    Was literally just there last week. . .I felt like none of my work-outs were productive, I couldn't seem to lift as much as I had the previous week and it was literally so frustrating that I left halfway though my work-outs.

    It was so discouraging and upsetting. . .but I took a week off (reluctantly) and went back Monday and definitely felt waaaay better.

    So it may be hard to let yourself take some time off, but I'd reccommend it.

    Oh, and I'm also on this stupid diet where I basically never stop eating because ectomorph + fast metabolism = super shitty.
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    7Famark said...
    Oh, and I'm also on this stupid diet where I basically never stop eating because ectomorph + fast metabolism = super shitty.
    I almost never stop eating, because I'm a mesomorph and have to constantly eat to keep my metabolism active. I can (err, did) get fat on 1-2 meals/day. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    7Famark said

    Oh, and I'm also on this stupid diet where I basically never stop eating because ectomorph + fast metabolism = super shitty.


    im the opposite. I dont eat a lot at all.
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:29 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 said
    7Famark said

    Oh, and I'm also on this stupid diet where I basically never stop eating because ectomorph + fast metabolism = super shitty.


    im the opposite. I dont eat a lot at all.


    I woud love to not eat a lot. . .I rarely feel super hungry so stuffing my face every hour a half kind of sucks
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    7Famark said
    Dallasfan824 said
    7Famark said

    Oh, and I'm also on this stupid diet where I basically never stop eating because ectomorph + fast metabolism = super shitty.


    im the opposite. I dont eat a lot at all.


    I woud love to not eat a lot. . .I rarely feel super hungry so stuffing my face every hour a half kind of sucks


    I was always chubby to fat my whole life. I have a love/hate relationship with food. Yesterday I was looking the mirror at the gym and saying "why am I so god damn fat". Then weighed myself and I am only 163. Clearly I have issues.
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    I just looked at some of your profile pictures. Boy, if THAT'S what you're maintaining then you should be pretty happy with yourself. I can imagine any guy or girl being happy icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:44 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 said


    I was always chubby to fat my whole life. I have a love/hate relationship with food. Yesterday I was looking the mirror at the gym and saying "why am I so god damn fat". Then weighed myself and I am only 163. Clearly I have issues.


    I think we are all usually EXTREMELY critical of ourselves, thinking others are looking and seeing the same things we are, but they likely aren't. .

    Oh, and to the OP - you look great, I would love to be able to get as built as you
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:45 PM GMT
    7Famark said
    Dallasfan824 said


    I was always chubby to fat my whole life. I have a love/hate relationship with food. Yesterday I was looking the mirror at the gym and saying "why am I so god damn fat". Then weighed myself and I am only 163. Clearly I have issues.


    I think we are all usually EXTREMELY critical of ourselves, thinking others are looking and seeing the same things we are, but they likely aren't. .

    Oh, and to the OP - you look great, I would love to be able to get as built as you


    I would be happy to look like either one of you.
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    I'm in the worst gym rut of my LIFE right now! I've tried switching up my routine and nothing is working. So I took the last two weeks off completely to see if a long break will help. I know a big part of my disinterest is because I LOVE my job and can't wait to get to work in the mornings, and in the evening I hate leaving.
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:51 PM GMT
    Even try a different gym. Do you belong to a chain that will let you use other locations? Or see if you can get a one-week guest pass somewhere else--either through other members, on the gym's website, or through websites like Groupon or Living Social.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:12 PM GMT
    Hey fitthinking,

    I totally understand what you are going through. I had to take off a month because of surgery (Still not 100% yet) and after the month, i was incredibly discouraged going back to the gym.

    Like everyone else said, taking some time off may be good for you. Also try a few fitness classes to shake things up...I know pure weight lifting can get tedious and boring. Maybe try a different work out plan or get a work out buddy to push you at the gym (i can't find one =/)

    Also, you look great the way you are now.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:14 PM GMT
    Mix it, tear it up. Thrash your body. Really push and push hard.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:19 PM GMT
    A friend of a mine, a competitive bodybuilder named Eli Blahut, will not go to the gym for a week or longer - sometimes as long as a month when he is not making any gains. He will run, do yoga and such during his break.

    When he does return, he says he notices increases in size and strength right away!
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:24 PM GMT
    First and foremost, I agree with what most people have already suggested. Think about changing up your routine and trying something new. You should also think about your diet and what you can do there to help you reach your goals. At a certain point, and you look like you're there, diet becomes crucial to making gains. If you're not eating healthy, you're absolutely limiting yourself.

    What I want to suggest is that you think hard about the reality of your goals. You're in great shape. You look really good. I know for me, no matter what results I get, I'm never where I want to be. I've come to realize that I'll never reach my goals and that's part of the fun. Sometimes I want to be bigger/stronger. Other times I want to be leaner/more cut. There just isn't a spot where I'm going to look in the mirror and at my recent performance and say: "That's it. I did it. I'm there." That's a big part of why working out and being active is so much fun.

    You put in your profile that you have self confidence issues and I think that seeps into you feeling like you're not making progress or you not doing good enough. Give yourself a break. You look great! Relax. Have fun.