Have you ever wanted to take your life after losing your job?

  • dangler12

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    Oct 06, 2011 3:39 AM GMT
    I lost my job today. It paid well, but I was miserable. I wanted some time to find another job, but let go on a whim. I don't think I will find another job. I feel if I don't then I will end my life. I am going to push forward, and keep positive, but if I can't land anything I will commit suicide. I feel this is the logical solution for me as I feel I am supposed to die anyways. Has anybody ever felt this way? I'm scared, but, I'm thinking a lot about those little kids who kill themselves, and how they do it and how they muster the courage to do something like that. I'm a grown man and scared to death of it. But the more I think about them, the easier it's getting. I was really miserable there, but, I don't know...maybe I'm supposed to kill myself. I have just have never had good luck in my life. Plan A is to succeed at life, Plan B is die if I can't.

    I feel I am destined for suicide. I read that somewhere, here maybe. Somebody said some people are just destined to commit suicide. Life leads them to that direction. I feel this is me. I know this is me. I'm just like numb and scared right now.
  • Bigolbear

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    Oct 06, 2011 3:05 PM GMT
    dangler12 saidI lost my job today. It paid well, but I was miserable. I wanted some time to find another job, but let go on a whim. I don't think I will find another job. I feel if I don't then I will end my life. I am going to push forward, and keep positive, but if I can't land anything I will commit suicide. I feel this is the logical solution for me as I feel I am supposed to die anyways. Has anybody ever felt this way? I'm scared, but, I'm thinking a lot about those little kids who kill themselves, and how they do it and how they muster the courage to do something like that. I'm a grown man and scared to death of it. But the more I think about them, the easier it's getting. I was really miserable there, but, I don't know...maybe I'm supposed to kill myself. I have just have never had good luck in my life. Plan A is to succeed at life, Plan B is die if I can't.

    I feel I am destined for suicide. I read that somewhere, here maybe. Somebody said some people are just destined to commit suicide. Life leads them to that direction. I feel this is me. I know this is me. I'm just like numb and scared right now.


    I hit a point in my life where I thought I was never going to be able to "make it" and that I was a drag on the people in my life. I was in my early 20's and I tried to commit suicide twice both times with pills and fortunately for me both times I was unsuccessful and didn't have any permanant problems that came from it.

    I really didn't get my life turned around until my Mom became deathly sick. I knew that at that point I had to quit wallowing in my problems and focusing on them so much because I had someone who I loved so dearly who NEEDED me to be strong. I was going to be one less thing she had to worry about.

    You will make it through this. You may even grow in ways you don't expect from these challenges but you can't give up. I have no idea who you are or if a post from a random stranger out there on the internet can even help but if it does mean anything just know that I'll be rooting for you.
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 06, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    dangler12 saidI lost my job today. It paid well, but I was miserable. I wanted some time to find another job, but let go on a whim.


    Did you lose your job or did you quit ? icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    Please keep some perspective. No matter what you do for a living, it's still just a job. A means to produce wealth. However, Your success is measured in more than wealth. Anyone that believes or tells you otherwise isn't worth having as a friend. We all die in the end, so find something that you really love to do, and even your career doesn't coalesce around it, you will be a happier person.

    Also, you may want to seek professional help, if you're clinically depressed, there are things they can do to help you though.


    Take care.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    dangler12 saidI lost my job today. It paid well, but I was miserable. I wanted some time to find another job, but let go on a whim. I don't think I will find another job. I feel if I don't then I will end my life. I am going to push forward, and keep positive, but if I can't land anything I will commit suicide. I feel this is the logical solution for me as I feel I am supposed to die anyways. Has anybody ever felt this way? I'm scared, but, I'm thinking a lot about those little kids who kill themselves, and how they do it and how they muster the courage to do something like that. I'm a grown man and scared to death of it. But the more I think about them, the easier it's getting. I was really miserable there, but, I don't know...maybe I'm supposed to kill myself. I have just have never had good luck in my life. Plan A is to succeed at life, Plan B is die if I can't.

    I feel I am destined for suicide. I read that somewhere, here maybe. Somebody said some people are just destined to commit suicide. Life leads them to that direction. I feel this is me. I know this is me. I'm just like numb and scared right now.


    DUDE DON'T KILL YOURSELF OVER LOSING A JOB. A job is just a way to make money, it does not define you. Trust me I know. You will find another job. Don't worry about money, worst comes to worse if your having money problems max out your credit cards while your in between jobs. If you can't repay them no big deal, just go bankrupt like half of America. That is much better than being dead!

    You need to get yourself into a therapist now and talk about these feelings! Also tell a friend or family member how you feel. No one wants to see you dead!

    Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

    This is a new beginning for you since you were miserable there. Please get help though. Message me if you need to talk.
  • patmos9990

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    Oct 06, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    I lost my job about seven years ago. It was a job that I was mentally bored with but didn't have the courage to leave the city I was living in. I spent a year and a half looking for the perfect job that would be stimulating to me. (It's amazing with only $15,000 in savings how you can take time off and live cheaply). Anyway, I ended up in a larger city three hours away with the perfect job where I'm more valued, more rewarded, and more happy than I ever was in my previous employment. I can't even imagine what my life would have been like if I wouldn't have lost my job and stayed there.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Oct 06, 2011 3:38 PM GMT
    I doubt anyone here hasn't at some point in their lives lost a job. I'm sure most will tell you that, in hindsight, it was something that worked for the best and lead to something even better. Sometimes the universe forces change in our life because we are caught in a rut and we need to get on a new path, but we resist change so we stick with a routine -- even if that routine isn't necessarily rewarding or even paying us what we deserve. Try to remember the old adage "When one door closes, another opens". More importantly, stick around long enough to hear when that new opportunity comes knockin'.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    dangler12 saidI lost my job today. It paid well, but I was miserable. I wanted some time to find another job, but let go on a whim. I don't think I will find another job. I feel if I don't then I will end my life. I am going to push forward, and keep positive, but if I can't land anything I will commit suicide. I feel this is the logical solution for me as I feel I am supposed to die anyways. Has anybody ever felt this way? I'm scared, but, I'm thinking a lot about those little kids who kill themselves, and how they do it and how they muster the courage to do something like that. I'm a grown man and scared to death of it. But the more I think about them, the easier it's getting. I was really miserable there, but, I don't know...maybe I'm supposed to kill myself. I have just have never had good luck in my life. Plan A is to succeed at life, Plan B is die if I can't.

    I feel I am destined for suicide. I read that somewhere, here maybe. Somebody said some people are just destined to commit suicide. Life leads them to that direction. I feel this is me. I know this is me. I'm just like numb and scared right now.


    It's a common occurrence here in silicone valley . For every Facebook there is a thousand start up failures. My friends see it as an essential way to build their resumes and their professional network. You know way more people if you have change jobs frequently and that can open up lots of opportunities in
    The future. If Steve jobs had not been fired from apple in 1989 apple would not be what it is today. Be in the now.
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    Oct 06, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    I got laid off in 2001. I thought the worst. I would lose my house I just bought, etc. Well actually a better job came along and I was never happier till the economy collapse in 2007-08. Well something will come along again. Think I would take this as a challenge to find something you will be happy doing. Even start out at a less desirable job and work up again. Everyone has had it rough. Dream for yourself...and you will be happy again.
  • JESIE

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    Oct 06, 2011 10:27 PM GMT
    I lost my full time job (which was a miserable demanding stressful job ) but i have a part time job now. I continue to look for work but the market is hard. It will be hard for some time but I guess you just have to look for positive and keep "truckin" lol. Things in life are not easy. They are not easy for me as of now. But I hope things will get better. Im sure they will for you too. <3
  • dangler12

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    Oct 07, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    I hope so.
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    Oct 07, 2011 2:25 AM GMT
    Keep in mind money isn't everything. You'll be just fine, I'm sure you will find a another or even better paying job be patienticon_smile.gif
  • waccamatt

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    Oct 07, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    After you've been around the block a few times you come to realize that almost all problems are only temporary. The first thing you need to do is talk to someone, whether it be a close friend or family member or a counselor. The second thing you need to do is get out there and look for another job; a job that may not pay as well as the last one, but one that will make you want to get up in the morning. Things are never as bad as they seem to be at the moment and they have a way of working themselves out.
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    Oct 07, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    dangler12 saidI hope so.


    About 3 months ago, my cousin was laid off from her job in NYC that paid 6 figures and was basically a dream job for her. She had an expensive place to make payments on and was tight on cash. Well long story short, she was upset and panicked about being homeless but she looked around and within 3 days was offered a job that pays 2 times better, has an EXCELLENT benefits package and is much closer to her house. So the point is you have to get out there and look because you can't expect jobs to come looking for you. Times are tough but there are MANY better opportunities out there just waiting to be found, I can promise you that. Also, I would suggest being around family, they usually can help the best in times of need. Keep your head up and don't stay down for long. I wish you the best of luck!! icon_smile.gif
  • dangler12

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    Oct 07, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
    Thank you to all for posts and messages. I will respond. I like reading how people overcame this adversity and succeeded for the better. I hope this happens to me.
  • waccamatt

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    Oct 07, 2011 3:08 AM GMT
    dangler12 saidThank you to all for posts and messages. I will respond. I like reading how people overcame this adversity and succeeded for the better. I hope this happens to me.


    It will; the important thing is to stay busy and think positively!
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    Oct 07, 2011 3:54 AM GMT
    I have only felt like that while working. After quitting/being let go, I am relieved and all of the problems there suddenly don't matter anymore. Doesn't that make you feel good?

    In any case, I'm with you in your planning. If I was unable to find a way to sustain myself and the money ran out, I would try for employment insurance or social assistance. If that wasn't possible, I'd get out of the game. But I'm a lot more ready to die than you are. I mean I really wouldn't be emotional about it at all. I think your survival instinct might motor you to find a way to keep living.

    I know I don't post things like everyone else will/have but I hope this helps in some way.
  • sonnet129

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    Oct 12, 2011 11:27 PM GMT
    This is not about your job. Losing employment triggered your depression and suicidal ideations. I know exactly what you're feeling. Tell your feelings to a good friend or family member then to a mental health care professional immediately.
    I suffer from depression and just went through a terrible bout with it. Even though I've been on medication for it for 10 years I still struggle with it from time to time. I'm also unemployed, so I know what you're going through.
    Email me if you want. Peace.
  • LJay

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    Oct 13, 2011 12:15 AM GMT
    Dangler, you can get through this with some work and some faith in your self. It may seem hard now, but when it is settled down things will probably be better for you. No one should have to be miserable at work. If you quit, things will be different than if you were fired, but there is help available either way. Enjoy your new freedom.

    You have a state employment agency whose job it is to help people find work. Check out their resources. Take a good hard look at your expenses and make sure things are under control. One good thing these days is that you can do a lot online which will save you time and gas money.

    There are social services agencies that can help you sort out your thoughts and deal with basics, like food and basic medical services. If you are a church person, don't be shy about asking to talk it over with the people there and ask for advice.

    There is no shame in being fired or quitting. It is actually about time that more people took the matter seriously and realized that being happy is more important than a status job or a high income.

    And don't forget to exercise, eat well, if simply, and keep in touch with some friends. Beginning anew is the point. The best part is that the choices are yours and not the boss.

    Keep your RJ friends posted. A lot will be glad to share experience if you want them to.

    And congratulations on your new start.

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    Oct 13, 2011 12:58 AM GMT
    There's always a better one. They don't own you, you own yourself.
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    Oct 13, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    Been there done that. You will survive
  • SkyMiles

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    Oct 13, 2011 1:33 AM GMT
    Ditto CJ AZ and Ravco...

    I got laid off a year ago March and was pretty much devastated. I was looking at trying to find another job during the worst recession since the Great Depression in an industry especially hard hit. After 8 months of desperation and watching my life savings dwindle away, finally I found another job, in Afghanistan, then got axed from that! And then found another job (also in freakin' Afg)....it's life in the modern world.
    You got to give yourself a chance for something better or even something else to come along. I'm definitely a ne'er do well, but my friends still working for that first employer let me know from time to time that things suck there as much as I remember, so maybe it was all 'for the best'.
    Hang in there, and if you really do feel like you're seriously going to kill yourself, find help! No job is worth your life...none that I'VE had anyway icon_wink.gif