After you have a hookup, what do you do?

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    Oct 06, 2011 2:29 PM GMT
    What do you do if you are the host?

    What do you do if you traveled?


    I normally don't host; I travel only. If I like the guy I will stay the night (if he wants me to). If I don't really the guy, I would just pull up my pants and tell him that, "it was fun, you have my cell #, you know how to reach me if want to.". I definitely have had guys who asked me leave after sex. Not a great a feeling. icon_neutral.gif

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    Oct 06, 2011 2:45 PM GMT
    O cum on! Y'all a bunch of pussy cats

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    Oct 06, 2011 2:47 PM GMT
    Thanks, bye. . . .*walk/drive of shame*

    And then go home and shower, lol

    Probably feel a dirty hooker for a day. . .not gonna lie. I don't really like hookups, so I usually feel a little guilty afterwards.
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    Never hosted a hook-up, so never had that awkward - Can you get out now? conversation.

    When I did hook-up, I would generally read the signals and see - also depending on how I felt. If I wanted to stay and he seemed in no hurry to kick me out then I would. If I got the feeling it was pretty much a 'ho and go' kind of thing then I'd usually ask to have a shower, get dressed and go.

    There was only one time I remember I wanted to stay over and he said no, because he didn't feel comfortable having a hook-up sleep over. That's fine, he was honest about it and didn't make me feel bad. Some things I've heard where guys are like "wipe yourself up with that towel, whore, and get out!" make me sad!
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    Oct 06, 2011 2:51 PM GMT
    Wash my hand, clean up and continue what I was doing 15 minutes before HAND. icon_wink.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 06, 2011 2:52 PM GMT
    Well, if I am the host and if the hook-up is only for feet, then I try to schedule several during an evening, showering and changing clothes between each one. If I travel it's only because I am really attracted to the guy then we usually make arrangements to spend the night or weekend together. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:03 PM GMT
    Hosting: I let them compose themselves and clean up or shower if they feel they need to. I'll usually escort them out as well. If they want to chat or whatever afterward, that's fine, but I don't tend to keep them around much longer than 15 minutes.

    Traveling: Pretty much the same. If they want to chat, fine, but I always ask to clean up afterward so I can get on my way.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:10 PM GMT
    one_gun saidHosting: I let them compose themselves and clean up or shower if they feel they need to. I'll usually escort them out as well. If they want to chat or whatever afterward, that's fine, but I don't tend to keep them around much longer than 15 minutes.

    Traveling: Pretty much the same. If they want to chat, fine, but I always ask to clean up afterward so I can get on my way.


    You sound like a thoughtful jerk LOL must be interesting to date a guy like you ;) sweet and bitter at the same time. I like that
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:11 PM GMT
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    one_gun saidHosting: I let them compose themselves and clean up or shower if they feel they need to. I'll usually escort them out as well. If they want to chat or whatever afterward, that's fine, but I don't tend to keep them around much longer than 15 minutes.

    Traveling: Pretty much the same. If they want to chat, fine, but I always ask to clean up afterward so I can get on my way.


    You sound like a thoughtful jerk LOL must be interesting to date you ;)


    He's just talking about a hookup, not really a reflection of how he acts in a relationship
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:16 PM GMT
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    benz72 said
    one_gun saidHosting: I let them compose themselves and clean up or shower if they feel they need to. I'll usually escort them out as well. If they want to chat or whatever afterward, that's fine, but I don't tend to keep them around much longer than 15 minutes.

    Traveling: Pretty much the same. If they want to chat, fine, but I always ask to clean up afterward so I can get on my way.


    You sound like a thoughtful jerk LOL must be interesting to date you ;)


    He's just talking about a hookup, not really a reflection of how he acts in a relationship


    Yeah I know but the thing we do reflect who we are in general. That's why I said thoughtful but some jerky. Anyway no offence
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:20 PM GMT
    Well it depends


    I usually only host otherwise I get limp dick (anxiety thing about hooking up at someone else's place)

    When I do though... If I finish first and they haven't and I get bored I usually send them home. If I don't get off and I like them, usually let them stay until one more round icon_smile.gif. Rarely do I ever let a guy sleep over. Mainly cause my dog sleeps on the pillow beside me and sorry no boy beats out a furry friend
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:21 PM GMT
    Leave the stairwell, cop car, fire truck or UPS delivery van I was just in.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:21 PM GMT
    If I am hosting and like the guy, depending on the vibe I get from the guy I will chat maybe cuddle after sex. Usually like 30 mins after sex at the most. I have never stayed the night with a guy for hook up, usually it would have to be a date first, stay the night and if sex happens good.
    Travelling is the same, talk a bit and leave with saying you have my number get back to me sometime.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:35 PM GMT
    waimea saidWhat do you do if you are the host?

    What do you do if you traveled?


    I normally don't host; I travel only. If I like the guy I will stay the night (if he wants me to). If I don't really the guy, I would just pull up my pants and tell him that, "it was fun, you have my cell #, you know how to reach me if want to.". I definitely have had guys who asked me leave after sex. Not a great a feeling. icon_neutral.gif



    You are back! I thought you deleted your account haha.

    Hosting is awkward. I really hate when guys go in my fucking bathroom and make a mess cleaning up.

    I always debate staying the night if I don't know the guy. I mean they could be nuts and kill me in middle of night.

    Most guys aren't looking after a hookup to hang around much after.

    I have did meet a chill guy recently and he texted me after we hooked up that he wants me to come over for a cuddle date this weekend. So not all hookups are awful.

    Usually they are not that great. I am so neurotic about STD's they are hard to enjoy.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:39 PM GMT
    Defenseon saidWell it depends


    I usually only host otherwise I get limp dick (anxiety thing about hooking up at someone else's place)

    When I do though... If I finish first and they haven't and I get bored I usually send them home. If I don't get off and I like them, usually let them stay until one more round icon_smile.gif. Rarely do I ever let a guy sleep over. Mainly cause my dog sleeps on the pillow beside me and sorry no boy beats out a furry friend


    What if that boy happens to be a furry friend O.o
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:43 PM GMT
    Ask if he wants to tell his girlfriend the news.


    KIDDING!!!!!


    ...not really...
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    Defenseon said Rarely do I ever let a guy sleep over. Mainly cause my dog sleeps on the pillow beside me and sorry no boy beats out a furry friend


    Cute
  • ohioguy12

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    Oct 06, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    Usually if I like someone enough to hookup with them, then I have no problems with them staying as long as they want, so I let them choose if they want to leave or not. If I'm traveling, it depends on the vibe they are sending, if they want me to leave, I'll leave, if they want me to stay, I'll stay.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:53 PM GMT
    [quote]You sound like a thoughtful jerk LOL must be interesting to date a guy like you ;) sweet and bitter at the same time. I like that[/quote]

    I wouldn't argue with you, really. When it comes to hooking up, I think you need to strike a balance. It IS only a hookup, after all, but there is a certain base level of humanity I have to give the guy. While this is purely a sexual objectification, they're a person just like everyone else and deserve common courtesies. That doesn't automatically entitle them to endearing pillow talk, though.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:53 PM GMT
    Defenseon said

    If I finish first and they haven't and I get bored I usually send them home.


    This is pretty selfish, and can make things akward.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:56 PM GMT
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    Defenseon saidWell it depends


    I usually only host otherwise I get limp dick (anxiety thing about hooking up at someone else's place)

    When I do though... If I finish first and they haven't and I get bored I usually send them home. If I don't get off and I like them, usually let them stay until one more round icon_smile.gif. Rarely do I ever let a guy sleep over. Mainly cause my dog sleeps on the pillow beside me and sorry no boy beats out a furry friend


    What if that boy happens to be a furry friend O.o


    Well if the boys a furry friend then maybe. Haha.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 said
    Defenseon said

    If I finish first and they haven't and I get bored I usually send them home.


    This is pretty selfish, and can make things akward.


    Its not like I don't let them try. But beating a dead horse is kind of annoying. Everyone's been there when they say "Ugg I really want to get off but I can't". Sorry but sitting there for 10 minutes while they try to finish is just boring. I would expect anyone to wait for me if it was for a hook up, relationship... Different.
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    Oct 06, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
    I always cooked them breakfast.
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    Oct 06, 2011 4:33 PM GMT
    Wow hookups sound like a pain, i never had hook up and never will. after rading all this it seems to me that men can be ass holes when they hook upicon_neutral.gif