Intelligence?

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    May 20, 2008 8:00 PM GMT
    How important is intelligence to you when it comes to the guys you date.

    Lately its totally been a deal breaker for me. I don't claim to be a rocket scientist, but like really? It seems like every guy I have been out with lately is just flat out dumb. Is it too much to ask for a good conversation about current events that doesn't involve Britney Spears?
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    May 20, 2008 8:02 PM GMT
    tell me about it! I keep getting asked out by twinks and I know some are few exceptions but most are pretty dense and also coupled with that emotionaly immature
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    May 20, 2008 8:15 PM GMT
    Not a deal breaker, but some intelligence is useful! Actually if a guy was as intellectually curious as I am we would probably fight a lot, especially about politics, current events, economics and music. After all I am right all the time and my patience wears thin when people dare to disagree with me. icon_wink.gif
  • Buddha

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    May 20, 2008 8:17 PM GMT
    I honestly don't measure intelligence in the amount of recent events you are read off Metro on your way to your favourite bagelshop, but, I guess it's a question of definition.

    I don't think intelligence is nearly as important as philosophical maturity. And by that I mean when you have unjustified principles.
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    May 20, 2008 8:23 PM GMT
    How important is intelligence to you when it comes to the guys you date?

    It's very important to me, but, yes, there are other things in terms of character/personality that are more important.

    Charlie
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    May 20, 2008 8:24 PM GMT
    danielryan saidIs it too much to ask for a good conversation about current events that doesn't involve Britney Spears?

    Danielryan,
    Have you been to the dentist lately? LOL
    Yeah, I may not be dating anyone right now but your sentiment holds true or at least parallel to my situation when I meet with friends. I deliberately avoid talking about facebook. It's difficult but it's a conscious effort on my part.
    Zx
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    May 20, 2008 8:45 PM GMT
    danielryan saidHow important is intelligence to you when it comes to the guys you date?


    Very. I'm no rocket scientist either, but there's more to life than celebrity gossip and what's "hot."

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    May 20, 2008 8:48 PM GMT
    Rocket science isn't actually that difficult to understand.
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    May 20, 2008 8:49 PM GMT
    I like them young and dumb
  • GQjock

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    May 20, 2008 8:57 PM GMT
    It depends on my mood and what I want to happen

    If it's just for sex icon_wink.gif
    Hey, the current events in Global economics don't need to come up

    But if I think a guy has potential
    and his first salvo is .... "Dude! What did you think of the last Madonna concert? I was grippin' wasn't it?"

    I raise my hand... "barkeep? I'll have another and um...keep'em comin' if you please" icon_rolleyes.gif
  • metalxracr

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    May 20, 2008 9:31 PM GMT
    Well, how would you feel about someone that can carry a good intellectual conversation AND liked discussing Britney Spears as well? icon_cool.gif
  • GQjock

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    May 21, 2008 1:43 AM GMT
    metalxracr saidWell, how would you feel about someone that can carry a good intellectual conversation AND liked discussing Britney Spears as well? icon_cool.gif


    I think that someone's head would explode...
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    May 21, 2008 1:49 AM GMT
    i require intelligence, and the ability to communicate well- i love good discussions and stimulating conversation- perhaps over hookah or wine? BUT, i've found by experience that oftentimes, dating someone with the same... kind(?) of intelligence i have can be detrimental... or maybe it has more to do with interests? i can be pretty opinionated (text-book case of Aquarius.. open minded until i weigh every side and make up my mind lol) and while i require intelligence to compliment my own, i guess its best if our areas of interest/expertise are different, and we have the open-mindedness to share our thoughts with each other. i guess in a relationship, i find it healthier to exchange ideas, rather than to discuss or rather to debate them. i'm good at philosophical, abstract, theoretical, metaphysical, pseudo-scientific stuff... so i have had a lot of luck dating more logical, rational, earthy people who can ground me, and whose worlds i can rock with new perspectives :p

    though i also agree with Carlos- give me honesty, trustworthiness, sanity, and maturity any day over an above-average intellect. they're much rarer anyways ;)
  • MSUBioNerd

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    May 21, 2008 2:07 AM GMT
    Fairly. Intelligence is important, but I feel that curiosity is more important--I'd rather be with a guy who was interested in learning things but struggled with it than a brilliant guy who felt he already knew everything and had nothing left to learn. But, yeah, my interests lie pretty much outside the realms of fashion, celebrity gossip, and the results of professional sports teams, and I want to be able to talk about something with a guy so that generally requires a certain amount of sheer intelligence.

    On the flip side, I'm starting to realize a certain difficulty in dating highly intelligent men. Most men are pretty competitive, and a lot of the smart ones base a lot of their self-worth on their brains. I've had half a dozen guys in the past year tell me that they weren't interested in dating me specifically because they don't date men as smart or smarter than them. I console myself that if they truly feel that way, they're not the sort of person who'd make a good match anyway, but come on. This isn't middle school. Having a brain isn't supposed to be a handicap to having a social life any longer.
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    May 21, 2008 2:44 AM GMT
    I can think of little to say, MSUbionerd, other than *I totally agree*.
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    May 21, 2008 2:45 AM GMT
    Total deal breaker. Relationships or friends. The world needs to have all people in order for it to go around so I understand that there needs to be intelligent people and people that do not have a high level of intelligence, but I think there is nothing sexier and more attractive than somebody that can carry on a conversation that covers various topics. Music, movies, books, politics, news etc... and can bring a different point of view to that conversation. You can be gorgeous, the most physically beautiful person in the world but that just goes down the drain if you cant put together a cohesive,well thought out idea.
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    May 21, 2008 3:18 AM GMT
    I've done the relationship with the average intelligence but sweet guy, and it didn't work. Smart is a deal-breaker for me.
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    May 21, 2008 3:20 AM GMT
    I'm a size queen for IQ
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    May 21, 2008 3:22 AM GMT
    1969er saidI'm a size queen for IQ


    that was excellent. gotta good chuckle icon_lol.gif
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    May 21, 2008 3:47 AM GMT
    I don't understand the question
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    May 21, 2008 5:34 AM GMT
    czarodziej saidi require intelligence, and the ability to communicate well- i love good discussions and stimulating conversation


    i find it refreshing, albeit rare, that someone would have such beautiful eyes, intelligence, and demeanor all in the same package. icon_smile.gif
  • cacti

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    May 21, 2008 5:59 AM GMT
    I think MSUBioNerd has it right. Intelligence equals knowledge, but the ability to learn. And arrogance is a much bigger turn off than a low IQ.

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    May 21, 2008 6:09 AM GMT
    DJBens77 saidI don't understand the question

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    May 21, 2008 1:28 PM GMT
    Very. Intelligence != Educated btw.

    Now I've answered your question, let's talk about britney! icon_biggrin.gif

    http://www.poorbritney.com/blog/?cat=1
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    May 21, 2008 4:40 PM GMT
    Personally I don’t really look for intelligence. I focus more on the ability to partake in conversation and to formulate an opinion. Before and during University I worked in bars and restaurants and my colleagues were not the most intelligent people however I could have seen myself with several of them due to their ability to keep me interested in what they have to say.

    The most frustrating thing, I find, is when I’m on a date and the guy just agrees with EVERYTHING I say. I sometimes find myself saying something which is completely ridiculous or out of order to try and bait them into a rebuttal.

    I think intelligence can be important; however it can sometimes be irrelevant. Some of the most intelligent people I know are the biggest social retards. For example, I have a Legal background; throw in some philosophy, politics and history…if I went on a date with the most intelligent nuclear physicist I don’t know if we would bounce of each other. However if he had the intellectual capacity, or conversational ability to interest me, that’s when I could see something progressing.