"Straight Gay Guy".

  • Dukie

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    Oct 06, 2011 7:28 PM GMT
    I used to be called that all the time. It's pretty interesting that people will often use that as a compliment. God forbid you be a "gay, gay guy." I'm starting a blog soon (OUTbros.com) and I really want to talk about these kinds of things.

    What do you all think? I mean, is it bad to feel complimented when someone calls you that? What about gay men who aren't as masculine? It's almost a little discriminatory....I'd love to hear everyone else's thoughts.


    Andrei
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    Oct 06, 2011 7:40 PM GMT
    I have been called "the straightest gay guy" they've met in their life and they like it. I honestly just frown a little bit and thank them for going out of their way with their attempt to compliment me.
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    Oct 06, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    Ive been called straight before. When I tell them Im gay, they usually say "but you have sex with girls right?" No, thats not the definition of gay.

    For some I think they take it as a compliment. I dont care. I am what I am.
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    Oct 06, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    OUTbros?

    I fucking hate the term bro. It's becoming increasingly douchebaggish sounding to most people too. Might wanna re-name it.
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    Oct 06, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    TrevorMark saidOUTbros?

    I fucking hate the term bro. Bro sounds douchebaggish.


    Bro isnt that bad.

    Brah is douchertastic.
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    Oct 06, 2011 8:42 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    TrevorMark saidOUTbros?

    I fucking hate the term bro. Bro sounds douchebaggish.


    Bro isnt that bad.

    Brah is douchertastic.

    WHY THANK YOU CHAINERS FOR FINDING ME AND QUOTING ME BEFORE I WAS ABLE TO CLARIFY!
    xD

    I've missed you, brotato chip.
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    Oct 06, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    Chainers said
    TrevorMark saidOUTbros?

    I fucking hate the term bro. Bro sounds douchebaggish.


    Bro isnt that bad.

    Brah is douchertastic.

    WHY THANK YOU CHAINERS FOR FINDING ME AND QUOTING ME BEFORE I WAS ABLE TO CLARIFY!
    xD

    I've missed you, brotato chip.


    hehe find you? I never left you. I watched you sleep at night...

    I miss you too, we need to LoL again soon!
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    Oct 06, 2011 9:01 PM GMT
    Dukie saidI used to be called that all the time. It's pretty interesting that people will often use that as a compliment. God forbid you be a "gay, gay guy." I'm starting a blog soon (OUTbros.com) and I really want to talk about these kinds of things.

    What do you all think? I mean, is it bad to feel complimented when someone calls you that? What about gay men who aren't as masculine? It's almost a little discriminatory....I'd love to hear everyone else's thoughts.


    Andrei
    @OUTbros




    You can try and be politically correct all you want, but in the end we will just have a pile of big stinking lies. It happens every time we try and discuss masculinity or race in sexual attraction. Here are the REAL answers to your questions....

    • Yes, it's a compliment. Very few people are attracted to nelly men. VERY few. So when someone let's us know that they think we're masculine (or straight), it IS a compliment.

    • Yes, it's discriminatory. It's also discriminatory to say someone looks "thin" as that's saying obese people aren't as attractive. Is it fair? No. But that's reality and humans have deeply embedded programing that causes us to be attracted to different things and there's no changing it.

  • Dukie

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    Oct 23, 2011 2:33 PM GMT
    TrevorMark saidOUTbros?

    I fucking hate the term bro. It's becoming increasingly douchebaggish sounding to most people too. Might wanna re-name it.



    The irony is the point...most people think of "bro" as douchey or homophobic. Who says we can't take it back icon_lol.gif

    I love all of the responses!

    Andrei
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    Oct 23, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    TrevorMark saidOUTbros?

    I fucking hate the term bro. Bro sounds douchebaggish.


    Bro isnt that bad.

    Brah is douchertastic.


    And bruh is Raging Douchelord.
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    Oct 23, 2011 2:48 PM GMT
    TrevorMark saidOUTbros?

    I fucking hate the term bro. It's becoming increasingly douchebaggish sounding to most people too. Might wanna re-name it.


    I totally agree, Brohemian Rhapsody... Broseph Stalin might wanna rename it.
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    Oct 23, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    In real life, I come across very few guys who I'd be shocked if he told me he's a homo. I get a good chuckle out of the number of guys who come here crowing about how no one suspects they're gay. Perhaps they're all surrounded by clueless straight people.
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    Oct 23, 2011 3:26 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidIn real life, I come across very few guys who I'd be shocked if he told me he's a homo. I get a good chuckle out of the number of guys who come here crowing about how no one suspects they're gay. Perhaps they're all surrounded by clueless straight people.


    Oh yeah? Betcha didn't know this little secret....

    I'm gay, too. Yeah... I LIKE DICK. ZING
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    Oct 23, 2011 3:35 PM GMT
    I've been told this too, I find it a bit irritating.
  • BCSwimmer

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    Oct 23, 2011 4:15 PM GMT
    An interesting term confusing being straight with masculinity. It seems like the sort of people that think all gay guys are effeminate, limp-wristed nellies.

    It also reminds me of gay guys who describe themselves as "straight-acting" (like why "act" at all) as opposed to describing themself as masculine. (As an aside, for me, the term "straight-acting" should be reserved for closeted guys who are living a lie, dating or married to a woman - THAT is straight "acting").

    If someone I knew referred to me as a straight gay guy II would correct them and say "I think what you mean is I am a masculine gay guy".
  • intense1nc

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    Mar 06, 2012 6:50 PM GMT
    yup a confirmed "straight gay guy" here as well. hear that all the time. i just take it as a compliment that i'm my own person and no one thing defines me.
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    Mar 06, 2012 7:26 PM GMT
    I get 'oh really your gay? dont worry no one can tell", and I find it mildly offensive and point out why to enlighten the masses and do my bit for intersexual relations. Mostly straights say it as a compliment.
    Its also funny at times when I think of all the gay things I do, and in public people just dont really notice. lol
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    Mar 06, 2012 7:46 PM GMT
    It all depends on people's own personal perspective, at least that's how I can see it from my situation with my friends here at Uni.

    Each friend sees me differently varying from SUPER GAY to straight gay.

    It all depends on how your friend's see you. Then again, that may not be applicable to someone who is of consistent personality (flamecoughflamecoughflame).

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    Mar 06, 2012 10:03 PM GMT
    I take ultimate pride in being called "the straightest gay guy I've ever met" by my straight friends. It makes me feel much straighter and more powerful because of my perceived straightness, even though I'd be much happier groping the hot straight guys who tell me that.

    No homo...
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    Mar 06, 2012 10:09 PM GMT
    dtmyh saidI get 'oh really your gay? dont worry no one can tell", and I find it mildly offensive and point out why to enlighten the masses and do my bit for intersexual relations. Mostly straights say it as a compliment.
    Its also funny at times when I think of all the gay things I do, and in public people just dont really notice. lol


    Last time I went out to the club here some guy walked up to me and asked me if I was gay. It wasn't the first time, probably wont be the last lol.

    And OP, why did you stop posting on your blog?I've liked what i've read so far
  • araphael

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    Mar 07, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    Lol. The only guys I've ever hooked up with have been straight gay guys, whatever that really is, ha,ha.
  • JP85257

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    Mar 07, 2012 1:20 AM GMT
    I get called this all the time because I am not scared to do my own maintenance on my own vehicles among other things. I dont mind getting dirty and such.