Hot Bod, or Smart?

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    May 21, 2008 12:35 AM GMT
    Okay, I realize this topic is kind of ridiculous, but I'm seriously dealing with this issue right now and would appreciate some REAL feedback.

    So this is my first year into the "real world". With work taking up so much of my day, the little time I have left in the evenings I spend studying for grad classes. When the HELL am I supposed to work out?? I tried the morning workout, not a morning person here so of course that didn't last. Lunch time gym trip? Out of the question.

    Do I hold off on advancing my education, long-term goals, and effectively my career a few years for the sake of a hot body? I don't want to wake up one day and be 40+, regretting not slowing my shit down a little and enjoying my youth.

    Older, successful, and in-shape men: I am looking for your advice most!! Learned lessons, time management suggestions, I want to hear it all! I NEED YOUR HELP!!!


    Joey. icon_wink.gif
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    May 21, 2008 1:11 AM GMT
    hey joe,
    i think it's pretty clear you're both hot and smart. icon_cool.gif
    when i was your age, i looked a lot like you -- tall and slim, with great muscle tone, but not much mass. since you're a runner, you already know that cardio is your friend, but it's not gonna make you bigger.

    a lot of guys on here would love to look like you instead of fighting belly fat, so i say enjoy your life, friends and career. in time your metablolism will shift and you'll see better results in the weight room, if you make time for it.

    good luck and enjoy being 21 -- it doesn't last long!icon_wink.gif

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    May 21, 2008 1:16 AM GMT
    I personally prefer a person who is smart and interesting, and has a decent body.

    To be honest with you men get pretty tired of sex with the same man fairly quickly unless there is something about the guy's personality that keeps him interested.

    The ability to hold an intelligent conversation is one attribute that is a winner in my books.
  • GQjock

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    May 21, 2008 1:39 AM GMT
    From one Joey to another...

    you definitely can do both
    You're making it harder than it needs to be
    and judging by your name (not the joe part)
    you're setting yourself up for failure

    Work and career is just that
    there's always time for the gym
    as with everything in life
    it just depends on how much you want it
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    May 21, 2008 4:11 AM GMT
    Im only 26, but I am in the process of work, school and the gym. There is time for it all if it all is important to you. It means a little sacrifice so if you really want to work out and you only have that time in the morning to do it, then you have to suck it up and workout in the morning. Just go to bed a little earlier. I hate the morning as well, but sometimes 530 in the morning was the only time. Its hard but doable.

    Also, remember that this is only a temporary phase. Because of my work schedule, I have gone several months at a time not working out as much as I am accustomed to and it shows in my belly, but then my schedule calms down and I bounce back (although i will say as i get older it takes a few more weeks to bounce back). Do your education now because it will be over soon, that way you wont be 40 and upset you didnt do school. You will be able to exercize for life.

    Good luck bud,
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    May 21, 2008 9:58 AM GMT
    You can have both...what i did is have more frequent workouts during that are shorter....so rather than going to the gym 3-4x/week for like 2 hours, i got everyday for an hour (sometimes just 30 minutes when i;m REALLY pressed for time). Within that week i cover everything, keeping one of those days as my "lazy day" where i do legs and no cardio (i'm in and out witing 30 minutes). Also when time is short, i skip one particular exercise and add it on to the end of the subsequent workout the next day. The way it goes now, monday, tuesday, wednesday is most intense, thursday is "lazy", friday and saturday are not as intense as the first 3 days but more intense that thursday and sundays are off. For me, the key was to be flexible with my workout regime, pertially tailoring my day around my workouts and my workouts around my day...if that makes sense.
  • spinningguy

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    May 25, 2008 10:02 PM GMT
    One of the things you should learn now is that to be successful in your career you will need to learn balance. Working non-stop and giving up your social life, your working out, and your relaxation time could make you successful in the short term but it will only last for a few years...at best, and it will lead to the classic burn out syndrom. Burn out is a huge factor in hating your job, resenting the people that you work with and eventually leaving behind what you spent years working so hard on. So obviously you can see that not taking time for yourself and allowing burn out to set in is quite counter productive.

    Of course if you give up your workouts and let yourself go it could effect your health, your happiness, your relationships. Part of balance in your life is taking care of yourself.

    Here are some quick helpful tips use a gym near work or on campus both will give you more time in the gym and less time commuting back and forth from home, work, school and the gym. Second workout right after work, between classes, or right before dinner...

    Here is a quick exercise for you. Take out a sheet of paper write the number 24 then subtract the number of hours you sleep lets say 7, write the word sleep next to the 7 that leaves you 17 hours. 8 hours of work leaves you 9 hours, add your study time, the amount of time for commuting back and forth from home to work, class room hours, and time for showering etc... In the end you should have between 2-5 hours left that you might currently be using for playing video games, watching TV, or being on RJ once you set your priorities you will find the time.

    Good luck and I hope that you end up making the choice to find balance. Don't make the same mistake I did which was not to even attempt balance until my early 30's.
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    Oct 20, 2008 11:49 PM GMT
    In many ways I agree with Spinningguy. I did not do so well at school as I could have done and I have regretted this ever since. But at least I caught up at College afterwards.
    But seriously, higher education and career should be your number one priority. Higher education will open the door to many opportunities, and would allow you to work abroad if you wish, it would widen the choice of vocation, and most important, bring you a better income from which you could enjoy a richer lifestyle. And if you don't like your job? With a higher education, you can leave and find one better suited to your taste much easier.
    As for personal fitness, as I have written to another Real Jock member only a couple of days ago, don't be obsessed with body appearence. This member was unhappy, despite having a superb physique. I personally believe that having an interest in other people's likes will win friends.
    On the other hand, Spinningguy has worked out for you that in every 24 hours of your day, one or two hours could be put aside for physical training. That is good advice, for physical exercise has been proven to stimulate brain power, which you will need for education. But it will also take self discipline, and a determination to keep up the routine. And you can only do that if you have a vision and a goal to work towards. And what about weekends? Aren't there any free time within to practice more workouts?
    In a nutshell, concentrate on being smart. That is the most important road to take. But also make time to train physically. Good luck!
  • DiverScience

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    Oct 20, 2008 11:55 PM GMT
    You find time. I'm almost through graduate school, and I mostly still find time to workout 3-5 days a week.
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    Oct 20, 2008 11:59 PM GMT
    I thought this thread was to ask if you should date the smart guy or the hot bod guy. Haha.

    I think you can do both school and gym. Make your workouts fun and go at the best time for YOU, Im not a morning person but I have friends who are so decide WHEN you want to go. HOW LONG, and then work it into your life. It's easy to do both, I just do less intense workouts when Im on clinical hospital rotations cuz I have less time.
  • EricLA

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    Oct 21, 2008 12:00 AM GMT
    Getting your education should be your priority. You're an attractive guy. You shouldn't need the hottest bod to attract men. Just try to eat reasonably well and be as active as you can be. It doesn't look like you have to worry about packing on the pounds though, so why sweat it?

    Once you're out in the professional world you can incorporate working out more into your schedule, though one could argue that timing is probably as good as it's going to get now.

    For me fitness was more of a money issue. I didn't join a gym because I didn't want to spend the money. But, at 28 I had a friend join a gym and he got a second gym membership at 1/2 the cost, which he offered to me. All this time later, I think I'm still doing pretty well.
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    Oct 21, 2008 12:01 AM GMT
    The hottest guy may originally attracted my attention, but the smartest guy could hold my attention the rest of my life.

    Guys who are "hot" eventually get old, hairy, wrinkley, and saggy.

    Guys with brains usually stay smart their entire lives.

    Pay attention to your schooling. However, anyone smart must realize that health is an important part of one's life.

    Joey--make time 4-5 days a weeks (more if you can) to workout (cardio/weights). Do it--not for others--but for yourself. Doing things that are hard--like "building up" a hot body--is good for everyone. I suggest getting up 2hrs earlier and working out then. I get up at 4pm every morning and go to the gym before classes/homework/work. Just make sure you get enough sleep too!icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 21, 2008 12:22 AM GMT

    Full time work, full time grad student, and still fit in gym time five days a week, dancing here and there, as well as a robust social calendar. I'm ridiculously thorough with my time management but know that it will all be worth it when I am finished. There are days when I want to run away, but I remind myself of my goals and that it isn't supposed to be easy.

    I have my time scheduled up, weekends are mostly 8 hour study days, and time with friends is briefer than I would like. It sucks but I have scheduled a twenty minute coffee with a great friend that I hadn't seen in 6 weeks. I'm also not in a committed relationship, but I am dating. I usually have two nights a week to swing for dinner dates (romantic or platonic), and I hold firm on it only being those days, but if nothing is on the books I will study with those or get extra work in. I've had to reduce the amount of time I work out and be more focused in my routine to get all I want in, but I like that extra motivation in the gym.

    You can have both, but it requires loads of discipline.
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    Oct 21, 2008 1:01 AM GMT
    Hi Joey,

    You can hopefully manage an hour in the gym at school at the end of your day - providing they keep the gym open a bit later. I'm older now - and pretty much put in the same amount of gym time I always did - and roughly the same work out I learned in my water polo days. It helps you feel your best to stay in shape. I feel and look better than most guys my age (49) and it is mostly through working out, eating right, keeping a good attitude, surrounding yourself with good friends, and having work that you love. You might ask how to pack all this into a day? I find I have time for everything I want - and I waste very little time. One thing I limit myself to is a short commute, very little television, and eliminate negative people who drag me down.......keeping only the best people in my life. Here's a creed of mine: I barely have time enough to spend with all the people I do like - I sure as Hell don't have time to spend with any people I don't like! Good luck!
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    Oct 21, 2008 1:22 AM GMT
    If you must prioritize, make it grad school. You're in the middle of it, you have an investment in it, and you will get long-term rewards from it.

    But find time for some exercise, too, whenever you can. Exercise is actually good for your grad studies. It helps many people fight stress, keep a positive attitude and avoid depression when pressures on you are mounting, it keeps you healthier, and gives you stamina.

    In other words, exercise is therapeutic, in important ways related to the very challenges you face in school. But I wouldn't tie yourself to a rigid program, and not be thinking of this solely in terms in muscle building & appearance at this time.

    Consider aerobic activities, like jogging and biking, that you can do impromptu, without tying yourself to a gym schedule. And when weather drives you indoors, look at a stationary bike (or a stand for your street bike), and pedal while you study or watch TV. Do sit-ups and push-ups in your room, maybe buy a small weight set.

    With regular aerobic exercise your body appearance will improve anyway, and you can devote greater time to more intense body sculpting later, when you have the luxury of the time for it.
  • Delivis

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    Oct 21, 2008 5:21 AM GMT
    Can't i have both?..icon_sad.gif I want both in the same guy!
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    Oct 21, 2008 5:30 AM GMT
    The two aren't mutually exclusive.
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    Oct 24, 2008 3:13 AM GMT
    I continue to deal with this issue. One can always learn more, especially in the sciences and math. Moreover, as the job becomes better and more interesting, there are higher expectations from your peerers.

    Hotness, there is an upperbound. Thus devote no more than half of your time for it.
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    Oct 24, 2008 5:32 PM GMT
    Having both is very possible. It won't happen overnight. It will take trial and error to understand what makes you happy........setbacks happen......it's how you deal with the setbacks that count.

    Nobody is perfect and you can't be 100% dedicated 100% of the time, but as the years pass, you will see results.

    Remember to be happy as you pursue these goals. This means taking time to smell the roses, taking care of your health, getting good nights sleep, and if you are lucky, lots of satisfying sex with intelligent good men.