Any of you ever feel like you don't fit in with your age group but fit in with an older crowd instead?

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    Oct 08, 2011 10:17 PM GMT
    I often feel this way. I'm in college and I just don't fit in with that age group. Yes I like to party and do things like that, but as far as my thinking, I think more like a 45 year old father than a college kid. I think people in my age group are rude, disrespectful and self centered, I don't care about drama and whos dating who and hooked up with so and so or the latest reality T.V. shows like jersey shore. But spark up a conversation about the economy or politics, or and you'll have my attention for hours.

    I get so nervous around people my age but feel totally comfortable around older people. I was always that kid when I was younger where if there was a get together, rather than being outside with the kids, I was inside talking with the adults.

    Any of you like this?
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    Oct 08, 2011 10:29 PM GMT
    i know EXACTLY how you feel. I am the same way. Like you said, I to like to go out and have a good time but in general it is hard for me to connect to people my age, mainly guys.

    At UCONN it is hard to meet good people here. I have maybe 1 or 2 real guy friends here and all my other friends are girls because they are just way more mature then most of the boys here.

    I kinda blame that for the way I was brought up though...never really was able to connect with kids my age with my upbringing. It is nothing to feel weird about. Just try and meet like minded people when you can and hold onto them icon_smile.gif.
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 08, 2011 11:57 PM GMT
    When I was your age, yes, I did. However, now at my current age, I think I fit in better with guys your current age. icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    All the time, I don't have much to talk about with people my age.
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    Oct 09, 2011 12:03 AM GMT
    absolutely!!!!

    I date older guys, hang out with an older crowd. . .
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    Oct 09, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    if I hung out with people older than me I would be cruising he local hospice.
  • JP85257

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    Oct 09, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    Im the oldest out of my group so I tend to be the mother-hen.
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    Oct 09, 2011 1:15 AM GMT
    I tend to find myself searching for younger kids.. or rather they find me. With that being said, I tend to connect on a better level with those who are older than myself.
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    Oct 09, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    I find it pretty difficult to have in depth conversations with people my age. It's much easier with people a bit older. It's not that I don't like talking about the xbox, what happened on tv the night before and crushes, I do, but there's only so much you can talk about that sort of thing.

    At work, I get on really well with the older ones (as long as they forget my age and don't revert to being mothering/fathering).
    The guys my age tend to use me to settle arguments about general knowledge and spelling when the older guy that sits next to me isn't in icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    I never felt connected with people my own age when I was in college. They always seemed immature to me. As I got older, the mature gap seemed to close, and now I can get along with people my own age, or even younger. People just mature and change at different rates.
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    Oct 09, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    yes
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    Oct 09, 2011 2:06 AM GMT
    I feel like I can connect with people at all ages. My age, young, older. There's a large variety of topics you can address. You just have to gauge their interests.
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    Oct 09, 2011 2:33 AM GMT
    Great blog.. but for me its the reverse. I have friends my age, but most of my friends are younger, in some cases much younger. I find that most of guys in my age group have not aged well, mentally and physically, and I have very little in common with them. I look, act, dress, music.. its so much different than most of my peers.

    I have more in common with younger guys. It funny but even at my gym, its the younger guys that are more social with me, or me them. (its a st8 type gym so get ur mind outta the gutter! lol )

    Im in a weird place. Im 54. Im told I look 40ish, and in my mind.. sometimes Im still 25. Its a challenge in my frienships, and also relationships. Ive dated all age groups, but my last two LTR's, were much younger.

    But, thats subject for another blog...... icon_biggrin.gif
  • wellwell

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    Oct 09, 2011 3:51 AM GMT
    It was like that for me, as well. I felt my peers were grossly immature (& like O.M. says, my peers "have not aged well"). My Neighborhood is 90% College Students; we get along superbly. I'm N2 their cutting-edge (Uranian) Music.

    Now days, I really Love People & will chat up any of the sane ones, and most of the others; tho- it is still rare that I enjoy the company of my immediate-peers. I met a 104 year old E. Indian woman, 1 year before she discarnated; what a privilege.
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    Oct 09, 2011 4:45 AM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidI feel like I can connect with people at all ages. My age, young, older. There's a large variety of topics you can address. You just have to gauge their interests.


    +1
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    Oct 10, 2011 1:55 AM GMT
    Embrace this. It is a gift.

    For me, this started when I was young and my parents would have friends over. I was the only kid who hung with the adults. The other kids would be outside playing games, but I loved to stay inside and hear the adults talk and tell stories.

    Its just a sign that you are more mature for your age. If you tap into it, you can go much further in life than hanging with your own age group. Ironically, I enjoy younger people now, as I find they have better attitudes about life...and know more about technology.