your parents reaction when you came out to them?

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    Oct 09, 2011 1:05 AM GMT
    How was it. Did they respond well. I haven't done that yet even though I am out to like all my friends and even my brother. My parents are quite conservative, and I doubt they will take it well. Share yours.
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    Oct 09, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    Don't Ask....icon_cry.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    They still live in complete denial...seams to work for their generation.

    Think you'll find they already know, just waiting for you to figure it out and hope you won't rub it in there face or embarrass them.
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    Oct 09, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    I never had an official coming out. I was just dating guys at some point and no one batted an eye and I went like "*shrug* guess it ain't a big deal!"
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    Oct 09, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    My mom forcefully asked about my sexuality in a huge family argument. I didn't respond, and she was like "really?! are you really?!" I kinda nodded, and she said something about "See, you showed all the signs! Your sister, we had no idea with her, but you were so obvious!" (btw, my sister's lesbian :p )
    My dad was just kinda silent. Eventually he told me that he "doesn't agree with the lifestyle," but that he still loves me.

    That was years ago, and now they're both pretty comfortable with it.
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    Oct 09, 2011 3:10 AM GMT
    Dad: That explains the gay porn on your computer
    Mom: Guess you won't be getting anyone knocked up
    Me: What's for dinner?

    (I feel very fortunate, my dad's brother is gay and I'm pretty sure my mother knew when we took a vacation while I was very very young, I stopped dead in my tracks in front of a store-front, eyes and mouth agape - staring at a showgirl dress)
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    Oct 09, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    they took it hard because we are roman catholic in my family but they have gotten a bit better i like this guy and asked my parents if he could come and stay the night over and they said yes i was so shocked and kinda proud of them since they still havent really gotten over it yet
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    Oct 09, 2011 3:55 AM GMT
    My family was awesome right from day one. My mom's only concern was whether or not life had been difficult for me growing up and feeling different.

    She asked if I was happy, and I said, "yes." She replied, "That's all that matters."

    Been nothing but good ever since. And yes, I do know how lucky I am. I have many friends who have had very devastating experiences with their families.

    My best advice, make sure you come out to them in confidence, very sure of who you are. If you seem apologetic about your sexuality, then they will feel you're unhappy and they need to help "fix you."
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    Oct 09, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    I was looking out of the window of the car. "No, mom. I don't think I like girls at all."


    "Not even a little bit?"


    "No. And I never have."

    "Well... that's that. I have to tell the family you're my gay son." She laughs.


    "Oh gosh how do you think they'll take it?"

    "They'll be alright. Now what do you want from the store?"
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    Oct 09, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    wow, some of you have it so easy. Lucky and I am so jealous. I know my mom will NOT take it lightly. I know my parents probably have an some idea that I may be gay based on how I dress sometimes. They would comment on "you look so gay" in their native language. But that comment is a lot different from when I tell them "I am gay"icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 4:57 AM GMT
    "What did we do wrong?!"
    "We want you to see a therapist"
    Luckily, I was never close to either one of my parents, so their opinion never meant much. In this instance you're the only one that really matters, and while your parents response may not be what you had hoped, at least you had the strength to tell them and now you'll have the rest of your life to show them that being gay is a good thing.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    slimnoodlez saidHow was it. Did they respond well. I haven't done that yet even though I am out to like all my friends and even my brother. My parents are quite conservative, and I doubt they will take it well. Share yours.


    I came out to my brothers first, and they all took it really well. I came out to my parents later, telling my mom first. I had been suffering depression for a few years, and I think struggling with my sexuality was a large part of it. My parents were both pretty moderate conservatives, and took it really well. They told me I was still their son and they loved me no matter what: eventually, I was able to come out at my Catholic high school, and didn't have any problems. That was when I was 17. It really helped to be able to tell my parents: I hadn't realized how much I had placed in their acceptance until I heard their response. It was a big weight off my shoulders.

    I would suggest letting your friends and brother know of what you are doing beforehand. It's useful to let people know where you are personally, and to have people ready to support you. With that said, best of luck my friend.
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    Oct 09, 2011 5:07 AM GMT
    I didn't really come out to my folks. They outed me, oddly. Got home from practice at school one evening, and I was told to sit in the kitchen. Mom came downstairs with a stack of my journals, and my face fell. Not exactly a happy evening, but it could have been worse. It was just a bunch of questions I didn't see the need to answer, since they had all the answers in front of them... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 5:07 AM GMT
    At dinner with family:

    "so homecoming Is soon you going with anyone?"

    Me "ya this girl and her boyfriend"

    Parents: "oh really that's odd why is that"

    Me(getting nervous for follow up questions) " idk just going with them to"

    Parents: " but do you like this girl to?"

    Me: " uhh no just friends"

    Parents: "what? That's weird is something wrong"

    Me(visibly nervous about whats about to spew out of my mouth on accident) "I'm gay"

    My brother says "I knew it!!!!" as he jumps up from the table and points at me

    Ever since then I've been out. Parents are fine relatives all are cool with it. Never had a problem even with my super bigot grandfather on my moms side. He at least told my mom "I'm glad he is happy and that you've made him feel comfortable enough to share that with you. Good to know you all have a close relationship"
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    Oct 09, 2011 8:56 AM GMT
    My parents visited me within a month to find out what my bf was like. My older sister had already come out to them as a lesbian so she probably eased the way for me.