Friend Gets a BF

  • Joeyphx444

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    Oct 09, 2011 1:54 AM GMT
    Anyone feel like when your friend (guy, girl, gay or not) gets a bf or gf, they all of a sudden have no time for you but you can still be friends?

    I am not talking about a best friend, but just a good friend or even someone who you were interested in. What do you do? Wait till they are avail again lol

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    Oct 09, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    Yea that is always a shitty situation and I do apologize for that. Honestly, from personal experience, try to think about your friendship. Is this guy a better friend then a potential boyfriend? Is it worth bringing it up and potentially ruining the friendship you have with him?

    It may be good that he is taken (i know, it hurts a bit...trust me...i know..) so you can figure this stuff out.

    In the meantime, put yourself out there icon_smile.gif never know who you are going to find.

    *note*

    Sorry not sure if this was a rhetorical question or not haha.

    -Alex
  • JP85257

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    Oct 09, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    You are preaching to the choir. This has happened several times recently. Guess what? Im the friend that will be there when they get dumped. Just how it happens.
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 09, 2011 3:48 AM GMT
    Well, speaking from experience, when you get a bf you tend to want to spend every minute you can together...especially if your schedules are really different.icon_wink.gif
  • muscle4same

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    Oct 09, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    First, if he was interested in you, then I think you'd be the boyfriend now and not someone else. That may be a very simplistic way of looking at it, but a very truthful fact none the less.

    Second, it happens all the time. Coming from me, a 35 year old who everyone only wants to be friends with and never a boyfriend and whom all friends get into relationships, the frienship is pretty much non-existant other than when we happen to run into each other or the once in a while, "how are you?" Facebook messages that go no farther than my response of how I am. When people get into relationships, the friendships always take a far back burner. So I suggest hitting the gym or reading or something when you're feeling like you want friendship time, or try to find a few new friends.
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    Oct 09, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    Just wait it out until they break up
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    Oct 09, 2011 5:13 AM GMT
    I admit I get a little miffed when my friends start pairing off..

    What also irritates me is that they say I'm handsome enough to get a bf/gf...If that was the case then shouldn't I be in a relationships by now :S
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    Oct 09, 2011 5:54 AM GMT
    Childish Gambino saidAnd stop havin' all of these crushes on all of my friends' girlfriends. I think I'm jealous they got someone when the world ends. It looks nice, I gotta get me one of those. I haven't found Mrs. Right, but I'm on it though.


    ^Describes me haha

    But yeah, one went AWOL since February, yet finding time to post how in love he is on every single social network and finally responded this week icon_rolleyes.gif
    He lost many friends because of that, he's lucky I'm still here. icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 1:56 PM GMT
    Whenever a friend disappeared with someone else as you describe, my other friends and I used to share grins of congratulations that the missing friend had embarked on a great adventure. Friendship, good friendship, shouldn't require a schedule.

    And this:
    Good friends are like stars; you don't always see them but they're still there.


    -Doug

    PS I've had good friends disappear for love, jobs, career moves, education, education moves etc. When we reconnect, sometimes years later, it's like resuming a conversation that left off 5 minutes ago. The feeling is pretty wonderful, and an indicator of the quality of your friendship.
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    Oct 09, 2011 1:58 PM GMT
    When this happens, it's not about me, so I am happy for them.
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    Oct 09, 2011 1:59 PM GMT
    motov8 saidWhen this happens, it's not about me, so I am happy for them.



    This is an example of being a good friend. icon_wink.gif