Anyone Else Never Been In A Relationship Before?

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    Oct 09, 2011 5:07 AM GMT
    I'm 20 and I've went on dates but I've never been in an actual relationship before. Let alone a second date. Anyone else?
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    Oct 09, 2011 5:16 AM GMT
    A lot of relationships are a waste of time and money and too many guys rush to get into one only to be unhappy and make someone else unhappy.

    I didn't find a relationship I wanted to be in until I was 26 and it lasted for a good five years and I had intended it to last much longer. I used the meantime to focus on finishing school and finding a direction. I didn't want to settle for any old guy.

    You kind of have to ask yourself do you want to be in a relationship for the sake of love or because it really brings you something worthwhile? What do you get out of it and will it bring you more good than bad?

    A little bit of foresight makes less need for regretful hindsight.


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    Oct 09, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    I've never been in an actual relationship as well. Being looking for 2 years now [maybe longer], and only met with 6 people for coffee that's it.
    Just take your time to find the right guy, no rush!
    Sometimes you just crave for one, but patience is a virtue. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 5:52 AM GMT
    Yap. wanted one for a long time, didn't happen.
    Stopped wanting one. No problems.
  • no1timehookup...

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    Oct 09, 2011 8:26 AM GMT
    I'm 33 and never been in one, always wanted one when i was in my early 20s.. Stopped looking around 26, and decided I never want one...
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    Oct 09, 2011 8:42 AM GMT
    Don't waste your time with a relationship. Enjoy yourself (and others)!
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    Oct 09, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    Well It's very difficult to find a guy around here that's hot and actually wants to be exclusive with someone. I've just decided that I'm not gonna have sex anymore with anyone because it's not worth it. Like why buy the milk if you get the cow for free.
  • bolero_of_fir...

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    Oct 09, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    FrostedFlakes saidDon't waste your time with a relationship. Enjoy yourself (and others)!

    Did your last boyfriend turn out to be an asshole?
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 09, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    mynamesadonis saidI'm 20 and I've went on dates but I've never been in an actual relationship before. Let alone a second date. Anyone else?


    Well, I didn't have my first relationship until I was 23. I didn't have my first sexual encounter until I was 23. There's nothing wrong with being a "late-starter". icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 6:44 PM GMT
    mynamesadonis saidWell It's very difficult to find a guy around here that's hot and actually wants to be exclusive with someone. I've just decided that I'm not gonna have sex anymore with anyone because it's not worth it. Like why buy the milk if you get the cow for free.


    Well, there will be someone out there for you, you just have to wait.
    I am still 'clean' so no sexual experiences yet, just waiting for the right person. Other than that, just keep your life busy so you won't have to think about the fact you are single and stuff, and eventually you will encounter someone sooner or later. At least, I am dealing with the situation by keeping myself busy, lol. Stay Positive icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 6:47 PM GMT
    Me either.
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    Oct 09, 2011 6:52 PM GMT


    I've been several relationships, all ended badly and one is still on a good note.. However the best thing about looking for someone for a relationship is to not look for it. It just kind of happens. Once you find someone you can truly trust, truly be happy around, and being able to be true best friends to one another, then you can find that a relationship will open up...

    Besides, your 20 years old.. You have a lot years left in trying to enjoy your experiences until you find that right one.. In the mean time, just have fun and don't worry, it'll come to you when you least expect it.icon_biggrin.gif
  • sbwlguy

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    Oct 09, 2011 6:53 PM GMT
    31 and never. If it happens, it happens, if not, then so what.
  • sonnet129

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    Oct 10, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    41 and never. Been out since 16. I always tend to fall for straight and/or closeted guys. Other gay men just want to be friends or have sex. I'm learning how to settle in and get used to being alone.
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    Oct 10, 2011 2:26 AM GMT
    I've never been in one.
  • bluecrow

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    Oct 10, 2011 12:54 PM GMT
    37, never. Not that I haven't been trying.... it just never happened to me. I think now I am having problem attracting guys. icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 11, 2011 7:33 AM GMT
    If it happens, it happens. I know of several for whom it has, and at least from the outside looking in, it seems to be all that it appears to be. However, for some, it does never happen. At some point one gets on with life. One may nurture some lingering hope, but it becomes less a longing as one adjusts to reality. There are other enjoyments in life. Get a dog--they'll love you no matter what!!
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    Oct 11, 2011 7:35 AM GMT
    I've never been in a relationship in 20yrs.
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    Oct 11, 2011 7:58 AM GMT
    Been on a few dates, but never in a full on relationship. Been in a state of unrequited love for a while. :I
  • sonnet129

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    Oct 11, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    Sulla saidIf it happens, it happens. I know of several for whom it has, and at least from the outside looking in, it seems to be all that it appears to be. However, for some, it does never happen. At some point one gets on with life. One may nurture some lingering hope, but it becomes less a longing as one adjusts to reality. There are other enjoyments in life. Get a dog--they'll love you no matter what!!


    Wish there were more people like you, and not spouting the, "don't worry it will happen, there's someone for everybody" bullshit.
    It would make me feel better.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 11, 2011 3:50 PM GMT
    mynamesadonis saidI'm 20 and I've went on dates but I've never been in an actual relationship before. Let alone a second date. Anyone else?
    dude, why are you in such a hurry to be in a relationship. dude, you are so young. learn enjoy life. get out and party, get involved some activities, hell go on some dates. do some hookups and enjoy having sex. those are things you should be doing not worry about being in a relationship. i have never been in one with a guy before but i am definitely not going to feel bad about it because i haven't
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    Oct 11, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    Yup me too buddy a 100% virgin here icon_redface.gif
    Hmmm i would love to date you icon_wink.gif
  • sonnet129

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    Oct 11, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    Vladimir01 saidYup me too buddy a 100% virgin here icon_redface.gif
    Hmmm i would love to date you icon_wink.gif


    Being a virgin does not exclude one's never having been on a date.
  • stratavos

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    Oct 11, 2011 4:04 PM GMT
    A healthy and longer than a month relationship... That's yet to happen.
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:37 PM GMT
    never been in a real relationship but dying to know what it feels like!