My "straight" friend officially outed me to my roomie

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    Oct 09, 2011 10:50 AM GMT
    I did stuff with a straight guy, now he hates me and has decided to out me to my roommate. Asshole. Good thing my roommate doesn't care. ugh, fuck straight guys
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    Oct 09, 2011 10:58 AM GMT
    mikkeb saidI did stuff with a straight guy, now he hates me and has decided to out me to my roommate. Asshole. Good thing my roommate doesn't care. ugh, fuck straight guys


    doesn't that mean the "straight guy" is just as able to be "outed" as you?

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    Oct 09, 2011 11:00 AM GMT
    Oh, believe me, i just outed him to two of his friends. He deserves it. I'm tired of him telling people I'm gay. This is the third person he's randomly outed me to. Tired of being treated like shit, to be honest.
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    Oct 09, 2011 11:45 AM GMT
    Hahah, no such drama EVER happened to me. Ever. Whatsoever.
    I had a pretty safe, boring teenage growth.

    So in some ways, i envy you icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 12:44 PM GMT
    Why are you uptight about being outed? You are gay, right? Fuck, get past the drama. You're gay. Big deal.

    My one friend asked me how it was to be fucked up the ass. My response: "neato."

    Embrace it. It's how you are. That doesn't mean to be a flamer, but, gay is gay, and that's the way it is.

    If you out yourself, it's a non-issue, and all this needless baggage goes away.

    Tell your friends "I'm into guys."
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    Oct 09, 2011 12:51 PM GMT
    wow ... that sucks man ...even tho did he like those things !?
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    Oct 09, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
    I told my friends to out me to other people... thats just a bunch of awkward conversations I didn't want to have. It's not even worth having a conversation over.

    But you may want come out to people you're close to now (family, close friends), better for them to find out that way then hearing it from a malicious asshole.

    Good luck dude.
  • rebelbeard

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    Oct 09, 2011 12:56 PM GMT
    First, get over you delusional fantasy you messed around with a straight guy. You messed around with a closeted gay/bi guy. Second, you are gay. Like that other guy said, you are gay. Get over the stupid drama.

    Thanks
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    Oct 09, 2011 1:07 PM GMT
    mikkeb saidOh, believe me, i just outed him to two of his friends. He deserves it. I'm tired of him telling people I'm gay. This is the third person he's randomly outed me to. Tired of being treated like shit, to be honest.


    First time should've been a hint he was an asshole but I guess third time is a charm. LOL.

    Also why should you care that he "outed" you? Were you keeping it a secret? I doubt he outed you because you are gay. That's just stupid because he in turn outs himself so there must be another reason.
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    Oct 09, 2011 1:09 PM GMT
    a similar thing happened to me in middle school, messed around with a football player and he started telling ppl on the bus i was gay.

    He stopped after i said "ask him how he knows"
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    Oct 09, 2011 1:14 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidTell your friends "I'm into guys."

    He's from North Dakota, where I also lived for 11 years. Not sure where he's attending college now, but if in ND there can be problems with being outed.

    I used to be involved with 10% Society/LGBT student groups on 3 different ND campuses, and was a staff/faculty advisor at one (UND, which mikkeb would know). And I can assure you that some of these young people have real challenges with family, friends, community and classmates when they are involuntarily outed.

    And outing someone out of personal malice & revenge is just wrong, anyway. Hypocritical political & religious leaders may deserve outing for their homophobic public campaigns, a matter of truth in the public record & debate that they themselves invite, but not I think our OP in his private life.

    Moral to the story: beware straight guys and maladjusted gay ones.
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    Oct 09, 2011 1:38 PM GMT
    waxon said
    He stopped after i said "ask him how he knows"


    ...For the Win! +1
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    Oct 09, 2011 3:38 PM GMT
    Let him out you some more. It doesn't sound like it's affecting your relationships with people, so there's no damage, right? And as others stated, he's not straight.
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    Oct 09, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidWhy are you uptight about being outed? You are gay, right? Fuck, get past the drama. You're gay. Big deal.

    My one friend asked me how it was to be fucked up the ass. My response: "neato."

    Embrace it. It's how you are. That doesn't mean to be a flamer, but, gay is gay, and that's the way it is.

    If you out yourself, it's a non-issue, and all this needless baggage goes away.

    Tell your friends "I'm into guys."


    Liking dick up the ass and being gay aren't mutually inclusive. After all, girls have asses too but a girl who likes dick up the ass isn't gay, is she?
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 09, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said. Not sure where he's attending college now, but if in ND there can be problems with being outed. And I can assure you that some of these young people have real challenges with family, friends, community and classmates when they are involuntarily outed.


    Unfortunately, there are many places where there can be problems with being outed. icon_cry.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 4:07 PM GMT
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    chuckystud saidWhy are you uptight about being outed? You are gay, right? Fuck, get past the drama. You're gay. Big deal.

    My one friend asked me how it was to be fucked up the ass. My response: "neato."

    Embrace it. It's how you are. That doesn't mean to be a flamer, but, gay is gay, and that's the way it is.

    If you out yourself, it's a non-issue, and all this needless baggage goes away.

    Tell your friends "I'm into guys."


    Liking dick up the ass and being gay aren't mutually inclusive. After all, girls have asses too but a girl who likes dick up the ass isn't gay, is she?


    yes, shes a filthy gay whore who better not fuck up my sandwhich
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    Oct 09, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
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    chuckystud saidWhy are you uptight about being outed? You are gay, right? Fuck, get past the drama. You're gay. Big deal.

    My one friend asked me how it was to be fucked up the ass. My response: "neato."

    Embrace it. It's how you are. That doesn't mean to be a flamer, but, gay is gay, and that's the way it is.

    If you out yourself, it's a non-issue, and all this needless baggage goes away.

    Tell your friends "I'm into guys."


    Liking dick up the ass and being gay aren't mutually inclusive. After all, girls have asses too but a girl who likes dick up the ass isn't gay, is she?


    Really? that's one of the most off comparisons ever. Girls get dicks up their asses by males, you know, the opposite sex. Guys who like dicks up their ass can get it from girls with strap ons dicks (you know the things guys have). And guys who like their women to wear strap ons are just trying to say, "see, I'm not gay/bi because I'm still doing it with a woman". Or they get it from guys who are, ta da, the same sex. Same sex sex means gay/bi.
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    Oct 09, 2011 4:16 PM GMT
    That sucks
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    Oct 09, 2011 4:22 PM GMT
    I guess it shouldn't matter. I grew up in a homophobic household, so it has been hard for me to fully accept, but I'm almost there. I asked my roommate if he thought I was gay before knowing and he said "no, but you didn't talk about girls much." lol.
  • kuroshiro

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    Oct 09, 2011 4:23 PM GMT
    I don't think it's a matter of the OP having an issue with being gay so much that it's a privacy issue. For me, my sexuality does not define who I am as an individual. If people ask me whether or not I'm gay, I'll acknowledge it... but other than that it's none of their business. I don't need to know what someone does in the bedroom or what gender they're attracted to.

    Being outed by someone else and no on your own terms can cause immediate problems or problems down the line.

    But seriously, why does everyone need to know whether or not you like cock up the ass or in your mouth? icon_rolleyes.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 09, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    mikkeb saidI guess it shouldn't matter. I grew up in a homophobic household, so it has been hard for me to fully accept, but I'm almost there. I asked my roommate if he thought I was gay before knowing and he said "no, but you didn't talk about girls much." lol.


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    Oct 09, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    mikkeb saidI guess it shouldn't matter. I grew up in a homophobic household, so it has been hard for me to fully accept, but I'm almost there. I asked my roommate if he thought I was gay before knowing and he said "no, but you didn't talk about girls much." lol.


    I got that one the other night from a girl I have known a long time, but havent seen in like 10 years. She was trying to set me up with a girl. I couldnt tell her because of where we were but I was thinking "dont you get it?"
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    Oct 09, 2011 4:50 PM GMT
    Not sure why so many people are attacking the OP. It doesn't matter if he's gay or not, or if the person he was outed to didn't seem to care.

    I'm sorry that you didn't get to come out to your roommate on your own terms.
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 09, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidBetter to be out.
    1. You know who you're real friends are.
    2. You're not stressing over being found out.
    3. You're not living a lie.
    4. It could open up a whole new world of guys to you. Guys you didn't realize were also gay, might open up to you.
    5. You will be a role model for other closeted individuals.



    Unless:

    1. It might cause you to lose financial support from parents.
    2. It might cause you to lose your job.
    3. It might cause you to be homeless.
    4. You don't have the mental and emotional strength to handle the people in your family and friends who will reject you.
    5. It might cause your family to become physically violent against you.

    For each person the situation and consequences are different. There is no "one answer fits all".

  • mybud

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    Oct 09, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    mikkeb saidI did stuff with a straight guy, now he hates me and has decided to out me to my roommate. Asshole. Good thing my roommate doesn't care. ugh, fuck straight guys

    More immature gay drama..besides this shit...What else do ya got?