Sketchy as HELL!

  • swimmer8671

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    Oct 09, 2011 7:35 PM GMT
    I would like to know what is up with the phenomenon of guys once they no longer wish to hang out or see you they choose the IGNORE THEM method.

    I honestly find this to be the most immature and unbelievable way to handle the situation. I mean since we are all adults here, why the hell can't people just say oh hey i just really don't feel the connection between us and i think we should stop seeing each other.

    But NOOOOO, that would be far too mature so we resort to the lets ignore him until he gets the hint kind of gesture. Which in my opinion is total and absolute Bull Shit.

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    Oct 09, 2011 7:40 PM GMT
    My friend did this a week or two ago to me just cause of something I said where I'm not his dad and he got offended by it. I did the same thing to him cause he never sees himself at fault, I think that's what it tends to be. We're all too stubborn to see when we're at fault that we rather ignore the "dumb people" in our lives.
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 09, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
    swimmer8671 saidI would like to know what is up with the phenomenon of guys once they no longer wish to hang out or see you they choose the IGNORE THEM method.

    I honestly find this to be the most immature and unbelievable way to handle the situation. I mean since we are all adults here, why the hell can't people just say oh hey i just really don't feel the connection between us and i think we should stop seeing each other.

    But NOOOOO, that would be far too mature so we resort to the lets ignore him until he gets the hint kind of gesture. Which in my opinion is total and absolute Bull Shit.

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    I agree with you completely, however, keep in mind that just because some guys have an adult body, doesn't mean they have an adult mentality and emotionality. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 09, 2011 11:28 PM GMT
    They do it because
    it is easier than actually confronting someone and hurt his feelings (groan),
    they relish the power they have over you,
    they might have several prospects and can't make up their mind
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    Oct 09, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    You should like totally remove them from your Facebook friend list. icon_biggrin.gif
  • tautomer

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    Oct 10, 2011 12:17 AM GMT
    Honestly, it doesn't bother me much anymore if someone chooses to ignore me after a while. To me, if they choose to ignore me then it was never meant to be in any capacity, it wasn't right, and well, that's that.
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    Oct 10, 2011 12:30 AM GMT
    Not everyone might be ready to hear the truth
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    Oct 10, 2011 12:32 AM GMT
    It's cowardice to me. For someone to judge whether or not you can handle being rejected is silly. I don't like to waste anyone's time so I will be blunt, and expect you to as well.

    Peace and Blessings'
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    Oct 10, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    I thought that kind of behavior was de rigueur in the gay community.
  • Import

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    Oct 10, 2011 1:01 AM GMT
    honestly, I can see where in certain cases it is necessary. .

    From my experience, the one time I had to just ignore someone was because after I kind of said "im busy all the time, im rarely available to hang out I dont want to pursue a friendship where I cant hold up my end of the deal"

    I was trying to be as polite as I could, as if its mostly my fault, as to tread lightly and not hurt his feelings. Last thing I wanna do is have a guy get his feelings hurt because I dont want to hang with him.

    well, said guy would not accept it. We would consistently flout obvious rejections and would ask to hang out regardless what I said.
    Eventually I just stopped responding and ignored the guy and a week later....

    he stopped, it worked! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 10, 2011 1:05 AM GMT
    Eh, to me it's easier to tell the guy, "Yo, I'm not into you. Stop texting me." I mean, if I have your AIM screenname, email, phone, address, and social security number...j/k
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    Oct 10, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    Where's the "He's Just Not That Into You" gif? Anyone?
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    Oct 10, 2011 2:06 AM GMT
    It's called being a gutless piece-of-shit syndrome. I assume these are romantic connections? I've had friends and the friendship just faded away and some where I let the friendship fade away but can't think of an instance where I ignored someone.

    The truth can hurt but so can being ignored so I wish people were just more upfront.
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    Oct 10, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    something similar happened to me a few weeks ago on pride weekend. i saw a buddy that i used to text alot so i started yelling his name, but it was a parade, so i thought he didn't hear me. so then i texted him, and i saw him look at his phone and then put it back in his pocket. icon_evil.gif


    he texted me back (hours later) and said he didn't hear me but was having bad signal problems... next time he said i should have ran over and hugged him, lol
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Oct 10, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    swimmer8671 saido we resort to the lets ignore him until he gets the hint kind of gesture. Which in my opinion is total and absolute Bull Shit.

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    I agree. Ignoring or just not communicating is, in my opinion, the cruelest way for someone to let you know they are just not that into you, because it's harder to get a sense of closure and move on. You are left with so many questions and confusions. A lot of people just don't have the balls to deliver the cold hard truth, partly because they don't want to hurt you, but also because confrontation is just hard for a lot of people, so they take the wimpy way out.
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    Oct 10, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    swimmer8671 saido we resort to the lets ignore him until he gets the hint kind of gesture. Which in my opinion is total and absolute Bull Shit.

    Please share your thoughts and opinions on the subject. icon_neutral.gif



    I agree. Ignoring or just not communicating is, in my opinion, the cruelest way for someone to let you know they are just not that into you, because it's harder to get a sense of closure and move on. You are left with so many questions and confusions. A lot of people just don't have the balls to deliver the cold hard truth, partly because they don't want to hurt you, but also because confrontation is just hard for a lot of people, so they take the wimpy way out.


    QFT

    I just move on now...
  • waccamatt

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    Oct 10, 2011 5:34 AM GMT
    It's a shitty thing to do and I've had it happen to me a number of times. I try and always chalk it up to..."glad I found out they were like this early on".
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    Oct 10, 2011 6:04 AM GMT
    kids pretending to be men
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    Oct 10, 2011 6:21 AM GMT
    Some guys are already flaky with women. As guys, what makes us think they'll treat us any better?