Long - Distance Relationships

  • chanton

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    Oct 09, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
    Hi everybody,
    Well.. straight up to the question. What do you guys think about long-distance relationships? I had one and it didn´t end up really good even though I tried all my best to keep up to it. Just seems like I´m not doing something right cause my heart keeps being smashed against the floor. Any help?
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    Oct 09, 2011 10:47 PM GMT
    I had a successful one that lasted for two years, they can work but I did see him at least once a week so I guess 'how long distance' is a factor.....
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 10, 2011 12:27 AM GMT
    chanton saidHi everybody,
    Well.. straight up to the question. What do you guys think about long-distance relationships? I had one and it didn´t end up really good even though I tried all my best to keep up to it. Just seems like I´m not doing something right cause my heart keeps being smashed against the floor. Any help?
    long distance relationships do not work. i would never put myself in those type of situations
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    Oct 10, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    They are really tough and require a lot of soul searching and honest conversation with your partner about expectations and the ultimate future of the relationship. It is possible to have one, and a good one, but it will require lots of difficult decisions and mutual sacrifice to make it work.
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    Oct 10, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    i make sure that i wont ever put myself in to that again. i get emotional everytime i miss t he person! good thing im not suicidal! :p
  • mikeylovesit

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    Oct 10, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    any of you buff boys that wanna try a long distance relationship with me can hit me up icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 10, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    Because of grad school, my partner and I were long distance for the first five years of our relationship. We visited as often as we could, we spent summers together, and we wrote letters. Real letters. We still have them.

    It takes a certain strength to maintain a long distance relationship, but it is possible. We've been together 16 years now. Is it better being together? Of course it is. But I firmly believe that we would not be who we are today and would not have attained the level of trust and strength we share were it not for those five years of long distance.
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    Oct 10, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    I met my man 3 months ago. He lives in Florida and I live in Nevada. So far, we have each traveled 2100 miles, twice, to see each other for about a week at a time. We talk on the phone at least 3 times a day, text constantly and when we are together, we have great passionate sex and enjoy each other's company fantastically. We are crazy about each other. We're two peas in a pod. However, I believe that our connection is very uncommon and extremely deep, on many different levels.

    It can work, but it depends on how strong your bond is.
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    Oct 10, 2011 4:08 AM GMT
    I used to say long distance only works for ugly people.

    Recently, I met someone.

    FACTS: We both connect with each other on a level neither one of us have had in a long time. He lives there. I live here.

    There's two solutions to conflict; Resolution and Management
    In the end the question is; Is the relationship worth it?

    My answer: If this isn't what it is supposed to feel like, then I can't wait until I feel the real thingicon_smile.gif

    I have faith it can work.

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    Oct 10, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
    There ok for what it's worth, but lonely at the end
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    Oct 10, 2011 6:11 AM GMT
    I think if one of the people is in the military of something, it might work as they have something to come back to.

    But just living in another town, state or country? Even if both are strictly monogamous, sounds unbearable...depending on personalities. Wouldn't work for clingy, touchy-feely people I suppose.

    I think important questions to ask are:
    -When are we finally going to be together physically?
    -Do we have an ultimatum for when we have to be together by?
    -Is Skype enough?
    -Who drops everything and moves finally?
    -If it doesn't work out, will there be resentment for one person sacrificing their old life?

    Kudos to those who say it works and they're in one, good luckicon_biggrin.gif
  • Scorpio1113

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    Oct 10, 2011 6:03 PM GMT
    A lot of people are quick to say 'long relationships never work.' But look at your friends and past relationships where distance was not a problem. And how did those turn out?

    Long distance relationships require patience, communication, and trust icon_smile.gif

    My boyfriend and I are in somewhat of a long distance relationship, but we have it easy compared to those across states! Our challenges involve conflicting schedules and lack of transportation. But we've made it work thus far, and pretty soon we won't have to worry about the challenges listed above...though eliminating the distance between us will give us new conflicts as all relationships face icon_eek.gif

    It is tough not being able to be with each other when we want. I have award winning patience, my boyfriend does not. So it is a littler harder on him, I think, but the effort on both our halves has been [recently] noted.

    I just wouldn't expect much from a LDR unless both plan on putting the time/energy in it and hopefully know that one day the relationship could either be terminated or brought closer together...